Valentines gift or ideas for 50 year old woman in new relationship? Please help a useless bloke!

[locrog]

I don't like Valentine's as it is priced up hyped up and contrived. I prefer to be spontaneous and give when I am confident my partner would like the gift and it is unexpected ideally.

I have known my 50 year old date, for a year socially and we got on very well on the few dates we have had. She has a reasonable job and is financially secure in a nice neighbourhood. I know she likes flowers and is probably a bit of a romantic.

Red roses seem to denote love and that is a tadge too soon? Or would that be just seen as a fun thing to send on Valentine's? Or flowers that are not roses that are quality but small? And or small box of expensive chocs, and/or box or say prosseco. My aim is to get it right with not OTT but a nice gift/gesture she would like. No budget as such just appropriate for the early stage in our dating/relationship.

Any ideas please would be welcomed? Bonus but not necessary you send a weblink if you see something appropriate online and I'll check it out.

Many thanks
Loc

I hate Lush. I’d be quite happy with flowers or chocolates, particularly if the man made the card or did something slightly quirky. I would be put off by too much effort if its early days though or anything showy.

Personally I don’t like he dog idea - it strikes me as pointless and a waste of money. But I’m not her. If you’re sure she will like it though go for it.

But definitely not LUSH! I also hate it!! And it is for 10 year olds!

OMG, I thought it was just me. I hate LUSH too. Horrible, overpowering, stinky products, for hipsters and millenials who think they're superior coz they shop in frikkin' LUSH!

How do they even stay OPEN? We have 3 within 20 miles, and they are always EMPTY!

Hate Lush too. Gives me such a headache if I ever have to go into one of the shops

Bath bombs from lush would be the death knell for me.

It's the sort of gift a 12 year old girl would buy her friend.

Decent sex.

Have to admit I'd be pretty bemused if a grown man gave me something from Lush! Or indeed any perfume/toiletry article - without having taken the trouble to understand that I'm old enough to already know what I like. I don't wear Chanel perfume; I would not appreciate the lack of investigation.

And if a man gave me a voucher for a facial.

I think the safest bet is to just go with some good quality flowers from a florist or somewhere like Bloom & Wild, and then some Hotel Chocolat chocs and a nice card. I would love a scented candle whereas others here are saying they wouldn’t, and others would like Lush stuff and I would hate that so I think these little extra things are too risky when you don’t know her well enough yet

never had a facial im my life, i wouldn't understand that 'gift' so I agree with grauch there. If anybody wants to give me a bottle of cristalle though I'd be delighted never happened but then I love that. I think chanel number 5 is very boring. Is that still considered a great classic?

Nice bunch of flowers from a proper flower shop (not just roses, they don't have any scent and rarely open and are a waste of cash. You can get a HUGE beautiful bunch for the price of a few sad overpriced roses) and a small box of posh chocs and you can't go wrong.

And love the idea of a small valentines present for her dog. Try and get something nice and ideal for the size of She will really appreciate that you thought of her furry friend. Mr BC did that for me for my huge hound when we 1st started going out, bless him.

Don't get bath products until you get to know her better, we girls can be fussy about bathing products. :)

Re: the dog treats. Can you cook?? If so you could make her fluffy friend some proper dog treats! I've done this for an xmas gift for MrBC's mums pugs and she cried because of the thought behind it.

Some ideas here or google home made dog treats

dog-milk.com/dog-i-y-14-homemade-dog-treat-recipes-for-valentines-day/

I'd love expensive chocolates and fizz. I'm not into flowers but would still appreciate the gesture.

For dog treats get dehydrated meats.

I think you sound really nice and tbh it will be clear you’ve thought about it and properly tried and that will be the clincher.

Can you cook? Cooking for someone is always good and a bit more intimate.

If you don't really know her that well, and think you said previous 'dates' have only been in loud music places where you didn't get much chance to talk? Is this the first proper date then? Have you two kissed or had any sort of physical intimacy yet?
If not, then she may not be thinking of this as a 'date' as such. Therefore it's really really important not to scare her away with your projections of how this will go.
So flowers, chocolates and the dog treats would be way too much. If she only mentioned the dog thing in passing then it reveals you overthinking the dog thing too much. That is, you taking too much of an interest in an incidental detail she happened to mention. If you two haven't kissed yet then I wouldn't even buy her a Valentine's card, I would buy one small flower like a single rose.

poster sadie9 - Yes, we have kissed and been a little intimate on a two (3 by then) dates and she wanted me to meet her dog!

Thank you Nosey