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Is this an unreasonable request?

63 replies

Dancingfairy · 05/02/2018 11:41

You and your partner break up for a year. In that time he sleeps with LOTS (direct quote from him) of women. No relationships just meeting women from the internet and having casual sex. Anyway you decide to give it another go as you both still love each other, is it unreasonable to say that he needs to stop contact with the women he met during the year you had broken up? Let's bare in mind these were all sexual relationships. He is saying it's unreasonable as they are 'friends.' I found out he had invited one over to his house to watch a DVD at 7pm the day before he came to my house. Thoughts?

OP posts:
Onecutefox · 05/02/2018 16:27

OP, you have such a low value of yourself. Seriously. Are you that desperate to use a used condom again?

babyccinoo · 05/02/2018 19:04

Why do I get the feeling you're not going to dump his skeevy ass?

Whocansay · 05/02/2018 19:12

They are not friends, they are fuck buddies. YABU to expect to pursue a decent relationship with this man. He's an arse. Don't let him play you for a fool.

longstockingjayne · 05/02/2018 19:34

He's totally manipulating you. Although I'm not with my ex now, we broke up and got back together and he deleted all of the women he'd been with in the break up off his phone and off social media (without me asking). That's how it should be, purely out of respect. If you're getting back together you do what you can to make it a fresh start and avoid any of that 'what happened in the break up' stuff

elisenbrunnen · 05/02/2018 19:39

I don't even know why he tells me all this tbh he knows my confidence is low. - now, I wonder why you have low self-esteem? Hmm

So low that you need this -this horrible thing in your life. Honestly, how is it he doesn't make you shudder?

JaneEyre70 · 05/02/2018 19:39

There's a great line in a Jilly Cooper book about a man who can't stay faithful - along the lines of he wants to have his cake, eat it and make trifle out of it. He's keeping his options open - are you?

Dramlass · 05/02/2018 19:42

Bin him off, he's not good enough for you op

Gannicusthemannicus · 05/02/2018 19:50

You will be a 1000% better off without him. You deserve respect and thought and kindness, and he is giving you none of it. He is dragging you down to his awful level by expecting you to be okay with his behaviour, dump him.

ICESTAR · 06/02/2018 19:16

Op I hope you dumped him. Sad

Gemini69 · 06/02/2018 20:22

oh gawd he sounds absolutely repulsive OP...... get rid.... Flowers

expatinscotland · 06/02/2018 20:27

The only thing unreasonable is that you are still wasting time with this creep.

Foofer · 06/02/2018 23:34

The more you post the more awful he sounds.

You deserve better, you don't have to be with someone who behaves like that.

butterfly56 · 07/02/2018 00:00

He is horrible.
You deserve so much better than this idiot!
Seriously OP you are only with him because he makes you feel worthless because he has no respect for you whatsoever.

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