We've only been together a year. But over the past few months, my partner has been more distant. He has become rude and obnoxious and majority of the time I feel undervalued, unappreciated, unwanted and unloved. He is a few years younger than me for the record, he can be quite immature at time.
I try to speak to him about it because he way he is with me is making me feel very insecure. He says he's "lost himself" and once he finds himself he will be back to how he was... he won't elaborate as he says he doesn't understand it himself.
Now to me, it sounds like a bit of a cop out - but who am I to judge him.
It's got to the point where I'm beginning to get frustrated and irritable at the lack of affection and attention he's showing me. I used to always feel so loved and wanted and now I don't. Now it feels like he will hug me habitually rather than wanting to.
He's always demanding I do stuff for him. He gets annoyed if the washing up isn't done when he fancies cooking himself breakfast... I do all the housework, I'm a part time mature uni student AND I look after the children. I don't feel like he cares much anymore. Though he says he does when I confront him and turns it around saying "when you say stuff like that it makes me think you don't care about me". To which we have the SAME argument over and over "I wouldn't get upset if I didn't care" etc etc. Boring and draining.
Yesterday I attended my uncles funeral. The same place we held my grandmas last month. It was incredibly difficult. Once home I rung him crying telling him about it and told him I really need him to comfort me and all he said was "awww bless, well I'm going out with XXXXX this eve so I'll see you later". And I was left feeling incredibly sad wondering why the f*ck my once ever so caring boyfriend no longer wants to look after me and would rather go out for a meal with his mate!?
I have no idea if I am overreacting - please can someone help me shed light on this, don't know how much more I can take