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Is it possible for my ex to be tracking new boyfriend via his phone

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Thefutureisbright2017 · 20/01/2018 16:04

Just that really. Abusive Ex seems to have too much information about coming and goings of my now bf of 6 months. Ex has gotten his mobile no from somewhere and my bf received a message which was quickly deleted before he could read it on whatsapp, but interestingly his name came up on the message received notification despite ex not having his number in his phone.

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Thefutureisbright2017 · 20/01/2018 16:20

Any tech savvy MNs out there...?

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Ariela · 20/01/2018 16:22

I'd suggest delete Whatsapp from his phone, and then see?

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Thefutureisbright2017 · 20/01/2018 16:24

Really? Could he do that, wasn't aware you could track through that. Is there an app for that? We've even had his car up on the garage ramps to check for a physical tracker. None found 😒

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ThisLittleKitty · 20/01/2018 17:34

Could he be spying on your house??

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SweetErmengarde · 20/01/2018 17:50

Does he have Snapchat?

My colleague showed me that it has a feature where you can track your contacts' location on an map, unless they've specifically opted out of it. If your ex has your bf's name and number, he can probably find him on any social media.

Trills · 20/01/2018 17:59

my bf received a message which was quickly deleted before he could read it on whatsapp, but interestingly his name came up on the message received notification despite ex not having his number in his phone.

Can you go through that again more slowly and being specific as to whose name and whose number you are talking about?

alotalotalot · 20/01/2018 18:04

Track my phone on iPhone (and probably others) if enabled, means that they can see wherever your phone is, and thus where you exactly are.

Snap chat now also has this feature.

alotalotalot · 20/01/2018 18:05

Lots of new cars can also be tracked via phone too. Could this be downloaded on to the exes phone?

charlie753 · 20/01/2018 18:07

If it is your ex I would suspect it is more likely your communications have been compromised, unless he had easy access to BF's phone.

Whatsapp allow you to easily set up a browser version if you have access to someone's phone for a short time (literally scan the barcode) but I would think it more likely if he has anything it is access to your communications. For example knowing your icloud password would allow him to know where you are, and if you have not changed your email passwords he can access those. For gmail (and some others) you can look at all the devices and locations which are currently logged into that account, but on general principle I would consider changing all of them to something new if you have not already, and/or consider enabling 2FA on those accounts (essentially they send you a message with a confirmation number to your phone before allowing new logons)

buddhasbelly · 20/01/2018 18:20

I'm a bit confused, once a msg has been sent in whatsapp the sender can't delete it to stop the receiver reading it. Can they? Or have I read it wrong?

Owlish · 20/01/2018 18:25

Buddhasbelly I was reading about this just the other day; apparently it is possible to delete WhatsApp messages from someone else's phone within 4 minutes of sending.

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Thefutureisbright2017 · 20/01/2018 18:27

Trills** my bf received a message on whats app which had my exs name attached, however when he opened it, the message had been deleted... They do not know one another and have never met. When BF checked the number with me it was indeed my ex!
My ex could never have had my or bfs phone. We split over a year and a half ago, he continues to be problematic.
Someone asked could he be watching the house, well he has in the past and via a women who lived round the corner and fed info back to ex (think he was sleeping with herHmm) anyway she moved away now and i dont think he still is. You couldn't make it up!!!

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Bathroomhell17 · 20/01/2018 18:27

Yes new feature. A sent message can be deleted but only before it's been read (two blue ticks) once read you can't delete. Leaves a 'x deleted this message' in its place.

SandyY2K · 20/01/2018 18:30

Had he got the resources for a private investigator? He could have got your BFs number that way.

Very creepy.

buddhasbelly · 20/01/2018 18:30

Ah didn't know that thanks!

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Thefutureisbright2017 · 20/01/2018 18:30

Buddyhasbelly** yes you can delete any message before its been read on whatsapp and all that appears is a notification that the sender deleted this message.

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Thefutureisbright2017 · 20/01/2018 18:38

No dont think he has the resources for a private investigator. Uncanny though that he knows new BF left my house at 1am last Saturday...🤔 I find it hard to believe he parked himself near my house and kept a 12 hour vigil.

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loveyoutothemoon · 20/01/2018 19:40

How was his name attached if he didn't have him in his contacts?

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Thefutureisbright2017 · 20/01/2018 19:44

I have no idea, neither does he...

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Thefutureisbright2017 · 20/01/2018 19:45

Do these caller ID apps provide peoples names with telephone numbers, like Truecaller perhaps?

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Thefutureisbright2017 · 20/01/2018 19:56

I have no odea how his name came up, neither does bf. Can these truecaller functions name people and not just businesses...?

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Onecutefox · 20/01/2018 20:00

I suspect that because your ex is in your contacts and you in your boyfriend's the application or the phone somehow connects all these things together. Skype shows me friends of my friends and I think FB used to do it (I haven't used it for years so don't know anymore).

loveyoutothemoon · 20/01/2018 20:07

Could they have had previous contact that your fella isn't confessing to?

GoldfishCrackers · 20/01/2018 20:10

How do you know that your ex knew your bf was there until 1am? Does your ex have any reason to still be in contact with you?

I agree it's more likely to be your tech that's compromised. Or your logins. Does he have any way of accessing your iCloud account? Or any other location-sharing apps? Do you share any accounts with your bf?