Received Facebook message about bf cheating

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Hello
So I have received two messages over the last couple of days about my boyfriend. I don't know what to think or what to do so some impartial advice would be great.
First I received a message from someone accusing my boyfriend of cheating on me and that he was on a dating app. This account then immediately disappeared so it looks like it was deleted. I bought this up with my boyfriend as I have been worried that he was on a dating app in the past. He denied this and said that someone must have the wrong person/ be a hoax.

I then received another message a day later (from a different account) saying that this person had been discussing with my boyfriend that they were going to rekindle their relationship and he had said that we were no longer together and she wanted to confirm that was true. Again I bought this up with him and he said he thinks it may be a crazy ex and that it's rubbish. I replied to this message (which seems like it's from a real account) saying that we are still together and that I don't believe her.
She's replied saying that's fine, I don't have to believe her but she believes me. And sorry for any upset.

Now i don't know what to do. I can't stop thinking about it. I think it's a a hoax because of the first deleted account and that it would be too coincidencental to get 2 messages together. But I appear to have my doubts as I can't get it out of my head.

Don't have a sad life
Don't wake up.in the future and wish you hadn't wasted your best years being a mug
Because you will

facebook accounts take 14 days to delete/disappear. It could be that they messaged you and then blocked you which is why you can’t see them

He's lying

Why would anyone go to the trouble of making a fb account in order to message you
Or indeed bother to message you , for no good reason
Wake up

He is soooo LYING

So he lied about her. He is giving you a little info each time. Hiding ehat he thinks he can het away with.

Definitely find out which dating app...likely to be tinder or POF, make a profile and do a quick search...or ask him to hand over his phone?

He's cheating imo! She said 'it's ok that you don't believe me, I believe you' or something very similar. She's provided you with some details that add up and he's admitted to now knowing her and speaking to her more recently where previously he made out it was 10 years ago? Is that all about right? Next he will admit to meeting her once 'but nothing happened' I'd call his bluff, tell him you have other details and this is his chance to come clean or get out, he will feed you little bits at a time, then get rid of him anyway. There's a reason he's so attached to his phone!

Why bother wasting any more time and energy
Fgs

She said they didn't meet. And that it wasn't her that sent the first message so I think have to conclude that he's been contacting multiple people, just not sure if he's been meeting up with them. I have found his tinder account though.
Dump him?

Of course

What alternative is there ?

Sorry I got that wrong.
He is still contacting women (woman) with a view to start seeing them in whatever capacity. Having a dating profile is grounds for kicking him to the curb. Does it have a recent picture? If so remember that when he pleads that it is an old one he 'forgot' about. You can have I think my first LTB after over 13 years on here.

Of course, dump him.

You have your answer, staring you in the face. Run.

Tinder account... he's leading a double life or trying to.

He's a snake.

He's a cheat OP.

He's contacting women. Behind your back, in the hope of getting somewhere.

You only know because two have contacted you.

How many others haven't bothered?

It's my bet this is only the tip of the iceberg.

Do yourself a favour and walk.

Dump him. But what you could do is find out her number then get him to show you his online phone bill. Check txts sent and received and if her number appears then you have your answer.

You've been together 4 years and he's on tinder. Definitely dump him. I am far too forgiving far too often but would not forgive this.

Nah, he's obviously a keeper

Funding Tinder or similar would be the end for me. Can you tell when he last accessed it?

How did you find him in there?

Get clever before you say anything and get yourself sorted as much as you can financially.you're not married so no divorce.
If you have a joint account go Christmas shopping but make sure you get cash back everywhere you go and take as much as you can. Hide it. You may have been paying for his secret love life for years.
If you own the property you can change the locks.
If he owns the property start looking now for a new place and secretly book a day off work and a van to move yourself and your stuff out while he is out.
Any joint savings, take your share.

Take all paperwork.
If you have dc take everything they need it do what you can to stay in the house if you own/rent with your name on the rental.
Good luck op and we are with you. I was in a similar situation 10 years ago. He lied and lied and tried to destroy me and our dc. We are happy. Can't say he is. Karma.
Get yourself sorted then Lyn, then get yourself to the sexual health clinic.

Sorry I had this with my ex H random messages from people saying they slept with him I brushed it off

Fast forward a short 2.5yr marriage full of lies & I have no idea how many affairs. He married the last one & they now have a baby

So many people tried to help & I gave him the benefit of the doubt.

Trust is hard especially when broken.

Yes, you now know and you need to dump him.
You are young so don't 'settle' for someone who disrespects you this much!

Op, I'm really sorry to read that this isn't the outcome you was hoping. Sending virtual hugs 💕 I've been where you are, the difference with me though is I'm now so so greatly appreciated he did what he did. My life changed when I left him for the better.

Gosh what a mess, so sorry op

How did you find his Tinder account?