Did he cheat?

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Hey guys this is my first post here I really just need some advice.
So I've been with my OH for 4 years I had a daughter before we met and we have a little girl together. He is a great dad i cannot fault him on that, in the past he has not been honest with me about money but we are working on that. A few months ago I was sending an important email for him and came across 2 rather private photos of one of his female friends, when I asked him about them he told me that one of his other friends has been sleeping with her and sent him these photos so he put them in his email so he could confront her with them (She is married and has 2 kids) he admits he was stupid to do that and to not mention to me about it when he found out but the problem is now I don't know what to believe and I can't face being around his friend as she's either 1 having an affair with my OH or she's having an affair with someone else. It's really starting to get me down and if I try talk to him about it I know he will ask why I'm brining it back up again. I should also add he says he said about it to her and she replied well my husband does it to me so why shouldn't I do it to him.
Appreciate any input I feel rather lost with it all
Thank you for reading :)

His mate will cover for him

She will lie as wont want her world to come crashing down

Face facts he has naked photos of her for one reason only he’s been sleeping with her

He will now have covered his tracks and deleted anything else that is incriminating

I'd also assume the mate would automatically say "yup, I sent them".

The woman is a different story but if she is sleeping with your partner I'd assume her response will be an effort to prevent you finding that out.

Asking people in person you see their reactions, but text gives them time to think about it.

I dont think you can take what the friends says as sending a text gives them time to think about their answer and the fact they are both a pair of deceiving liars anyway aparently having an affair you probably wont get the truth.
Why would they be in his emails, I think he is lying, They all sound really sleazy and tbh I would make sure I get to the bottom of it.

Ive not heard anything back from either of them, my partner is still insisting that he never slept with her and that it was a stupid move to save the photos. Im going to leave it till after xmas for the sake of my girls but if ive still got nothing after xmas then we are done. Thank you everyone for your replies

he swears he wouldnt because his dad did to his mum
Bless you for thinking that makes a difference!
It doesn't.
And you know he's lying.
I hope you get some answers soon.

Just an update we are over, he wasn't having an affair with her but he has been lying I've spoken to her I've seen messages he has sent her asking her to lie for him. Just have to get through Christmas day then I can start building a life on my own. Thank you again to everyone who has replied to me. Why are men such pricks lol

What was she lying about?

If he wasn't having an affair why does he have the pics? We're they fit his friend or not? I'm confused.

Either way, you do not deserve this and I am so sorry xx

He lied about the photos being sent by the guy and that the guy and girl were having an affair, the message I seen from my OH to the girl said can you please just say it happened because it will keep her quiet. He is not saying the woman's husband sent him the pictures but I've told him it's over I'm done I don't like liars and I'm not putting up with it. I feel I will never know the whole truth but at least now I know he has lied and I can move on without him

So she sent the pics to your DH then? Did she admit that? Xx

Now saying**

Basically I can't trust a word he says it's unfortunate that it's happened but now I can deal with it

No she says she didn't send the pictures so I have no clue who sent them but honestly right now it makes no difference the damage is done

Did she not question herself how he got hold of the pictures? If someone had pictures like that of me I would like to know where they came from?
She possibly trying to cover her own ars now the possible affair is coming out?

She did ask where he got them from I don't know where they are from though. I do know that I can't keep digging for more information what's done is done I can't be with someone that is going to lie to me

No of course you cant, Sorry Op what a shitty end to the year,

Oh I totally agree that lying is lying and good for you that your not accepting it.
The whole thing is a strange situation but good for you.

Defo strange but I don't need to put up with it I deserve better it's a shame because he genuinely is a good dad

His excuses are so flimsy a light breeze would knock them over. He is lying OP.

You sound like you're dealing with this really well Aaa89 and doing the right thing.
It sounds as though either she's sent the photos, in which case there's something going on between them, or if she is being honest and doesn't know how he got them he has somehow very creepily managed to get a hold of and keep naked photos of his friend. All the possibilities do not indicate someone I would want to be with.

OP - for what it’s worth - I think she is lying too.
Unless those pictures are taken with a spy camera - she must know who she sent these pictures to.

Yeah I did think she was lying saying she has never sent anyone a photo. I know neither of them are innocent in all of this. Just have to think about my girls now :)

OP - if you care to know - you can tell her that you’ll forward these to her H unless she tells you the truth.
See how fast her memory clears up.

Well done, op. It's clear you don't know the full truth and possibly never will but I admire you for acknowledging it's the lying that is the problem.

No point staying with a liar. You get to a point there is no point talking to them as you cannot believe a word they say.

Thanks AnyFucker I don't believe I will ever find out but yeah I don't need to be with someone I cannot trust