This anxiety is killing me!

[MozzchopsThirty]

So before Xmas I was hooked on by a lovebomber
It lasted 4 weeks and totally shook my confidence

I met a guy in January OLD, we've had 4 dates, had great sex, everything fine, then we had a few cross words about sex last night and he said he was annoyed and refused to answer my phonecall to explain

And today he hasn't messaged once

I feel sick, I've barely eaten, I'm so anxious that it's happening all over again

Please be kind, I'm feeling so low

Sorry Lettuce, I didn't realise you'd been out with him too. Or are you talking about your experience? Which is just as relevant or otherwise as mine. Give over.

LesisMiserable

No it's based on lots of experience by other OLD'S....perhaps you think the behaviour of the man in this scenario is okay? Which says alot....

It says I know half a story the same as you and everyone else, that I'm not instantly reactionary and that I use a rational non-holier than thou approach in life and did on OLD and now I'm happily married. So. All good this end. Lots of women have bad old experiences. Lots have beltingly ace ones. But your dont post the good ones on relationships for advice, usually, do you.

LesisMiserable

You do realise you're very much in the minority of OLD outcomes don't you?? No one has been holier than thou either, just called out red flag behaviour.

I've been for a good run tonight and feel much better

Who knows how I'll feel tomorrow but I'll take each day as it comes

You'll be ace Mosschops 😊 must say I'm a bit intrigued about the sex thing you forgot 😂

This has happened to me a few times OP (the last 4 men I've dated to be precise), I've had to give up dating all together and just accept being single as I can't stand the constant head fuckery of it all.

Thanks
I can't bring myself to post what it was but it was no big deal and maybe it threw up something for him that he's not comfortable with who knows 🤷🏼‍♀️
I've been on a resilience course today which has been massively helpful in sorting out my head fuckery
I totally know what you're feeling, it's painful and draining and really with all that's good in my life I don't feel I have time for all that negativity

Why does this keep happening?

I would guess because you're showing your cards too early. Keep a bit of mystery about yourself, don't always be available to answer texts or whatever immediately. I don't mean play games, just takes things slower, back off a bit....Let them do some of the work.

why does this keep happening

Because unfortunately you’ve run into a few wankers in a row. You’re awesome, don’t go changing yourself for them.

I don't think I'm showing my cards too early
I make it very clear that I'm an independent woman with a great career
My dcs are lovely, I don't want anymore
There's nothing I need really so am not projecting any desperation of needing a man

But I would like one

So I just went back on the dating app
Surprise surprise he's online, despite being too busy to talk to me for most of the 4 weeks we were dating

Ive deleted the app
I've deleted his number

I'm done 🖕🏻 middle fingers up, put em hands high, wave it in his face, tell him boy bye bye 👋🏼

MozzchopsThirty

Fair enough I was just guessing the maybes. I met my DP on POF, been together 7yrs now but there was a few arseholes to get through before I met him.

I think he sounds unpleasant, better to find out quickly.

E.L. James — 'You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince'

...but that doesn't mean you have to go through the whole pond

I recognise your name and you must try and stop dating. Take this year out. It's not healthy to agonise over new boyfriends like this and probably not healthy to tell your kids all about it too - although I realise they're older

The right person will come along and when they do, you won't have all this constant over analysing

love that

My dd is 21 and we share pretty much everything

I rarely mention anything to the ds's who are 8 & 13

OMG Mozzchops my kids are 21, 13 and 8 too.

Bloody hard work
Apart from the 8 year old, he's a breeze compared to the hormonal lot!!!!