We’ve separated but he’s not moved out

[JeansAndANiceTop]

So exDP and I have called it a day. Very much my choosing, he wants us to stay together. I’m done. I cannot put the emotional effort in to trust him again, I believe he’ll only hurt me again in future.

So, we live in my house, I gave him a deadline to leave by, Thursday this week, we both thought he could go back to his mums probably, she has a spare room, they have a good relationship. But she’s said no. He doesn’t have anywhere else to go. He needs a bit of time to save up for a rental deposit.

I want him out, but I don’t know where he’ll go. Neither does he.

Do I let him stay? It’d mean him sleeping on the floor of the living room. I know he’d push to be allowed back into the bed.

Ideas please.

Well done

Wow.. this is wonderful news... well done JeansAndANiceTop ... I hope your enjoying your lovely home again

Well done. Stay strong.

We just had a Big Talk. And I didn’t let myself back down. I think I was totally and utterly washed out by him. So his arguments and persuasive tactics didn’t work, cos I didn’t have anything left.
I’m currently munching on a double decker, scented candle lit, perusing Hobby Crafts website for something to do to fill my time ☺️ Thanks for the hand holds and good wishes x

Glad it's all sorted OP! I recommend adult colouring books. Johanna Basford's are stunning if you can go see them in Waterstones :)

Really dismayed by this post from WetPaint4 "This man has no savings he can dip into? No friends he can stay with? And his own mother has told him no? That can't all be the case."

You must live a charmed life if you can't see how someone can have none of those things. I didn't when one of my relationships ended very suddenly and I ended up homeless. One parent dead, the other wouldn't allow it (stepparent influence), no savings due to incredibly low zero hour job and severe ill health necessitating time off work, and though I had and have plenty of brilliant friends none were in the position (mid twenties) to offer a place to sleep. Nobody even offered. And I understand that fully as most people don't want someone suddenly crashing at theirs for an unforeseen period of time!

It's lovely you have those things but please don't disbelieve that many many normal people don't.

It’s true that people don’t have things/people/places to fall back on. His mum has given him three months, to save, find his own place, which is pretty good of her.

OOh I do love a Double Decker