Hi,
I'd be so grateful for opinions/advice on my current situation. I've been with my DP for almost three years, we don't live together, he's been a massive support this year as I'm going through the most awful of times. I have no friends apart from one male friend whom I don't see but we text now and then. Nothing flirty or sexual, just the kind of texts you'd send to a female friend.
DP absolutely hates him. Has never met him, but detests him. He said he was a 'deal breaker' which is why I don't see my friend anymore and just text him.
Yesterday, DP came round and we had a fantastic afternoon and we had dinner. I showed him something on my phone (which is always lying around and free to access, nothing to hide) and he saw a text from my friend. He literally got up and left. Didn't question me, didn't ask anything, just said he had to go home. (By the way, his phone is always firmly on his person, he never leaves it lying around.)
When he got home, he sent me a text to say that he'd left because I was 'cheating' and 'lying'.
At this point I will mention that he has two close female friends who he texts constantly, goes out with (and lies about going out with them), has cut dates short with me to go to parties with one or the other of them. I 100% know he's not cheating on my and these women have been friends of his before I ever came into his life, but how is it I'm 'cheating' by exchanging texts once or twice a week when it's okay for him to go out with other women?
I've called and called him, I've sent texts, emails. No reply. He's ignoring everything. I'm very unwell and have to go into hospital for ten days in the new year, he knows this. I also have other massive problems that I'm facing, again, he knows.
Do you think it's just an excuse to break up with me by blaming me for 'cheating' because he can't handle everything else? We're in our 40s ffs!!