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He told me cheated to 'wipe the slate clean'

74 replies

aliceralice123 · 25/11/2017 20:44

Here goes - My partner and I were going through a rough patch and today he told me that in order for us to move forward he wanted to wipe the slate clean and tell me some truths...

Oh but first...
His previous girlfriend of 5 years he cheated on a LOT, so red flags were up at the start.. I gave him the benefit of the doubt.
He slept with someone else when we were dating and lied to me about it, 8 months later he told me.

What I found out today -
A few weeks into the relationship he slept with another girl, at this point we were living together (yes, it moved quickly!). Half way through the relationship he 'snuggled' with a girl on our sofa. Then about 7 months in he kissed someone else whilst on a work trip but 'declined the offer to go back to theirs'.. I found Tinder on his phone by month 10, questioned him, he said he only downloaded it the other day when we were arguing. By month 11 he was in texting convo with the second girl he slept with to arrange seeing her again..

So my question is.. would you get back with someone who had done this all within the first year of a relationship?!

OP posts:
MyfatheristheKing · 25/11/2017 20:45

Run.

Cambionome · 25/11/2017 20:46

No. No. Absolutely not.

tygr · 25/11/2017 20:46

No. You deserve so much better.

Toast3 · 25/11/2017 20:46

No....just, no!
So sorry OP 😫

QuietNinjaTardis · 25/11/2017 20:46

No. Obviously. He's a wanker and a liar and a cheat and he doesn't give a shit if you know it.

MegFlyAway · 25/11/2017 20:46

Dear god no! Why would you have put up with all that?!

Whatififall · 25/11/2017 20:47

Nope.
Wipe that slate clean ready to write on it in future with a partner who loves and respects you.

inlectorecumbit · 25/11/2017 20:47

God no.

Life is too short for that shit.

roobrr · 25/11/2017 20:47

No way.

One mistake is enough for most people, please don't let yourself be treated like crap.

MyDarlingWhatIfYouFly · 25/11/2017 20:48

God no. Are you considering it???

LillyLollyLandy · 25/11/2017 20:48

No. I’d walk away. You cannot trust this man.

bastardkitty · 25/11/2017 20:49

Absolutely no way.

ijustwannadance · 25/11/2017 20:49

Why do you even have to ask?!
He will never change. Have some self respect and tell him to fuck right off.

lookatyourwatchnow · 25/11/2017 20:49

I can't believe you need to ask!

TangledSlinky · 25/11/2017 20:52

Fuck no! Why are you even asking?

NearlyChristmasNow · 25/11/2017 20:53

No way Jose

riceandpeas123 · 25/11/2017 20:54

Was he thinking this was some sort of confession amnesty? You deserve so much better, sorry op Sad

BrandNewHouse · 25/11/2017 20:54

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SparklyMagpie · 25/11/2017 20:55

Why the fuck would you? I mean seriously...

garmsfresh · 25/11/2017 20:56

You really need to ask LOL

notangelinajolie · 25/11/2017 20:56

Telling you isn't going to change anything, he still did it. He sounds like an idiot. Get rid and find someone who respects you.

aliceralice123 · 25/11/2017 20:56

Thank you all so much, it is good to know that my thoughts are not irrational!

OP posts:
CoyoteCafe · 25/11/2017 21:07

no no no
I also gently suggest that you work on yourself to avoid getting swept into another relationship with another wanker so quickly.

HelenaHB · 25/11/2017 21:20

He sounds like a complete ass. Run for the hills!

Straycatblue · 25/11/2017 21:35

If this is how he's behaving at the start of the relationship when most people would be on best behaviour and making an effort to impress, imagine how much worse its going to get.

It sounds like from your post hes cheated on you at least 6 times in your first year together.

I say this kindly, I think you need to work on your boundaries and self esteem.