Need your advice please ladies...
Been seeing this bloke for a couple of months. He's 55 so not a child! Last week he lost his job. He works in finance, successful career behind him. Divorced with two teenagers, one lives with him. Appears to get on ok with the ex.
I had noticed a couple of times he'd been a bit 'tetchy' about impending job loss which was brought about, so he told me, by a new office manager he'd crossed swords with. She had accused him of 'being aggressive' which he appeared to be really genuinely shocked & surprised by. Fast forward to this week, he had a meeting with his boss at which it turned out that one of his colleagues who he had considered a friend, had backed up her version of events.
I haven't seen him since Monday but obviously we have kept in regular contact & I have been really supportive & tried to be as helpful/understanding as I can.
This morning he messages me to say he was feeling down. I'm at work so send him a big virtual hug & offer to meet him for lunch.
Ten minutes later I get a random message which says ' I want xxx (colleague) sorted out'
I replied 'what do you mean by that?'
What followed has utterly astonished me. A tirade of aggressive texts, saying how he wants to basically flatten this bloke, how unsupportive I am, don't understand, am passive (because I said violence is not the answer) and eventually finished off with 'ok ta ta then have a nice life with your cats'
WTAF??
How can someone intelligent & with an apparently successful career and two kids etc go from appearing quite normal to behaving like a five year-old?
He has not apologised- in fact this evening he's carried on ranting because I've been 'ignoring' him this afternoon.
Nope, just at work & not putting up with his shit. He doesn't seem to have any comprehension that his messages were utterly OTT and even slightly sinister.
I'm flabbergasted. Every single bloke I've met in the past ten tears ends up with either more baggage than Gatwick Airport or, as appears here, is a complete psycho.
Assume the general consensus here will be that I bin him fast....?
I'm so fed up as yet another one bites the dust.