He told me cheated to 'wipe the slate clean'

[aliceralice123]

Here goes - My partner and I were going through a rough patch and today he told me that in order for us to move forward he wanted to wipe the slate clean and tell me some truths...

Oh but first...
His previous girlfriend of 5 years he cheated on a LOT, so red flags were up at the start.. I gave him the benefit of the doubt.
He slept with someone else when we were dating and lied to me about it, 8 months later he told me.

What I found out today -
A few weeks into the relationship he slept with another girl, at this point we were living together (yes, it moved quickly!). Half way through the relationship he 'snuggled' with a girl on our sofa. Then about 7 months in he kissed someone else whilst on a work trip but 'declined the offer to go back to theirs'.. I found Tinder on his phone by month 10, questioned him, he said he only downloaded it the other day when we were arguing. By month 11 he was in texting convo with the second girl he slept with to arrange seeing her again..

So my question is.. would you get back with someone who had done this all within the first year of a relationship?!

No, no, no. You are worth more than that.
Who does he think he is???

He’s telling you this because he thinks you’ll stay. And then he can always fall back on ‘well i told you what I was like’.

Please prove him wrong, and leave.

When someone tells you who they are, listen.

Ask him to leave and learn the lesson about moving too fast. Guys that move this fast are almost always not good news

Can you see how mind fucked he’s made you that you even need to ask this question?

Yep wipe the slate clean.... with a new lovely faithful guy. Seriously move on from him he’s got away with it multiple times and he will continue to do it all the time he can get away with it.

Errr, no. Why are you even asking this?

No. It cannot possibly be worth it

Fuck THAT and his grubby clean slate for a game of soldiers.

Could you seriously ever trust him again if that's what he gets up to in your honeymoon period? Get rid.

Keeper?/Not a keeper?
You decide.
But yanno, it's a no-brainer.

He's trying to get you to validate his behaviour by accepting it.
If you want to live with someone who will always 'play the field', let him stay.
Otherwise, tell him to get on his bike.

Life is too short to waste on a man who cares about his dick more than he cares about you.

Wtf were you thinking? Avoid wasting any more time with this cheating twat.

Get an STD test, btw. I bet there's plenty of ONS that he didn't bother to rub in your face.

Sorry, it’s a No from me.

I wouldn't touch this guy .... unless I was suited and booted like I was walking into a clean room ... no bloody thanks

Clearly he's not into you to the point where he is willing to be exclusive. run don't walk away and consider yourself lucky....after you've had a full std check up.

You do realise he's telling you because he knows you'll stay. It has nothing to do with wiping the slate clean and everything to do with making you insecure and easy to control. He is an evil fucker and you need to get away from him.

Nooooo

Are you still living together? Kick him out, you deserve better

Tell him to piss off.
Nasty little wanker.

It's not like he's only done it once! He's continually cheated.

Wtf? No. Why does he 'want to wipe the slate clean'? So you'll trust he's telling you the truth from here on in?

Although having said that, I would rather he told me than not. If your situation was different (ie married for ages with DC), I would have slightly more respect that he'd come clean, and could therefore possibly work on it rather than be suspicious forever... But that's not your situation.

And I bet there’s more (which is worse) that he has “conveniently” forgotten to mention. Run for the hills - you deserve much better than this man.

He hasn't been faithful to you at any time. He will never stop cheating.