I have a bathroom door!

[AlittleworstforwareUpsadaisy]

Too embarassed to ring rl friends up with my realisation but wanted to share this silly thing with someone.

Overtime with h and then once we had children the bathroom door was never closed as someone would always walk in and so it seemed pointless or it would be half closed to give me some privacy though the kids would normally be trying to sit on my knee.

Since h and I are seperating I've started to shut the door and he's not been barging in. I haven't really thought about it but this morning I realised I haven't seen the back of that door properly for a very long time and theres even my thing for hanging things on that I pain stakingly restored.

Of course....I knew it was there and have cleaned it ( as trying to convince people I clean)...but the door and my hangy thing had merged into the background iyswim.

My bathroom isn't as small as I thought either.

I have my space back and privacy and its weird as I never knew they had gone....but it feels wonderful.

Ds2 4yrs did come in but he knockedthis morning asked for a cuddle and then went downstairs and shut the door behind him.

I painted the door too last year and I did a good job if I do say so myself.

Blumin eck I will also beable to:

-choose my own kettle, furniture
-get a dog
-go skiing
-go to center parcs
-know were things are (ok maybe not)
-breathe I'm going to beable to breathe
-kiss a man and have him want to kiss me back(not that I aim to start up another relationship for some time)
-but the thought of being able to meet someone who wants to be with me...that will be nice.
-be in control of finances
-get into a routine
-no more if's and but's
-invite friends round for meals
-decorate how I want to decorate
-go were i want to go and do what i want to do (well as much as possible taking children into consideration.

I hope this feeling stays.

Just read this and had to reply and say that is great upsadaisy!!!

I know the feeling, my DS used to be able to unlock the bathroom door from the outside, till finally I broke it! Now he has to knock!

I hope all the other feelings last too, I know for me I still have those great feelings, and lesft my ex 3 years ago!

You will be able to be you Upsadaisy.

Your own boss, your own best friend xx

Thank you!

I have one too now although for quite different reasons.. mine was smashed to smithereens when my oh had one of his fits of temper.. also got one on my bedroom, just the kitchen and my office left to do

Great isn't it?

Yes... doors... I've been able to close my bedroom door and open the window for a year now. Still under the same roof as the STBXH, but it's a sign of better things to come.

Just wish HE would shut the bathroom door when he's in there.

I love my bedroom door! Once it's closed i'm in my own little piece of heaven. Clean, tidy, warm and cosy. A totally relaxing man free zone

Sugarcoatedpoison oh no hope you get all your doors soon.

Anniegetyourgun I love your name! h here doesn't shut the door either....why he thinks me seeing him wipe his rear is important I have no idea although he is an ass!!.

Ifonlyhewould I'm hoping to get a bedroom door soon too. I've been sleeping on settee for past couple of weeks and am shattered. I'm hunting for bunk beds for my boys and then I'll use one of their rooms and I'll be in a bed!!! then when house sells will be in own house!

Anniegetyourgun hope you don't mind but I've taken inspiration from your name and i am now Upsadaisygoonpunkmakemyday. Would love to say that to h.

thanks upsadaisy.. hopefully I'll have the rest of the doors later in May

slowly slowly I will get this house presentable again... and if that git breaks anything ever again he'll be wearing it in such a way that it'll need surgical intervention to remove it

OOh you have my sympathy Upsadaisy. Ive done the settee sleeping. I spent a few weeks sleeping on a leather settee, waking up with my bum stuck to the leather! Not very comfortable I can tell you.

You will feel a completely different person when you have your own room xx

PS have yoy tried Ebay for the bunk beds? You can pick up some really good bargains from there.

Inspiration from me, Upsadaisy-as-was? Woot! I r famous!

Like the ass remark. He could do with a good wipe, seemingly. Off the face of the earth! Muahaha!

LOL

Sugarcoatedpoison i have a farmer friend who has some gelding equipment of sorts your welcome to borrow them if he breaks anything again you might have to wait for me to get through with h first
why did he break the doors?

Ifonlyhewould - yep I'm watching on ebay for bbeds nearby. mines a leather settee too no what you mean about the sticking thing. i'm sure it takes a layer of skin off when it happens lol.

Annigetyourgun - my thoughts exactly mwahahaha

lol, punk he breaks the doors because he has temper tantrums! stupid immature twat that he is. he's also incredibly lazy (I've got a thread on AIBU about that)

my sofa is leather too and it's very ouchy when arse sticks to it, lol