The Brave Babes Battle Bus - New year, old battles, big resolve

[SweetLathyrus]

Hi, I'm SweetLathyrus, Sweet for short, and I've been on and off Gerald the Brave Babes Battle Bus for years, so this time it's me standing in for our wonderful Mouse to invite you on board.

The bus is a place of support, safety and occasional silliness for those of us struggling with our relationship with alcohol. Some of us are sober, some are trying to be, some are moderating and aren't ready to give up alcohol just yet.

So whatever your reason for questioning the whys and WTFs of your drinking, hop on board, make yourselves comfortable and join in.

If you want to see what it's like, here's the link to the last thread, the one that saw us through Christmas.

And if you want to know how it all started, here is the link to JWN's original, inspiring thread.

Join us on our journey, you won't regret it.

Shoot! Day 10 & have bloody fallen off the berg.
We had a guest round this evening. Have drunk 2 sloe gins & a beer with my dinner 😞
Must climb right back on now 🐧
(Drinking a herbal tea to water it down).

Hoping you have all done better than me today! X

Day 10 in the bag

Great compliment from your mum Demented bet that gave you a little Boing!

ma he he! Can’t wait to get to that stage myself, i’m going to be blindingly rude to my DS and tell any man under the age of 70 that he’s very nice young man , and if I were 20years younger.....

Is it possible to be thrown out of a care home?

risingsun do not worry,just get back on board. Sloe gin mmmmmm

Ma what a compliment. That made me laugh, just with how to the point the older generation can be.

Morning all. Day 10 will be AF here. Feel good, sleeping better however no movement on weight loss. I’ve not had a drink for 9 days. I’ve been to the gym and exercised hard every day plus walking. Same food intake but not one ounce of weight loss. So frustrating... anyway onwards and upwards. This will not make me cave. Good luck to everybody today.

Hi to mumzilla try to stay strong today. We are all rooting for you.

@dementedma yay!!! You are amazing. Well done on resisting.
Anyone else struggling just keep on keeping on.

Morning to all babes and bears...

Spring - glad to be of service...had the same conversation with Trust last week! If I can stop the wine then absolutely anybody can. I promise you it can be done and your life will be a million times better if you feel you can't moderate it (I can't).

It did take me a few goes until I got to that point but once I was there I no longer wanted it and I've not gone near even a sip since then.

Anyway, got to dash - day 12! Am client-side today so will be back late but then at home until Monday :).

Morning bears - Bernie if you are reading I hope you're ok and rothbury good luck with your presentation today.

xxx

Morning All

Trust yay day 10. The weight loss will come, that I promise. I lost a stone and half over a year. I was eating sweeter things wine substitute I wasn't on a diet. It won't be an instant result but it will happen. Try not to project too far ahead and expect instant results. Keep going you're doing brilliantly

Twattage have a good day. Day 12 you go babe

Ma I love you're mum. Mum's are our biggest critics and so bluntly honest mine's a bit scared of my reaction so doesn't say much these days You're looking good, you're in the 14 trousers, coping with up and downs of DC, wankbadger being an arse AND you haven't dived head first into a wine glass - that is awesome. Keep going Ma let's break your personal record and beyond - you can do this

Trust
I was told at my gym inch loss is more important. Hang on in there. It will start to come. I've not lost a thing and I'm starting day 17 AF today.
Rothbury
Good luck for today.

Yesterday was spent emailing my family back and forth trying to find out just what the chuffing hell is going on. They are in another country so there are time differences to navigate round too. I also cyber stalked the man who is my potential half brother. I couldn't help myself, I added him on messanger. Now I have no idea what to say.

Thanks spanna - and agree with you on the weight. I also lost a stone and a half fairly easily but it does take time. Hence why I'm not weighing at the moment. Concentrating on only one thing.

Can anyone tell me how quickly their sweet tooth cravings kicked in? When I gave up wine I developed a weekly cupcake habit and had to buy two every Saturday to keep it at bay. So far after stopping the beers (they have sugar in too I'm sure) I've not had a sausage of sweet craving - am wondering if it's to come!

x

Morning, hopping on for some company. Day 17 starting. Today I will be kind to myself by staying sober. Finding this a helpful perspective (rather than thinking about denying myself). KOKO babes x

Hi Spanna and Mint thank you for the encouragement. Think you may be right re inch loss. I haven’t measured myself but can see that wine belly has definitely shrunk. Today I am just going to swim and enjoy. It’s a nice way to wind down after work.

Morning everyone!
Spanna, I mentioned I was having alcohol dreams, still having them although not quite as intense last couple nights.
What I have had since finishing detox is a low grade headache, really getting me down now and I realise I'm far more tense and anxious than I initially thought. I was so looking forward to feeling the benefits of not drinking!
I was prescribed Baclofen as an optional medication to help reduce withdrawal/cravings, although I haven't started them, maybe I should?
Hope everyone has a positive, dry day.

Morning all - heading into day 11 here and I have toothache . On the upside, it’s karate tonight so more kicking the wine witch in the face. Hope everyone is ok - I was wondering how MissHoolie was? Reading about how brave she was was one of my triggers for jumping on the bus.

Thanks Trust. Today is a new day. My partner is home today so it's easy not to drink when he's here. It's when I'm alone. But at least it's a day to start today. X

Trust I am the same - Day 13 AF, calorie-counting and loads of gym trips and no weight lost

I’m swapped being a hungover blob for being an aching blob!

Thanks all, smiled don't let one blip knock you off course. You are doing really well

Came into work all boingy , really thinking I had sorted out DS. he promised last night he would be in school today. DH has texted to say he isn't in school....again! I give up.

Oh ma, that sounds rubbish. Is it a sudden thing, or has he been having issues in school for a while? Are you getting any help from the school? I hope you're feeling ok.

ma sorry he’s having difficulties whatever they are. Do you know where he goes when he leaves school premises? I did this a lot and just hung about in parks with my friends. Partly the school wasn’t very good and partly we were showing off,imagining we were total rebels.
Hopefully you can sort whatever the problem is with Ds and it will be something minor such as just being a teen.thinking of you x

Afternoon all.

Woke up at 3.05 am, and didn't get back to sleep until 6am, an hour before my alarm went off (interrupting a nightmare). Typical drinking sleep pattern, except it wasn't because I'm still AF. I have a splitting sinus headache (who was it recommended snorting cider vinegar? I am far too much of a coward for that), aches and fuzziness, just hope I can throw it off quickly.

Ma, DH needs to share some of the mental load of this, would him talking to DS have any effect? I think our DSs are the same age? 15/16? mine has given me his fair share of shit this year, trying to get to the bottom of things by talking just doesn't seem to work. Not helpful, I know, and the school (if they are like ours), simply don't seem to grasp how little parents can do at this age. You can't put him under your arm and carry him in to school and more than I can keep my DS's mouth under control when he is out of my sight (he knows perfectly well what is appropriate and what isn't, but sometimes he just argues, or is funny sarcastic). I can try to stand over his desk to make him do his homework, but he's big enough to put me under his arm and carry ME out of his room!

They really do know how to 'kill your buzz' don't they?