Is this an unreasonable request?

[Dancingfairy]

You and your partner break up for a year. In that time he sleeps with LOTS (direct quote from him) of women. No relationships just meeting women from the internet and having casual sex. Anyway you decide to give it another go as you both still love each other, is it unreasonable to say that he needs to stop contact with the women he met during the year you had broken up? Let's bare in mind these were all sexual relationships. He is saying it's unreasonable as they are 'friends.' I found out he had invited one over to his house to watch a DVD at 7pm the day before he came to my house. Thoughts?

Oh OP you know it's not unreasonable!

Seriously don't waste any more time on this creep!

He has told me it's very unreasonable and why isn't he allowed friends. I told him these friendships are based on sex you were never friends. I found out he invited one to his house I know I shouldn't have looked at his phone but I wanted to be sure he wasn't still in contact with them which Ofcourse he was. It was "do you want to come round to mine when you finish work at 7" she says she's not sure and she will let him know he responds "it's not for a shag lol" like why would you even say that if you were "just friends" you wouldn't need to prewarn them it wasn't for sex.

Not unreasonable at all. As you say these are new acquaintances that he met for sex. I wouldn't feel comfortable with continued contact.

Also why did he feel the need to tell you he'd had sex with a LOT of women in the time you were not together?

At the end of the day whatever he thinks, if him staying in contact is a deal breaker for you then ditch him and move on. I know we have only got a snippet of him but I don't like the sound of him!

What the actual fuck. Hell no do not put up with this shit.

I would not be happy with that; also come watch a film at my house used to be code for sex when I was dating.
I’d also want him to have a sexual health check

Please run for the hills!!!
THEY ARE THAT WAY >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
You aren't even back together properly and he's refusing to end things with his sexual encounters.
TAKE THE HINT!
HE WILL NOT CHANGE.
Get out there. Enjoy yourself and find someone who actually respects women.
This guy does NOT!

You obviously don’t trust him ( with good reason from the sound of it )
Don’t let him back in your life... he will cause constant angst. Just move on . Forget him. Plenty other men out there. Why settle for a cheat ... who then makes you out to be unreasonable ???!

He makes me feel paranoid and says it's because I don't want him having female friends. Which isn't the case but this is an example of his "female friends" he use to work as a club promoter so he would go on a night out and get women's numbers then call it "networking" on what planet is it ok to go on a night out and get females numbers?! He was sat on my sofa and messages from the one he invited round for the film keeled flashing up on his phone screen and he was sitting there talking to her in my face, but apparently it's ok because she has a boyfriend now.

Keeled should be kept*

He just wants the best of both worlds. Run for the hills!!!

Run like your tampon string is in fire! 🔥

Ive been through something very similar OP, in my experience it never ends well. My first post on here was along these lines. Hes rubbing this right in your face. If he loved you as he claims, these other women would be gone without so much as a second thought if you were his priority. I say ltb, for your own sanity, but that's a decision only you can make. He sounds just like my ex! Good luck if you do decide to give him a chance though but be prepared

Dancingfairy, rant on here but then dump his sorry ass. In this case theres no point ranting on here then staying with him - he's telling you who he is, listen !!

Why on earth would you want this creep in your life? He will be cheating on you with these so called friends. The first 2 things I would do is walk away and get to a gum clinic ASAP. He doesn't respect you and never will!

He doesn’t love you. He doesn’t respect you. Get rid. Doesn’t matter whether he thinks you’re unreasonable or not, you know you aren’t. That’s what he needs to do in order to be in a relationship with you and he’s not prepared to do it.

Nah, I would fuck him off and look for a man who deserves you.

I would bet my last penny that even if he didn’t shag these “friends” he would be shagging someone else because that is who he is.

Well, he clearly pined for you whilst you were broken up, didn't he?

He doesn't love you. You are a full time shag, a fallback position. He probably found it harder to 'get girls' than he anticipated (is he ageing badly, perhaps?), but he will sleep with anyone who will have him.

Kick him out, OP. Find someone who really loves you.

Get shut

You can do better than this nobhead.
There is s difference between friends and people you’ve fucked. I wouldn’t dream of stopping my DP being friends with his female friends (not that he sees them outside of group events anyway) but say ‘T’ who he has know since they’re we’re in primary school, is different to him staying in contact with a one night stand!
Kick him to to curb and get yourself a real man who doesn’t treat you like this!

Why did you split up in the first place? I think going back is generally a mistake and with all this, it looks like it will be for you. The number-getting "networking" was presumably during your relationship? Nothing has changed. If you want monogamy you're looking at the wrong guy.

Don't be with someone you can't trust. End of.

How nice of him to inform you that he slept with loads of women during your split. He sounds like manchild.

Get rid.

Why did you split up and how did you reconcile?

And to be honest, I thought your request was going to be that he gets an STI test