Bad day! It's hard being a single mum 😔 who do you talk to?

[Welshcakesareyum]

Feeling so sorry for myself today! I have come home and opened wine and I'm supposed to be doing dry jan.
I don't have any emotional support and I struggle with that.
What do all you mums do if you have had a bad day and have nobody to talk to?

I am very lucky that I hadn't a permanently pointing Facebook chat conversation with 3 friends.... Sometimes it is quiet, sometimes the posts are very mundane but I know they 'll all be there day or night if I need to chat or vent.... Its sometimes us just all whinging into the ether about our days but someone will reply later and we make a point of all checking if someones been quiet for a, day or two. It works. It keeps me sane.

I just go to bed early on those days. Normally I like to stay up til about midnight so I feel like I have actually had some sort of life after my 3 boys have gone to bed. I work more or less full time and we have a hefty commute so often the first time I get the chance to breathe all day is at about 10pm, after dinner baths bedtimes for littlest one/varying degrees for older one. When I have had a shitter of a day, it feels nice to get to sleep as soon as I can. The next day always feels like a new start and going to sleep means I get there quicker!

Sorry you're having it tough. Those days come a lot more frequently I find. Xxx

Honestly, learn a hobby like crochet. Will keep you occupied for hours!

Myself
The dog

Just popping in to say hang in there people! I did 14 years of single parenting to 2 kids who are now grown and during that time frequently felt like I was clinging onto a rock face by my bitten down fingernails.
It is really fucking hard but your children will grow and you will get a life back for yourselves with knowledge and depth of understanding that make you really appreciate stuff that others take for granted.
Sorry if that all sound trite but what you are doing is super humanly amazing. Give yourselves credit

I talk to my cats if I'm honest, nobody else!
Feel the same, finding it really hard at the minute. Everybody I know is coupled up and doesn't get what being a single mum is like.
Had an argument with someone from work today because they couldn't understand that I can't 'just go to the gym' after work - I have to go home and feed the kids because there isn't anyone else at home.
And I'm weepy because I don't think I can date again until the kids leave home. How can I? Nobody who can have them overnight, and I don't want them to feel that I'm prioritising a bloke over them anyway (last relationship was a nightmare and I won't put them through that again!)

Don't beat yourself up over a glass of wine. I knit. Learned when I got divorced to fill in the evenings 🙄

To tired to write much now but completely agree. It’s effing hard doing it all alonez my single mum friends all get family support bar me and my couples friends too busy to deal with my difficult times.
I think most people assume I have ‘someone’ or prefer not to think about it.
The most oft heard phrase is ‘At least you’ve got your kids’.
Ergo I should be lonely and struggle in silence then?
Not many people plan to be single parents so we’re normally dealing with some form of grief too.

Morning everyone 😊
A new day! I fell asleep on the sofa after my 3rd glass. Headache this morning. I ate to French fancies too.
I'm off work today and probably tomorrow and I'm not going to stress about it, my dd comes first.
Thankyou for the messages and I'm sorry some of you lovely mums struggle too. It's the hardest job in the world being a parent. A single parent...well, you all know how hard it is. Especially when you have a shitty ex. We should be proud of ourselves but some days that's difficult.
A good cry has helped and all the messages here 😊

OP are you part of the new mn fb group? That may help for somewhere to let off steam.

NeilPetark I can't find It?

Another single Mum here (one child) and it is hard. No family for support and no close friends. I have one single Mum friend but we're not close and I wouldn't burden her with my problems.

What makes it worse is that I am the only single parent in my sons class and I get looked at like I'm something the cat has dragged in by the other Mums.

I can't find the thread either.

Granville, I know what you mean, there is a sense of isolation with the whole thing.

I know one thing for sure though, I'd rather be lonely and a single mum than stuck in an unhappy relationship.

I’m an older single parent, though my DS is now an ‘adult’, I still have problems. I’ve had no support since my DM died 5 years ago, but she lived a long way from me anyway.

Being a parent is the hardest job in the world, let alone a single one.

At least I can go out/stay out/go away..but I know what it’s like not to be able to, so you all have my sympathies.

You are doing a grand job, And you will get your lives back

It makes me sad reading you mums are struggling. There are probably so many single mums out there needing a little support. I wish I could help some of you!

I talk to the dog or myself or my friend on messenger who is probably sick of me.

I have no one nearby.
It is bloody tough

I hear you loud & clear ladies.. it is exhausting and relentless and yes, there are amazing highs when I feel like the best mum in the world and then bone-crushing lows when I hate myself for shouting or getting frustrated topped off by the loneliness of yet another fun night in on my own.

It's not how I pictured my life at all and whilst I am incredibly lucky to have two healthy, funny and fabulous DC - there really is nothing like being the sole adult responsible for their emotional, financial and academic welfare..

Sorry for the rant - just feeling it a bit this week and none of my very close friends are single parents. Their marriages aren't 100% happy either but I do wonder if they look at the grind of my life and decide unhappiness is better than that...

private (free) journal at Penzu.
Photo albums and scrapbook on paper for the good days.

Should add - I cross-stitch which has saved my sanity.. and means we have some lovely handmade bits around the house

I am exhausted. Having and a cry.

I am single mum to Ds 6 and shitty ex who is dragging me through court after 4 years of it since he decided he didn't want a family.

I've got a demanding job which is basically full time though should be 4 days a week.

Today I've had enough.

See? So tired my post doesn't even make sense!

It does to us mum

Poor mums. I brought my girls up with no support (financial or practical) from their father. You have your bad days and yes it's hard. However, it does get better. Mine are all grown now. Lovely girls with good hearts and values and I sit and look at them at times and wonder how we got through. But we did. They know life was hard. Was for them too but they also know how hard I worked to keep a roof over our heads and I think that's made them who they are today.

Have a glass OP and cry tears. Tomorrow's another day and you'll be strong enough to see it through. Because it's just what we do. Xx

Aww reading all your messages 😊 thankyou so much.
We are pretty amazing fellow mum's.
Bad days are shitty, so shitty. We get through them though, you're right.

This thread has helped me already in what has been one of the hardest weeks I’ve had.

Thank you all, it’s good to share