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OW who have ended it - hand hold?

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brightegg · 01/03/2018 20:23

I'm trying to emotionally walk away from a man I have become involved with. He's married, I'm recently divorced. His wife is non the wiser.

We've slept together a few times. I know it's wrong. And I would hate for his wife to find out and be hurt and me be somewhat responsible. He doesn't love me, not really, but I'm okay with that. I'm not in love with him ( I don't think). But I'm in love with the way he makes me feel, the attention and the physical benefits.

However I do find myself thinking about him too much and wanting more of him than I can have.

I want it to stop and I'm pretty sure I won't let it happen again. But it feels like shit and I just want more.

If you've been the OW and walked away - please tell me your positive stories of how it all worked out well and you got over it.

(And I can't go NC but don't want to explain why - I just have to be 'strong').

Any positive stories / encouragement would be very much appreciated.

OP posts:
RainyApril · 11/03/2018 12:35

Eena, op posted for support yes, but to do something laughably easy to achieve : stop shagging a mm.

It really is very hard to take seriously after reading any one of hundreds of heartbreaking stories of women in relationships with abusive and/or unfaithful men. Those women truly are in need of support, through no fault of their own.

Support to stop doing something cruel and immoral? It's hard to stomach. What they usually mean is 'I wish it was his wife hurting instead of me'.

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