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A date (or not) at looooong last with work colleague

51 replies

NurseButtercup · 29/12/2017 15:39

I have been discreetly lusting over my work colleague (let's call him Batman) for almost 12 months. I assumed he wasn't interested because he hasn't responded to any of my little nudges, hints or suggestions (I invited him out for a drink last August).

So I decided to forget about Batman, took a break from dating but in recent weeks I decided to give OLD another go. A bit more successful this time because I've got a date planned for Saturday night with a man I normally wouldn't consider (he's 10 years younger). I thought what the hell, it's time to get dressed, feel beautiful and have some fun - (let's call him Robin).

A few days ago at work, I mentioned the saturday night date with Robin with my female colleague and she turned and said, "what about Batman?"

I laughed and said "what about Batman? He's not interested in me!".

she laughed and said "he clearly is and you are very definitely into him, everybody has noticed."

I'm clearly rubbish at flirting discreetly!! Blush Grin

So she encouraged me to try again, so I did my usual flirting and chatting and subtle probing and I found out that he spent xmas home alone and he's got no plans for NYE.

I sent Batman a text this morning suggesting that we could do something NYE and his reply was "oooohhh 🙂".

ffs!!

Should I continue to pursue Batman or leave well alone?

Should I still go out with Robin on Saturday night?

OP posts:
DottyDotAgain · 29/12/2017 18:09

Both. Definitely both. I like Batman's response but not enough to ditch Robin!

Original poster
NurseButtercup · 29/12/2017 21:49

Thank you for your replies...

Batman replied to say he might have another option, so he'll let me know tomorrow!

Charming!

My initial thought of him not being interested was correct.

So I've told him that I've accidentally double-booked so can't make it. Which is now true because my other friend has called me and wants to do something NYE.

I'll go and have fun with Robin and see where that leads me.

Ho hum Grin

OP posts:
saladdays66 · 29/12/2017 21:52

Ooooohh? How very camp. Hmm

I like what you have done. Batman sounds ambivalent at best. give Robin a go!

Worriedrose · 29/12/2017 21:52

Well done! You tried and now you know
Good luck with robin
Batman
Well he's just not interested and that's his prerogative

Nettletheelf · 29/12/2017 22:03

Oooooooh? Is he Frankie Howerd? Kenneth Williams?

He tried to make you his back up option anyway. You have wisely chosen Robin. Have a great time!

Beamur · 29/12/2017 22:07

I think the lukewarm response from Batman would put me off!

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 29/12/2017 22:08

Have a great time with Robin. Batman sounds like a wet lettuce. Well recovered on the double booking too!

overnightangel · 29/12/2017 22:19

“oooohhh 🙂”
Fuck me that’d put me off right away.
Sounds more like a Robin reply to be honest, you may be into the wrong comic, at least you know Spider-Man will always give you one!

EmmaC78 · 30/12/2017 00:14

I am Team Robin here. Hope the date goes well.

Josuk · 30/12/2017 00:18

Is Batman somehow really shy or socially inept?
Just wondering why others picked up on him liking you yet he seems to not get your signals?

But regardless - at this stage of dating - no need to narrow down your options!

OliviaBonas · 30/12/2017 00:23

Robin - let us know how it goes!

Traffig · 30/12/2017 00:34

Robin gets my vote for sure. Have fun!
Batman is no Superman.

Reflexella · 30/12/2017 09:39

Definitely sack Batman off. Never be a possible option. He had his chance - you snooze, you lose!

TheweewitchRoz · 30/12/2017 10:57

Another rooting for Robin - Batman has had his chance & for whatever reason hasn't taken it so definitely time to move on.

twiney · 30/12/2017 11:23

Batman shall now be known as Twatman

Whisky2014 · 30/12/2017 11:31

Batman is an idiot and so is your colleague for pushing that. Clearly not as interested as she made out.
I doubt Robin will lead to anything serious but definitely go out and enjoy!

Original poster
NurseButtercup · 30/12/2017 12:12

Batman shall now be known as Twatman

This is why I love MN the witty onliners are great!! hahaha Grin Xmas Grin

It's his prerogative (and loss) to not jump at the opportunity to discover how fabulous I am. This is confirmation that he's not interested.

Robin has sent a text to confirm plans for later so I'm quietly optimistic that we'll have a good evening.. I will definitely update you all later

OP posts:
Intercom · 30/12/2017 12:59

Glad you know where you are with Batman now. Hope you enjoy meeting Robin!

GottadoitGottadoit · 30/12/2017 13:19

At least you know for certain now and can go on the date all guns blazing (!?) whereas if you hadn't asked Twatman then you might have had reservations.

IllHaveALargeGlassOfRed · 30/12/2017 13:26

Yeah, Batman can go and play with his utility belt on his own! Smile

coalit · 30/12/2017 13:38

I can imagine Batman doing a Frank Spencer impression, does he have a beret? Oooooohhh Betty!

You might be too young to know what I'm talking about. Grin

Nettletheelf · 30/12/2017 14:47

Yeah, Whisky, I also wondered why the OP’s colleague was so keen to tell the OP that Batman was keen on her. She sounds like a shit stirrer.

Be ready to give her the run down on your vastly superior date with Robin, OP. That will teach her!

Psychobabble123 · 30/12/2017 18:02

Have a great night OP!

BitOutOfPractice · 30/12/2017 18:15

I was prepared do give Twatman the benefit of the doubt till he mentioned you as an option. Erm, nope!

I'm a Robinista all the way now

Olderandcolder · 30/12/2017 21:29

Just chipping in to say I went on a date with a work colleague in the summer after mucho flirting... It was a bit meh to be honest. Then just before Christmas I went out with a guy who was 14Shockyears younger than me. It was anything but meh, I'm still smiling.. Definitely go for Robin