Hi there
I have been liaising with a few friends this week and having a laugh about their new so called dating fiasco's and how they have just started using dating apps and the likes as one in particular has just recently become single. she is on Tinder and an app called Bumble which apparently lets the females choose the men first of all for contact.
She asked me to pop over today to see me, very last minute as she had something urgently to tell me, which is not like her as she works long hours and asked me to meet her in her lunch hour.
She sat me down and said, I have something to show you, is this not your partner?
Whilst going through the apps he was there, lo and behold and was on recently too, what was interesting was he hadn't recognised her, perhaps she wasnt in his age range. I am feeling sick to the stomach. We have been together 5 years, talking about a child and getting married next year too. We are booking holidays for this year and lately, I have noticed he never really contacts me during the daytime anymore whilst at work, this may explain his behaviour. I have felt more lonely too.
He is going away in a few weeks time with the boys, I mentioned I would really miss him and he said to me, well don't do anything silly like go on any dating sites whilst I am away will you.....or meet anyone new, and lo and behold he is on a site. All the photos are recent of him from our holidays from last year and this year too. .I have just asked my other friend who is on the same app and yes its definitely him.
What is shocking me the most is we are planning on so many things together, like holidays, children, and just bought a beautiful house together as well as have a lovely life. We had a tough year last year with my health and ok we were not as close per say for about 4 - 6 months which when arguing he has brought up saying it wasnt an issue but then states it was, but now I am back to normal and health is great... and I still look, good size 8, feel good, look better than I have ever done and now this? I thought we were getting things straight?
My friends cant believe it as he always says he is not one for cheating, not one for doing anything bad, not one for disloyalty.
I need to sit him down tonight but so frightened too....Has anyone had this happen before with their partners at all and what was the outcome or did you get one?
I feel pretty much like I'm not attractive anymore to him or he doesnt find me sexy and he is looking for something more exciting??
feel so down and upset but I am grateful for my friend showing me, I would never have known otherwise...never!