Valentines gift or ideas for 50 year old woman in new relationship? Please help a useless bloke!

[locrog]

I don't like Valentine's as it is priced up hyped up and contrived. I prefer to be spontaneous and give when I am confident my partner would like the gift and it is unexpected ideally.

I have known my 50 year old date, for a year socially and we got on very well on the few dates we have had. She has a reasonable job and is financially secure in a nice neighbourhood. I know she likes flowers and is probably a bit of a romantic.

Red roses seem to denote love and that is a tadge too soon? Or would that be just seen as a fun thing to send on Valentine's? Or flowers that are not roses that are quality but small? And or small box of expensive chocs, and/or box or say prosseco. My aim is to get it right with not OTT but a nice gift/gesture she would like. No budget as such just appropriate for the early stage in our dating/relationship.

Any ideas please would be welcomed? Bonus but not necessary you send a weblink if you see something appropriate online and I'll check it out.

Many thanks
Loc

I think a Valentine present should be romantic and a dash of luxury/indulgence, so I'd say perfume from one of the classic names, perhaps Dior.

If you were going to stay with flowers, perhaps orchids or an orchid/rose mix. Chocolate...avoid Cadburys, try Godiva or Prestat instead. Champagne rather than prosecco.

Or perhaps best of all the ingredients for a cosy supper for two, nice duck pate, brioche to toast and a bottle of Sauternes?

If I weren't single and indifferent to Valentine's Day, I would appreciate something from here.
In fact, I'm tempted to buy myself the tea and book club subscription.

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Im 60 and been seeing a man for about 5 months so far too early for hearts and flowers. He is coming to mine to cook a meal for me. I have got him a wooden plaque saying Valentines Day 2018 (bit tacky but it might be the first of many ?) Still agonising over a card...

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I’d say definitely go with flowers. But good quality sesonal flowers, have a look at local florists not supermarkets. Do you know her favourite colour or flower? If so ask to include that and don’t do red roses, far too cliched.
Depending on how much you want to spend maybe some good quality chocolates too or even just a bar of her favourite. I find little touches like, including favourite colours/flowers or a bar of favourite chocolate or sweets, far more romantic than grand gestures.

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I think these are nice for valentines. Not too Rosie

Then something personal to her. Like a book if she reads.

Gosh, it’s almost like we’re all individuals here!

I’d not be impressed with expensive chocolates, I’d rather have a massive box of ferrero rocher (my favourites). I love flowers but not roses so a bunch of say, tulips would be nicer for me. I’d also love a plant.
She’s not a stranger to you, you must have some idea what she may like?

Do not go to card factory!
Do not get cheap chocolate like dairy milk etc.
Do not get any of the valentines styled flowers from supermarkets.

I'd appreciate a nice gentle card, nothing overly humorous or trying too hard.
I like flowers.
I would love quality chocolates.

These are beautiful flowers

Op what does she drink when you go out? I think a little hand tied bouquet, if you have an idea of her favourite colours even better and maybe a bottle of whatever. Don't over think it you seem to have the right ideas, a gesture, not ott etc. Same with the card, no to my girlfriend etc. Probably best to stick to no words or relationship label on front.

Lovely bath bombs from Lush.

And a lovely candle.

And a book.

Perfect 😍

In the very early stages of dating I think is better to go for cheesy but high quality (flowers, chocs) than something more idiosyncratic. In all seriousness, if a guy I’d just started dating gave me a plant, a book (anything other than something that had been previously discussed AND I’d said I really wanted it but couldn’t afford to buy it right now) or event tickets I’d feel a bit unsexy tbh. Those things are fine for an established relationship, as are they in the early stages when you know the person would like them. But if you have no particular reason for thinking that, stick to the classics - but go for extremely good quality. That’s my advice.
(And not booze. It just looks like the message is “let’s get drunk and shag”. Again, save it for when you know them better.)

The idea of something for her dog is lovely. The way to a mans heart may be through his stomach but we Shihtzu ladies love our dogs.

Good quality flowers are always nice...good luck

And not red roses, unless you can get the proper full-bloom summer ones (unlikely). Not those supermarket-y little scentless ones. They make me sad, they are so mass produced and soulless.
Full-bloom cream or pink roses, peonies etc are so much nicer.

I am of your woman's demographic. My fancy would be tickled by a decent bunch of mixed flowers, colourful with foliage, rather than just roses. I'd also love decent perfume, a theatre ticket (opera/play not west-end cliché show) or decent restaurant. No chocolates, I can buy them myself any day thanks, no scarves, no Pandora, no statement costume jewellery.

And yes dog present is cute ! But not chocolate because poisonous as a previous poster said. Get a special box of dog treats instead, I’m sure some pet shops must do them.

Will stop posting now !! good luck !

This is sweet!

Scented candles always go down very well with a lot of women. Maybe something rose scented seeing as it’s Vday? A nice bouquet of flowers too and a nice message in a card.

I'm not far behind her and what i'd like is somebody to be nice to me every day, or be extra imaginative spontaneously. Not on 14/2

Jemima Goldsmith said there was nothing so offensively impersonal as a scented candle I kind of agree.

id love a plant personally, a peony bush because they're such beautiful flowers!

call to a florist, give them a budget and design a bouquet with them, in person. they're likely to be delighted to do something creative and not typically valentines

ach! buying something for her dog is so cute! I have a heart of stone here now but that brought a tear to my glass eye! ha ha

The dog gift is definitely a good idea. I love when my boyfriend shows up with a random gift for my cat now and again. Always makes me smile

I’d buy a hand tied bouquet of one type of flowers with greenery - always look lovely and stylish and usually means you get a bit more for your money.

Lovely flowers and a hand-made card. Wouldn't bother with the dog thing, though (and I love them...)