Did you get married/pregnant early on in your relationship?

[HatchetFace]

I'm trying to figure out if I'm being a naive idiot or if this can actually work out...!

I've been with my boyfriend less than 6 months but we both feel like this is 100% it. Very in love and best friends. Due to age (30) and a genetic condition we're going to need to crack on with baby making sooner rather than later. When we start trying we'll probably only have been together a year. Both want to get married at some point too. We already know each other very well as we dated many years ago when we were basically kids, but have been friends ever since. I trust him completely and we have similar values.

I wasn't sure about the whole 'when you know you just know' thing before I got back with him but now it just seems so obvious. Friends think I'm going way too quickly as they've been with partners 8+ years before marriage.

Is it crazy to rush into things? Did it work out for you?

We were married 5 months after we met and still together and happy 7 years on!

We got married 51 weeks after meeting. That was 7 years ago - still very happy together. We just knew.

My oh and I got pregnant after 8 months due to us worrying about getting too old. Mind you, we were 40 not 30! Youre young! There are no guarantees in life. Sometimes I think you have to go with your gut xxx good luck

Do you live together? If not I'd suggest doing that first as a compatibility test.

I knew I'd met my husband within a few weeks of meeting him, 14 years ago. We got married after 6 years but if we'd got married 6 months in I assume we'd still be together.

Well slightly different but I met DH when I was 18. After a year together, I ended the relationship but found out I was pregnant so we got back together. 8 years later we are married with two dc

I was with my husband for about a year before we got engaged. We go married the following year (due to availability of venue, would have done it sooner), married for nearly 7 years now. I do believe when you know, you know. We'd both been with other people for 6+ years but got married quite quickly to each other.

Now DH moved in after three days of us getting together and I was pregnant within two months (sadly miscarried but fell pregnant again almost instantly). We have now been together 14 years and married for 3 of them. If any of our 4dcs did the same I'm sure i would be worried but it certainly worked for us.

Worked for me. DC2 on the way and we've not even been together 3 years yet.

I went into it with my eyes open though that if it didn't work out I was prepared to be a single parent. I was in my 30s ad felt it was now or never to start having children. We established on our second date that he felt the same.

I wasn't under any illusion that there wasn't a high risk of it not working out. Thankfully it appears to be so far. We have had the odd bump along the way but nothing that isn't easily resolved.

I think it helped that we had none of the usual expectations of each other that are laid down over many years in a longer relationship and then have to be subsequently renegotiated when children come along.

We're moving in together shortly but he's already spending lots and lots of time here, splitting duties and housework etc.

Unfortunately I'm going to need to have my ovaries removed around age 40 so I can't leave it too late.

By the responses so far it sounds like trusting your gut can work out pretty well! It just feels very uncomplicated in a way previous relationships never have. Also I feel like if it ever did go wrong that he'd still be a great dad, and respectful to me.

Got married 5 years after we met, had a baby 5 years later and a second one 5 years after that. We are married 20 years now. My friend got pregnant 3 months after meeting her now dh, they are still together 25 years on. I don't think anyone can tell what's in the future.

Oh and I didn't "know", in fact I spent my honeymoon thinking: what have I done?! I'm glad now I just went with the flow and didn't run away

Pregnant after 9 months
Moved in together when DD was born(2008)
Engaged same year:
Married in 2015
Had DS 2016

Been together 12 years this year

I bought a house with ex-P after we'd been together for less than six months. It felt right, I thought this was "it", just knew it. We were incredibly happy. Knew within a year after that that I'd made a mistake: we weren't compatible in our view of domestic stuff, he turned out to be jealous and controlling, he cheated several times. We limped on for a few more years and separated in 2015. He's a decent enough guy, but we didn't make each other happy at all and had we known each other longer and found out more about each other we wouldn't have bought that house.

You'll hear as many positive stories as negative ones. Whirlwind relationships can stand the test of time; plenty of people who marry and have babies after years together divorce a few years after. In your case, it's less of a whirlwind as you say you've known him for a long time so the likelihood is less that he'll turn out to be somebody completely different to his honeymoon period persona.

We started trying for a baby after 6 months (we moved in almost straight after getting togrther).

Married within eight months of meeting....30years ago, still love the old fart.
We were SO lucky, stupid, but lucky

We’ve been together 4 years now and married 6 months.

Comtesse Absolutely, I had that with my ex. All started to go tits up about 6 months in but I think if it'd really been honest with myself I would have seen the red flags. Thankfully didn't make any real commitments but we moved in together after a year and a half and I already knew it was doomed, wasn't fun trying to sort out who had to leave etc when we broke up.

I know my boyfriend's bad qualities already thankfully cos I've seen them over the past 7 years! I already know in 10 years time I'll be gritting my teeth and passive aggressively muttering 'will you pick up your towel off the bloody floor'

So many of these are so romantic ❤️

Yes, pregnant and engaged after 9 months, very happy 14 years on. My parents did the same and have been together nearly 50 years. And this evening I have been talking to a friend who has had a baby with his gf after 6 years together and as soon as their baby arrived it started to go wrong

Sometimes you do just know, and it's not as if time is any guarantee.

Married a year to the day after we met. Still going strong 12 years later.

We waited 2 years to get married.
But, DH and I went on our 1st date and he stayed the night and never went home again!
Been together 21 years.

DH and I were together when we were in school. Separated after 2.5 years, lost touch then got back together 15 years later. Started TTC within a month. Was pregnant straight away! 8 years on we're married with one DC together (and both have older DC from previous relationships). We don't regret a thing!

Dh and I were friends (with a few benefits) for around 18 months before we decided to give hair a proper go even tho he was practically living with me already. 10months later I was pregnant (with my no3) and 9 months after baby was born we were married.
Ok we're only coming up 2years married not as great as some stories here.......yet.......well get there.

Go for it!!

We got married 10 months after we met and we were living miles apart. I got pregnant 6m later. 13 years and going strong. We were both of the opinion that when you know you just know.

My anxiety normally makes me second guess myself on everything but with this I've just been like oh yeah...it's happening. No fear. Love how ballsy you've all been that you just went for it!

Well let's see I already wanted out and then got pregnant so different story (biggest mistake of my life) I know a similar case when he got her pregnant 3 months into their relationship and now 11 years later they're going through a very bitter divorce.