A date (or not) at looooong last with work colleague

[NurseButtercup]

I have been discreetly lusting over my work colleague (let's call him Batman) for almost 12 months. I assumed he wasn't interested because he hasn't responded to any of my little nudges, hints or suggestions (I invited him out for a drink last August).

So I decided to forget about Batman, took a break from dating but in recent weeks I decided to give OLD another go. A bit more successful this time because I've got a date planned for Saturday night with a man I normally wouldn't consider (he's 10 years younger). I thought what the hell, it's time to get dressed, feel beautiful and have some fun - (let's call him Robin).

A few days ago at work, I mentioned the saturday night date with Robin with my female colleague and she turned and said, "what about Batman?"

I laughed and said "what about Batman? He's not interested in me!".

she laughed and said "he clearly is and you are very definitely into him, everybody has noticed."

I'm clearly rubbish at flirting discreetly!!

So she encouraged me to try again, so I did my usual flirting and chatting and subtle probing and I found out that he spent xmas home alone and he's got no plans for NYE.

I sent Batman a text this morning suggesting that we could do something NYE and his reply was "oooohhh 🙂".

ffs!!

Should I continue to pursue Batman or leave well alone?

Should I still go out with Robin on Saturday night?

Pursue batman and robin for now

What does 'ooooh' mean? Yes or no?

Yes go out with Robin. Ooooh is not an answer.

I can't see what emoji he sent which makes a difference IMO. (I just see a little blank box)

But yes still go out with Robin Sat night

Assuming you're not planning either date to take place in a chapel in Las Vegas - definitely go on both dates. Share your (metaphorical) eggs across a number of baskets, and have some fun...

Ooooh
That's not even an answer. It's like a 10 year old wants to get out of homework and doesn't have any emotional intelligence to work out how to facilitate it.

DEFINITELY still go out with Robin!

Yes. You seriously need to go out with Robin. Batman sounds worse than useless...what sort of reply is 'Oooh'? The ball is in batman's court now. Either he gets back to you with a proper answer and firms up some plans or he misses his chance.

Yes DO NOT start chasing Batman - ooooh, is v non committal, so wait for him to text you to firm up plans.

The oooooh would put me off Batman

If batman was interested you'd know about it. Forget him and find others to go out with including robin. Ooohhhhh is not an acceptable answer to an invitation

I'm rooting for Robin.

If you weren't very subtle in your workplace flirting I can only assume Batman spent the last twelve months weighing up what else was available first... But then I am very cynical.

Batman - fuck it. Don't even bother
Nothing is that much hard work.
Fucking oooohhh

You are not committed until you commit so date whoever you choose.......however batman is hardly pursuing you it seems like he has you on the back burner....I’d take myself off

Not sure what "ooohhh" is meant to suggest - utterly baffling! Why can't he just ask you out? I'd find his approach off-putting tbh. Good luck with Robin!

His response sounds like he's embarrassed and doesn't know how to reply, either that or the man is a complete idiot! I think it's safe to say though that if you've asked him out twice and that's the only response he can muster he is not interested.
Enjoy your date with Robin!

Batman is not giving you anything by replying 'Oohh'
Have you replied since then? He doesn't sound very promising.
Keep the date with Robin and look for Spider-Man while you're at it .

Robin has always been a better bet; Batman is so emotionally distant.

I wouldn't want to date someone from work - what if it all goes horribly wrong? What if he's treats you badly? What if you realise you actually don't really fancy him at all when you go out and it then becomes really awkward? Your colleagues have already noticed your flirtation - do you want to be the office gossip? Plus, in lots of workplaces these days it seriously frowned upon.

Sounds like he's not into the idea of a date but is too embarrassed to say no outright? I'm not trying to be harsh about it - it's just the vibe I'm getting from that stupid ooooh.

Have fun with Robin and any other man who shows actual interest. Leave Batman as something nice to look at during boring work days.

Well I'd be tempted to text back in the same kind of manner such as

'Indeed.. :-) '

Then see what comes of it.

I like the “indeed” response!

I’d go for Robin, I mean what kind of adult response is ooohh in this scenario? How old is he?

No wonder he spent Xmas alone :/

If I was in your shoes, Batman every time. Robin sounds like a compromise

‘Oooooooh’? Ugh.

You’ve been straightforward. Going out for a drink shouldn’t feel like trying to decipher the Da Vinci Code.

Team Robin here. Actually more Team Captain America, but if it’s a choice between two...