A note from a secret admirer...?!

[GeeWhiz]

Somebody left a Xmas card on my car and it read as follows:

"Have you ever thought that out there nearby there's someone, with a bad handwriting and a tendency to leave creepy notes, actually thinks about you." "If only I can tell you who I am...at least for the time being." Signed: "The secret, and terribly creepy admirer. Have a wonderful Xmas!"

Frankly, I'm flattered. I'd think if I, a man, did this to a girl, it'll come across as creepy? Do you think?

@Trill hehe... not sure which is worse, though

Or by someone who is neither a teen nor a woman.
It’s weird and pointless and reminds me of weird and pointless people I know in real life.
The style honestly reminds me of a man who lives near me and is super inappropriate but gets away with it because people see him as eccentric.
I see him as what he is: creepy.
When I call him out on it he becomes dishonest and spiteful.
The similar style of writing here makes me think that if this person were riled too much they would turn nasty.
If I were the recipient I’d be tempted to leave it unopened and put it back where it is.
Op you don’t need to run for the hills If it were a teen, sure they’re not going to hurt you or pursue you.
If you discovered it is a minor and you know them it would be best to respond firmly that it’s not appropriate and ensure to give them a wide berth. Maybe even seek out their appropriate adult as they could be vulnerable targeting strange men in this way.
I honestly don’t think it is a teen tho.
Nor a woman.

@velourvoyageur

Apologies if we got off on the wrong foot. However, your turning my answer into a "don't tell me that, this, and be respectful" strikes me as defensive. I could be wrong, but please understand if you have issues with the so-called patriarchal authority - however you define it and perhaps justifiably - it doesn't necessarily give you the right to project that on me. Not that I downplay how society places women on the receiving end of social prejudice. Pointing out your noncontextual input wasn't meant to undermine your reasoning abilities nor the validity of some of your points. Wasn't 'mansplaining'

As for the handwriting/art style, empirical evidence is at the end of the day a record of one's observations or experiences. To call it a 'claim' is indeed a 'claim'. I must agree, regardless, that in order to substantiate an observed phenomenon - conduct an authoritative study as you say - one needs to analyse it quantitatively or qualitatively.

@Jellyheadbang You're freaking me out

I wouldn't know if that person would turn nasty, but even if that's the case, I'd worry if I wake up someday in somebody's basement.

Your neighbour seems creepy indeed. Does he send you or other people 'notes'?

Think yourself lucky, I once had someone come in through the back garden, leave a letter cellotaped to the back door with his telephone number, and draw large stars over the back of the house.

ExH found the letter first and asked if it was a wind up ('hey sexy babe') then we went out into the garden and found all the stars.

It perturbs me that someone was sneaking around with a marker pen, cellotape, and paper in the middle of the night.

Never happened again, I assume a neighbour was off his head

The fact they mention the word ‘creepy’ twice in a short note would sound like a subliminal message to me!

Stupid note. I think it is a wind-up. I'd chuck it.

If you want to talk to somebody, talk to somebody. I'm shy but have not nor would not write anything so wanky.

OP. Yes neighbour leaves notes. I blocked him on all soca media due to his repeated over familiar and creepy communication attempts ✍🏼.
Attended a party tonight where he was a fellow guest. Could barely look him in the eye. His poor wife has mh issues and I’m sure his behaviour is a Huge trigger.

My in-laws once did this sort of thing years ago to ' test ' me. Very glad to say they are now ex in-laws.

🛋

namethecat glad they’re ex in laws!

There's some handwriting that I could confidently say would be written by a woman.

The note is weird and not at all flattering. Unless the woman you suspect is not from an English speaking country? Maybe it got lost in translation and explains the poor English ?

Did this actually happen @GeeWhiz ?

Sounds very far fetched to me. Like a plotline from a naff daytime soap opera,

It is definitely a puzzler...

1. I still struggle to imagine any woman or girl I’ve ever known to write in that way. 2a)I maintain that we need a screenshot to help narrow it down. 2b)Or more deets re the card: Christmas? Birthday? Postcard? Left blank for your own message? In summary: More info definitely needed please op.

I have a feeling that there will be no screenshots of the alleged messages from the OP @jellyheadbang

Jeeze I would be delighted. What a xmas boost xx

Some people have a problem with fancying someone who just isnt interested don’t they?

I'd find that note completely mad and would assume it had been written by someone who was not emotionally mature. The language is haywire - possibly not English as a first language but more likely just the language of someone whose mind is irrational.

I'd think someone who would write a note like this was odd and definitely creepy. Even if you're shy how can you fancy someone that much if you have not spoken to them. And if you've spoken to them what's the issue with smiling/ flirting a little when you chat to see if there's mutual interest? I can't imagine any woman I've ever known writing an anonymous note to leave on a car- I genuinely can't see a point to it unless you want someone to think you're stalking them.

Creepy or not, I'd worry if I end up with a horse head in my bed .

Merry Christmas, everyone!

I'd call the police if someone left me a note like that

It's a non-threatening note not a sheep's skull