Is it possible for my ex to be tracking new boyfriend via his phone

[Thefutureisbright2017]

Just that really. Abusive Ex seems to have too much information about coming and goings of my now bf of 6 months. Ex has gotten his mobile no from somewhere and my bf received a message which was quickly deleted before he could read it on whatsapp, but interestingly his name came up on the message received notification despite ex not having his number in his phone.

Track my iphone only works if your ex has the log in details.

So he needs to have either got hold of your bf’s phone to install software, or he has got hold of his icloud details.

Whatsapp is easy, all he needs is his phone number.

How good is your bf with privacy settings? You’d be amazed how much you can find out just looking at what is put openly on the internet. I have got phone numbers, addresses, work details, kids schools/hobbies, what they have done and where they are going off facebook, no passwords or sneaky stuff needed. It’s a well known tactic for burglars these days- all you need is an address, a floorplan off rightmove, and a tag into a “going on holiday” post. Even if that persons security is ok, friends and neighbours post stuff too...

Does he write his passwords down? How are your security settings? I can often get a fair bit of info from partners profiles too...

No they've never been in contact, Im positive of that.

We have a son together so unfortunately I have to communicate with ex. He blurted this information out on a weekend handover....

So did you WhatsApp or text each other about your BF leaving at 1am?

Maybe he did keep a vigil... or just happened to drive by your house around that time.

What's the purpose of him saying these things to you?

Do you have kids together?

Cross post 're you having kids together.

Could your son have given any info?

Do you and your BF have a 'show location' setting in the phone preferences menu? It needs switching off.

The same for all social media/apps/games/search engines/amazon/google.

It's incredibly easy to track someone who doesn't use an appropriate level of personal security and allows themselves to be tagged all over social media.

It would take me less than 20 minutes from getting a FB/Twitter id to make an educated guess at locating someone who has not carried out the simple measures I suggest. I wouldn't be breaking any laws and I'm not hugely technical.

If nothing else, upping your privacy/security settings will reduce ads and marketing dross

I have to say I wouod be tempted to change telephone numbers and erase the phone to go back to factory settings....
And then see what happens.

Thank you everyone for opinions and suggestions. He used this 'info' to have a go and rant about my having bf over while son asleep in bed. I'll go back over all correspondence with bf and see if we mentioned it somewhere, then check all privacy and location settings on phone. There's no way my son said anything, hes too young and was asleep when he came over.

He's jealous you've moved on. Typical of men like him.

Is the 1am leaving the only thing the ex knows or is there more? If there are other things are they along the same lines? If Ex did just happen to drive past as bf was leaving (As in, he often drives past/ watches your house) that's one thing to tackle but if there are other things as well that he knows but shouldn't perhaps it is a social media setting issue as well. Or if ex knows something more that hasn't been available from watching your house/ sm for the pair of you I'd be more concerned about ex following bf or having some other more intrusive form of access.

Have you tried asking him where he got that information from. Because if he is stalking you then I would actually consider that something you should take legal action against. Your child deserves a better parent than a stalker

He has stalked me before, he lives 20 miles away and I live in a cul de sac, so any attempt to just be driving by would be deliberate. I told him a few months ago after last time, if I see his car again in my street I would call the police and get a non-harrassment order placed on him. He does drop in little snippets that suggest he knows my whereabouts.... but the 1am bf leaving my house was so random that it could only point to tracking of some sort.

Is it definitely through the phone? Could the ex be following you both?x

I doubt it. Its happened when he has our son asleep in bed 20 miles away.

Tell your boyfriend to go through settings on all his apps. Remove location settings, check privacy is closed down on everything and do not use any ‘friend finder’ style apps.

Also just check your cars for a tracker. They are cheap and easy to get through the Internet

Can these truecaller functions name people and not just businesses?

Yes.

Does your bf have find my friends ?snap chat location on ? Geotagging on pics ?

Re: Name showing up on your bf’s phone, to use WhatsApp, you type in a username. If you message somebody on an iPhone and they don’t have your number saved, it’ll show as whatever your username is.

So eg if you are called Fred, i don’t have your number saved but if you sent me a WhatsApp, it would show as “Message from Fred”, if that’s what your username is set as.

Thanks Token. Yes bf has already thoroughly looked for a tracker on his car. Hes had it up on car repair shop ramps with a torch. Ive been through all my apps and tuned off location settings. Amazing the permissions set to default on those things.... contacts, locations, microphone. Even on apps thats dont seemingly need them to function. Will help bf through his tomorrow.

Could he have bugged your home? Did he live there previously? Or has he had a key?

Thefuture I now go through all that stuff whenever I get a new piece of tech. I don't want to go all tinfoil hat abiut it, but I'm also quite anti all the Alexa/Echo/Hive stuff.

I’d say software is more likely than him bugging you with hardware.

You’re doing the right thing by sorting the phone out as that would be the easiest device to breach.

I'm assuming he knows your BFs name ...if so he could find out where he lives. He might be staking out your BFs house and watching his comings and goings.

He may have someone watching your son while he spys.

Oh ex has scoffed he knows 'all about my bf' and "knows people' has ways and means to find out. Thing is he just makes himself look bad and downright crazy. BF and I are at the stage of letting him jump up and down, complain, rant, makes no difference to our resolve to be together. I dont think he has software o either device, before we broke up I got a new phone and locked it, to avoid his spying, he was fuming😄 and he's never met my bf