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My boyfriend is ignoring me

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gaynor83 · 26/01/2018 11:18

We've been seeing each other for about two months. Both in our thirties. Everything seems great we get on so well and he seems to be genuine and likes spending time with me. We've seen each other or been in contact pretty much every day.
Sometimes he likes to spend time with his friends and I don't hear from him for a day or so but I don't bug him about it.
I saw him the day before yesterday later He went to meet friends..i called him later and he said he was on his way to mine. Then later his phone was switched off. I called once and messaged the next day but no answer to either. He lives with my best friend who's his cousin..when I asked her she said he had been home and left again but had said he was going to call me. I tried again last night and no answer, today it's switched off.
He rarely uses Facebook but today I saw him online and messaged to see if he was ok and he went offline.
I can't think of any reason for him to ignore me...i don't want to ask my friend too much...what should I do? I have mental health issues and feel horrible anxiety about this. But I'm trying not to let it show so haven't been blowing up his phone, it's really making me feel psycho though with the anxiety....

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KinkyAfro · 26/01/2018 14:47

Sometimes I despair, what a complete waste of your time. 2 months in and he's like this and you haven't fucked him off yet? Stop looking for reasons and explanations, get rid of the waster

KinkyAfro · 26/01/2018 14:47

She he's not your boyfriend after 2 months

KinkyAfro · 26/01/2018 14:48

*and not she

Olddear · 26/01/2018 15:29

Did you know he was taking crack and cocaine when you agreed to go out with him??

Guardsman18 · 26/01/2018 15:38

The drugs were a better offer. Trust me and everyone else on here.

Let him go. He's not worth it, honest.

Shayelle · 26/01/2018 16:46

Crack. So so serious. Please be so wary he’ll rinse you for everything Sad

Guardsman18 · 26/01/2018 17:09

I had a friend with benefits - much younger than me - he's dead now at 32 because he was a crack addict

Guardsman18 · 27/01/2018 08:48

Sorry if my last post sounded all about me. I think I wasn't just trying to show hoe serious a drug crack is.

AtrociousCircumstance · 27/01/2018 08:58

To an honest person like you are, I’m sure, it’s very hard to believe that someone would lie, sweet-talk you for their own ends, use you for whatever they need then fuck off...but that’s what he has done and is doing.

Don’t project your own decency and moral values onto him - he doesn’t share them.

Crack is a hard drug which kills. That is serious, end-of-the-line addiction.

He will always be unreliable, insensitive, confusing and dishonest. And ruthless. He will use you and reassure you that he won’t.

The anxiety you are feeling is a healthy warning sign - you are being lied to and used by a damaging person.

Stay strong. See through this. Step away.

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