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Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step

999 replies

RunsforCake14 · 21/02/2018 20:14

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread
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ignoringthechoc · 24/02/2018 13:48

It is early but I think you will win Vet...yuck!

Kinunir · 24/02/2018 13:49

WinkWink @ ignoring

CoverMeLads · 24/02/2018 13:51

Oh God, Vet, just when I thought I couldn’t feel any worse 🤢

Actually I feel better as it wasn’t me getting that message.

I’m for a screenshot Grin

sparklyDMs · 24/02/2018 14:12

Vet - I reckon that's definitely wtf message of the day! Is this Pof? I'm only on Tinder and everyone I've spoken to in the last few months has been incredibly polite - must be the way I swipe!

I misinterpreted the 'dating the thread' rule too - I thought it was spending all your time on here and not on dates!

Do we need some kind of password for irons we may suspect are on the thread just to avoid breaking the rule?

CoverMeLads · 24/02/2018 14:15

Tech I’ve coughed so much my intercostal muscles are killing now. And you know when your skin is so sensitive the duvet hurts?

Maybe we can start up a Dating Thread Sick Bay. Quarantined, obvs, but where the able-bodied can leave us Vitamin C (thanks Kin) and soup at the door. And Dave Gahan can be my nurse 👍🏻

ValMc1 · 24/02/2018 14:39

Vet yuck - hope the sickies feel better soon - Kin - hope things go well tonight whatever you do - I'm hitting the road to enjoy steak and red wine - enjoy your Saturday everyone

Kinunir · 24/02/2018 14:47

Enjoy yours Val hope the steak is deeply satisfying.

Not heard from Miss Teacher at all today so guess I have no choice to make. No-one on POF I want to message, nothing doing on Tinder. I’d forgotten how hard OLD can be!

VetOnCall · 24/02/2018 14:57

Ta dah!

*Details have been blanked to protect the perverted.

Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step
Pavonia · 24/02/2018 14:58

Kin you've only been back on POF a day, surely there must be someone worth messaging?! What are you looking for?

RaininSummer · 24/02/2018 14:58

Here is a question for you experts. As a mid fifties woman, reentering the dating game will likely be terrifying and surreal anyway, but do you think I would stand any chance as I would male it clear that I am not really wanting a sexual side to things. Previously I was def all about the cock, ahem, but nowadays I wouldn't care which sex my life companion was as I dont plan to shag them although I guess you never can tell for sure. Prob should have namechanged here but couldnt be bothered. May have to spend next thirty years with lodges and dogs but that isnt too bad either.

esk1mo · 24/02/2018 15:00

anyone else going on a date today? Smile

im sat outside a cafe waiting for MrForeign, its a lovely but very cold day. am i still supposed to be nervous on the 3rd date? Blush

Kinunir · 24/02/2018 15:00

Pav a profile with some content, an ability to hold a conversation and at least some sense of humour would be a start.

Pavonia · 24/02/2018 15:03

Rain to be honest I don't think there would be many takers, but no harm in trying. Perhaps you would be better off just extending your social circle?

Smeaton · 24/02/2018 15:05

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Pavonia · 24/02/2018 15:05

Kin maybe don't expect too much from the profile as some people are going to be reserved online and may express themselves better in person. If there is nothing negative about the profile then give them a chance?

Kinunir · 24/02/2018 15:07

Rain sounds like you need to find someone who is asexual or suffering with ED. Either way, please, please be upfront about the no sex thing with anyone you meet so they can make an informed choice

Smeaton · 24/02/2018 15:22

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RaininSummer · 24/02/2018 15:32

Thanks for your insights. It is a tall order and not a common viewpoint I know. After forty years of it I really cant be bothered any more. Not sure about blokes with ED for reason mentioned above.

CoverMeLads · 24/02/2018 15:44

Vet I reckon that wasn’t a “mistake” at all you know. Ew. Have you blocked????

The door went a while ago: I was swearing all over the place but glad I answered: a mate had sent me some Berocca via Amazon. I have the best friends 😍

Feeling a bit more human, so will brew another megapost. Still CBA with Match though. This doesn’t bode well for next week, really does it?

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 24/02/2018 15:45

To summarise - I had a great first date with Mr Dickhead who then asked straightaway for another . I said yes and we arranged it . I checked with him the day before that we were still on and he said he had to reschedule due to a family commitment but could do another time . I gave him the option of cancelling at the time but he offered me several days - we agreed a day but not a time or place. Since then he has gone quiet other than one brief conversation when this date was not mentioned. The day is looming - what do I do ? Ignore him like the dickhead that he seems to be OR send a message -to make him squirm- to see what is happening and then say he didn't have to be such a dick ? ( Not sure if my strikethrough is going to happen ) Mind you if someone is such a dickhead then they are not going to care , are they ? Why are people just not upfront and act like an adult ?

CoverMeLads · 24/02/2018 15:57

Bloody I’m not exactly being chatty/ keen with my irons, but I’ve got the days and times of all 3 agreed and just 1 venue to sort and there’s a few messages a day pinging back and forth.

To me this just sounds half arsed, and I know I’d not bother contacting him again. Notch it up to his being one of the (depressingly prevalent) crappo ones?

Pogmella · 24/02/2018 15:59

What is ED? I would have assumed eating disorder but that doesn't quite fit the context?

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 24/02/2018 16:00

Thank you Cover Yes I think he's just in for the kicks of feeling he can pull !

Lovemusic33 · 24/02/2018 16:04

Joining cover and tech on the sick bench/sofa I have the worst tooth ache and can’t be bothered to talk to any irons let alone consider a date. Looks like I’m stuck until I can get to the dentist hopefully Monday to get this tooth out Sad. Led on the sofa in pain.

RaininSummer · 24/02/2018 16:07

I know this one, erectile disfunction hth

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