I just want an objective opinion. I have been living with dp since just before ds was born. It's his house, mine is let out. We have three floors the first two nice the bottom one was let out and is a bit of a shambles. No garden. DS is now approaching two and I am keen to move so that we have a little bit of outside space. DP is scared of change and very mean with money and I'd put the idea on back burner I have friends with gardens, then there's park etc, it didn't seem too bad. On Saturday he pointed out an absolutely fab house in the paper and said it seemed a good idea, I was gobsmacked and said I'd phone for an appointment, which he agreed to. He then went to pick up his 14 year old son who stays with us at weekends (he's here for a week now as its summer hols). His son called twice on his behalf on the way back, once to ask what we wanted from shop second time to say did we want to go to beach and I said we had this appointmetn at 3.30. To be fair I was a bit off hand cos ds was throwing a tantrum and would not go upstairs and I was weighed down with shopping myself (the boring stuff that he would not thiknt to buy like bleach). When dp got back ds and I wwere having lunch, he went absolutely mad, firstly taht I had shopped and nto told him ad he had bought fruit as well, then he said what was for lunch then and when I said what woudl you like he said dont worry I'll do it and started throwing things around the kitchen. He made lunch for son and him and said by the way cancel the appointment I've decided its not a good idea. I put ds down for rest and when he got up I just took him out to get away I gave dp the number and told him to cancle the appt himslef. I don't think he did though, we just didn't turn up (which I hate). Since then I have been sleeping downstairs and we are not speakign at all, DP is doing everything for his son (for the first time ever) but ds and I are pariahs, totally ignored and I don't know where its all going to end. I dont care about the house, of course I would like to live somewhere thats a family home but the most important thing to me is that everyone in the house is happy and there is equality and respect. Am I wrong to respond like this to his temper tantrum? I am normally a lot more conciliatory but this time I felt it was the last straw. I'm on the verge of giving my tenant ntoice and moving out.