I want kids but my girlfriend doesn't want them... what should I do?

[amaninlove43]

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for over 8 months now and I’ve been thinking of popping the question.

However, I feel like I have to hold back for a bit… when I started talking with her about

having a family, she show disinterest in having kids. We were having fun and talking about

having 3 kids but then she followed it with “having kids are troublesome,

I honestly don’t want to have any…”

I was taken aback, I had asked her more about it but she just shrugged it off saying that

she just doesn’t want them. I made it clear with her that I want to have kids.

So now I am wondering if we are still on the same page as when we started…

we are both dating with intentions of marriage, but with the current discussion it’s almost

like it might not work out.

When I first met her through a singles tour, she was really charming (still is) and

she made it clear that she wants to find that one person to spend the rest of her life with.

But because we never talked about having kids whatsoever, now that it happened,

I am surprised. What should I do? I love her and I want to spend the rest of my life with her

but I want to have a family… I really need help, please!

You’re right fizzy I misinterpreted your post as I just took the first sentence as a statement in itself. I’ve re read and realised you meant it in the context of the op. I get what you meant now and do agree.

So when me and my partner met. She told me off the bat she couldn't have kids. She's 35 I'm 28. I was fine with that as I already have a 2 and a half year old with an ex partner and due to my upbringing I didn't want him to go through what I did. We've been together 6 months but after that time she had a miscarriage which we both dealt with in different ways. For me after that it made me realise she's the love of my life and I'm planning to pop the question. However, for her, I know deep down she really wants a child. Particularly dealing with me and my son. I would like one more but was very hesitant about having another intialy after my son and my ex. After this scenario I've realised that infact I would like to have a child. But due to what we said when we met and the heartache of failing and my partner worries about her age. I'm wary about how I should broach the subject if I even should. I feel I should be honest even if we decide not to and I'm conscious about the way she feels and oregency at later ages. But after the unknown miscarriage I'm really not sure it could be handled or fail again.

Any advice is welcome.

Thank you

@Tidsf this is a very old thread, you'd be better starting a new one and copy and pasting this in it. Best of luck

Thanks I thought I did

I didn’t want kids until I was 34, and then it took me another 3 years to have one. That could make you 51 by the time she’s decided she’s ready. At 26 I was still clubbing and crashing out at friends houses on a Saturday night.