Bad day! It's hard being a single mum 😔 who do you talk to?

[Welshcakesareyum]

Feeling so sorry for myself today! I have come home and opened wine and I'm supposed to be doing dry jan.
I don't have any emotional support and I struggle with that.
What do all you mums do if you have had a bad day and have nobody to talk to?

I don't know - it's tricky. I find myself in the same position really. You can talk to me :)

I have a private twitter no followers and just vent on there. I sounds pathetic but it’s the best place for me to do it but I also use it for my recovery too.

Also here to talk though!

lizkt aww thankyou 😊 it is tricky! Juggling childcare and work is difficult. My dd has been poorly so no sleep. Dd comes first but I have so much catch up at work now and no time. With a rubbish ex, I find myself opening the wine, not good!
Feeling sorry for myself today.

Dippingmytoesin aww thankyou 😊 that is a good idea! I need to vent sometimes 🤔

I'm with you on the wine I'm afraid, bored of whining to people about my moans and groans and I'm pretty sure they're bored of it too...

Can you make friends with other single mums? I have a couple of brilliant friends, sometimes we vent at each other, sometimes we have each other's children for sleepovers, sometimes we go out and pretend we're carefree (and childless)!

I used to write a diary/journel and vent in there. It really helped. It was a period in my life when I felt quite lonely and angry and it helped to get it all out! (I was a single mum also who went through a crappy time with my ex etc) I have binned them all now as I didn't want anyone ever finding them but I wouldn't hesitate to write again if I felt I had nobody to talk to.

Welshcakes, it was the same here at xmas. DD was sick and got absolutely nothing done. Was pretty resentful of my rubbish ex who picks and chooses what he fancies doing.

Don't beat yourself up about a glass of wine :) It's entirely understandable.

Mamaka, it would be great to meet other single mums locally. I don't find them easy to come by though.

I think it's quite hard to come by other single mums as we are busy, tend to be home in the evenings etc. I keep am online diary/blog where online 'friebds' can comment, I use whatsapp and messenger and have Skype 'dates' with friends.

I Bottle it up I suppose. I'm a single mum to 4.

None of my single mum friends can go out easily. Married friends go out with their husbands.

It's lonely all right. I don't seem to have any best friends any more. I've people I'm friendly with (and those people are lovely but all of them have better friends than me)

I wanted to work but now I feel like that's kind of relentless. work home eat sleep rinse repeat weekend and the house is a MESS and i've no plans!

I put my headphones on and listen to angry music turned up full volume!! Wine helps too!
It’s hard isn’t it? I vent at my friends sometimes but none of them are lone parents, so although they sympathise, none of them really ‘get’ it.

I have a bad day every day. When I come home both kids start on me. They gang up, they're relentless. STBXH was a runaway husband who won't talk to me and undermines me. I'm so depressed I am hollow.

ps yes I agree that single mother friends aren't that easy to come by. wherever I go, the vast majority of the women are married and I wouldn't like to single out (no pun intended) women who I know are single as I don't think it's a great basis for a friendship. Hey you're single and I'm single because it's like connecting over the lack of something rather than the presence of something. Compatability, humour, connection. I dunno. Hope that makes sense.

I don't have anyone it's so so shit I hate it and know how u feel had a spectacularly shit day today and no one to talk to all friends busy. One thing to not do is go online finding random men to chat to thats a total disaster and done when in a very bad place. I also wish I had single mums locally

Thankyou all for your messages! Just let all my emotions out and now pouring my 2nd glass 🙈 I know I'm not alone and there are lots of mums out there like me. You are all doing amazing by the way!!
I don't know how to meet single mums. My life is so busy, hence the mini break down this evening.

I'm not amazing. I screamed at mine tonight and broke down and they took the piss.

We need a single mums support thread clearly! :)

I know how you feel OP . I talk to myself out loud as if someone is listening and it calms me down. I know it sounds crazy but it works for me. Hope you have a better day tomorrow

lizkt we do 😊
lonelyworld not crazy, me too. Well, if it is, we are crazy together haha!

@Welshcakesareyum glad I am not the only one

There is a lovely single parents support thread in the Lone Parents section (can’t link on phone)

thecraddock Thankyou, I will have a look 😊

Hi, another single mum here who's also had a hard day today. I have no one to turn to for emotional support so I keep it all in. I wanted to cry today it's been so hard but I can't. I,suffer from anxiety and with no one for support my worries go round and round in my head. Sending you fellow single mums 💐.