I just made a holy show of myself and feel oddly relieved now.

[JesusTapdancingChrist]

I messaged my ex asking if we could meet and got told in no uncertain terms that he wasn't interested and that I need to move on .

He's right. I do. And now that I've had a good old cry, I feel oddly at peace. I've spent months hoping he'd get in touch, convinced that he was still in love with me as well. Now I know 100% that he isn't, any uncertainty is gone and I have no choice but to put him behind me and move on. That feels almost like a positive right now.

The worst thing? I did this after he broke up with me in the first place by ghosting me. Where the hell is my self-respect .

A few months after he disappeared I started online dating and while it was fun to get dressed up and meet new people I knew that deep down I wasn't ready to be intimate with someone else. Knocked it on the head and have been feeling very lonely for the last few months (hence the bad, bad choices).

So that's that. I'm still not interested in dating but am going to focus on myself and my future now.

Manly pats on the back welcome.

So pleased for you. Gives many of us hope.

Thank you Beaver and Sally 😊.

We're still spending every free second we have together. He's meeting my parents next week 😮 (they live in a different country and are visiting). We've even tentatively begun discussing introductions re: our DC (not going to happen anytime soon but we're very much heading in that direction). My cheeks literally hurt from laughing at the end of every date. We are just so compatible and being with him is the easiest and most natural thing in the world.

To anyone struggling with online dating: hang in there. If it can happen to this cynical, super-fussy, 'never sends an opening message' old trout, it can happen to anyone 🤣.

Have nc'd but changed back to come and say that things are still going amazingly ridiculously well 😄.

DCs have all met each other and are getting on brilliantly (I know it's early by MN norms but it has all been based around the DCs cues and has happened very organically).

We are spending every free minute we get together. I'm happier and emotionally healthier than I have been in years. I know it sounds ridiculous but without doing anything, he is making me the best version of myself.

I'm sat in tonight waiting for him to get back from an event and missing him terribly .

I hope anyone else who is struggling with getting over a previous relationship can read this thread and realise that wonderful things can happen when you least expect them to.

What a lovely, lovely thread! I’m so happy for you, you truly deserve this happiness

This was a wonderful thread to come upon! Makes me feel really happy and squishy inside...

Wishing you every happiness

Thanks both 🤣

Have just read the whole thread again and it's a bit of a rollercoaster! Can't believe where I am now compared to 6 months ago.

He's challenged so many of my beliefs about myself e.g. I've always been totally anti-marriage but now catch myself imagining what our wedding would be like 😱. Madness.

Just popping back to give a vom-inducing update.

Still absolutely and completely loved up with DP ☺️. Can honestly say I can't ever remember feeling this happy. It's just the easiest and most fulfilling relationship I've ever been in. He makes me roar with laughter every single day. He's so utterly supportive and loving and is 100% there for me. No silly games, no sulking, no misunderstanding each other - if we have any kind of issue at all we talk it out and move forwards. It's the healthiest and most nurturing relationship I've ever been in. He's amazing with my DC and they absolutely adore him. His DC are lovely and we have all spent lots of time together letting them get to know each other.

Last night we drank too much wine, listened to music, talked utter rubbish and just had the loveliest night. Couldn't have been more of a contrast to last NYE.

Obviously with us both having DC we are going to be sensible but we have been talking about the future and how we see things going and have both admitted we want to get married 😮.

Just wanted to share a bit of love at the beginning of 2019. Happy New Year everyone 🍾🎉🎇.

What a fantastic 🎢 of a thread 💞

Oh I love this thread 💓

Happy new year Jesus!

Love this :)

Love your bedroom! And well done. A nice positive start to the year!

Omg! I posted without reading to the end. What a great thread. So happy for you. Happy new year!

I do love reading threads with a happy ending. Gives cynics like me a glimmer of hope. Fantastic news and glad it’s going so well.

Aw you’ve given a very fed up, lonely single Mum so hope for the new year tonight! Absolutely delighted for you OP. What a wonderful thread!!! X