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A note from a secret admirer...?!

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GeeWhiz · 21/12/2017 17:53

Somebody left a Xmas card on my car and it read as follows:

"Have you ever thought that out there nearby there's someone, with a bad handwriting and a tendency to leave creepy notes, actually thinks about you." "If only I can tell you who I am...at least for the time being." Signed: "The secret, and terribly creepy admirer. Have a wonderful Xmas!"

Frankly, I'm flattered. I'd think if I, a man, did this to a girl, it'll come across as creepy? Do you think?

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midnightmisssuki · 22/12/2017 00:31

jesus christ. Bullying? Creepy? Men/Women these days have no chance whatsoever do they! Damned if you do and damned if you don't! I think its sweet - super old fashioned. None of this IM/Whatsapp/email rubbish - a good old fashioned note.

SandyY2K · 22/12/2017 00:45

Are you single and available to pursue anything with her?

If so... and you might like her... go ahead.

It's not bullying IMO. She probably is shy....and one note isn't stalking FGS.

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GeeWhiz · 22/12/2017 01:11

@velourvoyageur Relevant is relative. You departed from the assumption it was creepy. I didn't. Therefore, I didn't consider the bottom note even important. I only raised it in response to others. I choose to find excuses for other people; you never know what their circumstances are. I don't feel threatened by the note neither do I find it creepy. Naturally, my assessment would follow the same pattern.

Are you saying I'm fishing for a feedback?! If you're such a psychic, you might want to give me a hand finding who the secret admirer is. And, I'm afraid you're incorrect, there's such a thing as male/female handwriting, same as there is a difference between female and male artstyles. Many years as an artist I've grown familiar with such differences, although some are quite subtle. Anyhoo, let's not step into this 'gender differences' territory. Not our topic.

Also, please note I'm not here to seek solutions to a problem. It's more about sharing and curiosity. To ramble, so to speak.

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GeeWhiz · 22/12/2017 01:18

@SandyY2K

If she's the one I think she is, then yes. But can't be certain, I'm afraid...

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BastardGoDarkly · 22/12/2017 01:46

Don't suppose you're 'an academic, university lecturer' are you? Hmm

NobodysChild · 22/12/2017 01:49

A tendency to leave creepy notes? How many times equates to 'a tendency'? I think leaving creepy cryptic cards is creepy. Even if this woman is painfully shy in nature, the message just seems odd. So yes, If a man left this, I would find it creepy, and if a woman left it, I would find it creepy. Why not just write merry xmas from a secret admirer?

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GeeWhiz · 22/12/2017 01:49

@BastardGoDarkly Only if that makes you happy...

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MarzipanDild0 · 22/12/2017 01:50

It sounds like she got drunk and got her words muddled up.

BastardGoDarkly · 22/12/2017 01:51

You just have a very similar style to someone, who had a crush on a shy mum at school, that's all.

Sullabylullaby · 22/12/2017 01:52

One has acquired a stalker.

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GeeWhiz · 22/12/2017 01:53

@NobodysChild Funny, this is almost the same message my ex received from a secret admirer and thought was creepy...

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Greensky89 · 22/12/2017 01:56

@BastardGoDarkly A shy mum at school??Confused

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GeeWhiz · 22/12/2017 01:56

@BastardGoDarkly Curious. Link?

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OhLittleBoreOfWhabylon · 22/12/2017 02:20

BastardGoDarkly my thoughts exactly

Jellyheadbang · 22/12/2017 02:42

If I received an anonymous note which contained the word ‘creepy’ (twice) I’d find it creepy.
Also find it odd that a woman would describe herself as creepy as in my mind that’s a word used much more about men than women (just my opinion).

LaBelleSausage · 22/12/2017 02:42

I'd call the police if someone left me a note like that. It seems disturbing to me

Jellyheadbang · 22/12/2017 02:50

Screenshot would be super helpful, having now rtft I can’t imag such an odd not and postscript bring adorned with hearts and smilies.
Honestly really sounds like a gauche teen or somebody with some ‘issues’, as a woman who has made many poor relationship choices and suffered extreme stalking this would leave me feeling nervous .

CheapSausagesAndSpam · 22/12/2017 02:59

I think it reads like a teen with a bad grasp of English wrote it.

"If only I can tell you who I am....at least for the time being"

What? Definitely a teen.

Weezol · 22/12/2017 04:05

I think it sounds like someone shy who likes you and has had a couple of sherbets for courage.
And who is now quietly bricking it that they have made a fool of themselves.
A little discreet enquiring among friends should give you an answer. If you're not interested/free to pursue, it might still boost the sender's confidence a bit that you haven't seen this a source of mockery but as something that you were touched doing by.

As little as 20 years ago, me and my then boyfriend used to write to each other a couple of times a week because mobile phones were hugely ex pensive.

ReturnofSaturn · 22/12/2017 04:28

Tbh, I would have just assumed this was a randomer on a wind-up.

Trills · 22/12/2017 07:40

It's the sort of thing I could imagine doing as a teenager, writing a bunch of (non gender specific) anonymous love notes and put them on people's cars.

genever · 22/12/2017 07:44

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velourvoyageur · 22/12/2017 09:12
  1. Please do not tell me what to do, or what to talk about and what to avoid, and what "our topic" is or what it's not. You are a man who is talking among mostly women. Better to be respectful.
  1. In your OP: I'd think if I, a man, did this to a girl, it'll come across as creepy? Do you think? You invited opinions, you introduced the idea it could be creepy, and then somehow "left out" a crucial bit of info. It was odd.
  1. If you do want to argue that you can reliably identify the sex of a person by looking at their handwriting, I'd first brush up on the differences between male & female (nouns denoting the sex of organisms) / male & female (adjectives relating to sex) / feminine & masculine (adjectives relating to dynamic gendered engagement with the social environment and/or secondary sex characteristics) / girls & women. So as not to piss people off.

Re: Male and female art styles - no authoritative study could ever be conducted to investigate this, given the historic sidelining of female artists, so I'm honestly baffled you feel comfortable making such a claim.

  1. I've made it quite clear what I think, so I don't believe you need any further hand from me in determining who I think wrote those words.
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GeeWhiz · 22/12/2017 09:21

@CheapSausagesAndSpam I know! Right? If she's a teenager, then I'm running for the hills...I'm 33 for FS. Confused

@ LaBelleSausage Call the police?! Hehe...makes her seem like the woman from "Misery"...was it Steven King's?

@genever Shit!!! Must be my evil twin.

Guys, is there a page for the acronyms on this site?

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Trills · 22/12/2017 09:41

If she's a teenager, then I'm running for the hills

Nobody thinks that this was written by a teenager who fancies you, you numpty.

We think it might be written by a teenager as a joke.

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