This is a bit of a weird one, but it's something pretty minor that happened to me 7 or 8 years ago and is mostly forgotten except every six months or so it unexpectedly comes to mind and doesn't sit well with me. It's not something I want associated with my normal user name, so am just using an old throw away one.
I was in a long distance relationship with a guy I had been friends with for a long time, we'd moved apart, then got back in touch and things really hit off. I went to stay with him for a couple of weeks, then he came to stay with me, then me to him etc. It wasn't a long relationship, but it felt fairly intense at the time as we were talking every day/every other day.
Then he was due to come stay with me; I'd just moved house and was going through some hard times at work. He'd been a bit quiet, but I had thought it was me not having a phone line or internet for a week or so due to the move. His visit was delayed a couple of days due to some family stuff, but then he was there. I was probably too naive to realise that he hadn't just left his stuff in the car to get it later, but he actually wasn't planning on staying as planned.
We had sex twice, hung out and did things, then he dropped the old 'I think we should call it a day and just be friends.' I, a bit blindsided, was all fawning and 'yes, sure let's stay friends'.
Of course we didn't. I haven't heard from him since, esp as I dropped him from my social media a few months after we broke up and I realised that the friends thing was bullshit.
Obviously at the time of the sex I was ready, willing, and clearly consented, however had I known that he was planning to dump me that afternoon I almost certainly wouldn't have consented to a last shag.
I'm not trying to make myself out to be a victim of some gaslighting sexual predator, I'm just trying to work out in my head how much of an utter shitbag this guy was. Or is it fairly standard to withhold the truth in order to get your end away before dumping someone?