Isn't sorting out dh's diet his responsibility?

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I do aim to help, however...
Both awake at same time, he commutes, gets back at six, dinner is ready for when he gets in. I get kids ready and off to school, then work until pick up, after school activities, snacks/play/make dinner. I do the food shop once a week on Mondays, picking up extra bits with DC as necessary.
Dh is overweight and has starting seeing a dietician, who has suggested changing dinners to be more healthy. Tbh, I didn't think they were that bad, but I've changed a few bits. We have takeaway once a week. DC don't like salads and stir fry stuff, so I'm a bit in the dark. I have asked him to tell me what to buy, but he hasn't yet. I don't want to be looking into diet stuff in my 'free time' when he's not bothering, nor do I want to make meals the DC won't eat. Shouldn't he be helping with that particular mental load? It may seem petty, but it's just another job on the list for someone else who CBA.

Even now you've given more detail about what the dietician said, it still sounds like money for old rope. He could have found that out himself with 20 minutes of Googling.

Is he definitely sticking to the healthy breakfasts and lunches plan, and how long has he been doing it for? I would expect that to make some kind of difference in a few weeks, even without changing your evening meals.

Yes to the breakfasts buttery, mostly to lunches, although it was all going well before xmas then went to pot a bit.
I don't want to be totally negative, he is restricting food, cutting portions from originally, daily exercise, so it's having some effect. The issue is those additional things which need changing, and I don't think that's up to me.

I may sound callous, but tbh, when I was dieting he didn't change his habits/meals, nor did he join me in being teetotal while I was pregnant. I'm not sure why the extent of support should be greater from one partner...

He’s also getting home early so can easily stir fry a bit of chicken and veg in 5-10 mins. If he was a woman that arrived home at 6, you’d see them perfectly capable of putting a meal on, well so can he!

I do agree altiara, but on another thread I'm sure id be in the wrong because I pick DC up from school, so have all that spare time to make dinner .
I do have sympathy as I know how hard it can be sticking to a diet, but thanks for the support in not doing the little woman thing of organizing everything just to make his life easy .

I agree with others that he needs to grow up. His weight management is his responsibility not yours.

Best thing I did to lose weight was join weight watchers. They use normal foods and it's much easier to make it apply for the whole family than other 'diets'. I would have him join. The app is great and has lots of receipes HE can cook for the family. It's not expensive to do it in terms of the cost of weight watchers itself or the food that you need to buy (it's regular food).

Also as a working parent I have a rotisserie chicken delivered to work on Monday morning. It lasts me till Thursday. I pay $9 for it including delivery. I then have a couple of bags of salad which I buy over the week. It's not expensive and it's very healthy.

Totally not your responsibility OP. The small suggestions I made weren’t meant to be criticisms. Tbh - as he is so disengaged and continuing to expect you to wave a magic wand about his weight and health - I’d be at the murmuring ‘yes dear’ stage and leaving him to it.

Well it sounds like this is the perfect chance for him to really sort the family out thanks to his fantastic advice from the dietician. So lucky that you aren't precious about letting him really take the lead and teach you all to eat properly. In fact, you are just soooo looking forward to Monday, the first night of the new regime whereby he uses his superiour expertise to cook for you all and plan such well balanced, delicious meals!
Hm.
Truly, he needs to take on some of the mental load anyway, whether or not he wants a different menu.

Think some are been a bit harsh on you, your diet sounds more or less ok. He needs to at least sit with you if he wants you to make different meals or buy different food.
He could cook or prepare the next nights meals in an evening he doesn't work that late!
I think some people do need treats, why can't adults eat nutella at times?? Sometimes when you are busy and sleep deprived with kids you do need some. You shouldn't have to give up your treats and kids snacks completely. Yes maybe make sure you don't go mad but doesn't sound like you do.