Is it possible for my ex to be tracking new boyfriend via his phone

[Thefutureisbright2017]

Just that really. Abusive Ex seems to have too much information about coming and goings of my now bf of 6 months. Ex has gotten his mobile no from somewhere and my bf received a message which was quickly deleted before he could read it on whatsapp, but interestingly his name came up on the message received notification despite ex not having his number in his phone.

Tell your ex to get a life. He’s so not over you, and he wants control. You somehow need to remove that control.
How do you do handover? Does he come into your home? Does ex randomly call/text? If so I’d put my foot down with any communication must be limited to only talking about son, and emergencies to do with ds. Minimal contact, and only about your ds. Your bf is not his business. He needs to spend his energy on your ds.

longdistance I've made huge steps in this direction. A few months ago i put a stop to twice a day facetime. 6.30am and pm. He now calls DS once a day and I try not to engage with that. Handover is now at the front door. I need to not engage as much I know

Most likely - do you use iCloud or any other cloud based phone backup service, or could he have one of your old devices (on the same account - a device for your child?) or your password?

Slightly less likely - home security camera or child's internet enabled toy/monitor accessed remotely.

The illegal - keystroke tracking software on your home computer.

Or quite common - did you keep your home Wi-fi password the same after you split? If so anything connected in your home could be accessed by him whilst nearby.

Hope this helps.

I have android, he has an iphone as does my bf. I moved house when we split so no previous access to wifi or a pc so keylogger not possible.

Once a day is very frequent! Is it voice call or video?

What's app does display names. I'm in a group chat and anyone who has set a display name it displays their number then the display name. This is regardless of if I have their number stored in my phone.

Voicecalls only now, even that is excessive I know...

A year after a split from my ex I found out that he had been making fake pof and FB profiles to talk to the blokes I was talking to on there I was shocked tbh, he had never shown signs of being mental before.

We have 3 kids together and even now I get the nice/nasty treatment depending on whether I am seeing someone or not. I think in his head we haven't really split up and so he continues to try and control.

Tbh apart from you both changing passwords etc I'd just ignore the poor git.

My iphone guesses who the sender is on group messenger. It comes up in a lighter colour grey. I know I don't have these numbers so I presume it guesses through the numbers stored in other group members phones.

WhatsApp message notifications will show the name of the sender as it is registered on the sender's phone. Within the app you will only see the number though, unless you have added the sender to your contacts.
Hope that makes sense!

Hi

Sorry if this has been suggested as I've not read all the posts but i have the answer to how his name appeared when he sent your boyfriend the message

Last year I bumped into an old school friend.....we exchanged numbers. He then gave my number to his mate who then messaged me ( I was never asked so I didn't store the mates number until he then messaged me )
I knew the mate from like 15 yrs ago so when his name and little face popped up on what's app I was like I know him?! Even thou I didn't store his number but YOU yourself can add a name into your settings so when you send a message to someone outside your contacts, it's comes up

It freaked me out but then I clicked that the friend I bumped into gave it to him

Only know this as it happened to me
Hope this helps

( try it go to settings and you can add names / emojis etc )

I would get a new sim for each phone.

I would also cut down the contact a bit and have him wait on the drive rather than the front door. Do you think when he came to the door you might have turned away for a moment and he managed to put some device on the door or just inside to alert him to movement.

It’s horrible what he’s doing. After so long as well.

I'd also get new Sims

What a weirdo

Re the daily calls, I would just break the habit. Just email saying we have plans tomorrow and the next day so you can ring on Thursday etc. If he rings and you're busy, so be it. No court would ever order this amount of contact which interferes with daily life. 6.30 am and pm - that was bonkers.

I think I read somewhere that you can retrieve deleted WhatsApp messages.