The images he left on my phone after borrowing it for a month....

[Stacey761]

Hi ladies!
Advice would be greatly appreciated here! I'm sure we've all come across this issue before.
So, me and my partner have been together for 2 years. He went travelling for 3 months a year ago (I went with him for a month)
Anyway, we have recently moved in together. (Renting)
His phone had broken so I lent him my old one. He gave it back and I went to factory restore it so I could sell it. I didn't snoop at anything but I noticed his photos were on one drive (as I was removing accounts). I saw our travel photos and went through them as they were of us. But when I got to the part after I had returned to the UK... I saw about 4 videos of him ejaculating and more dick pictures. These were not sent to me. There were also photos of an ex college student he used to teach that he had saved from her Facebook profile.
I stumbled across them completely innocently and I did not check his messages to look for answers. About an hour after it had digested... I decided to confront him. And I had predicted what his answer would be... "i was going to send them to you" and surely enough, that was his excuse along with "I wanted to see how it looked, I've done this a few times"
So... my instinct in this day and age is that they were for someone, even though he has sworn that they were not sent to anyone)

What are people's thoughts? It's very unlikely that they were for his own benefit but he won't admit to anything. It's very bizarre. Anyone been here before? What did you do? I don't know if I should just forget the whole situation or not!
What is it with men and their obsession with dick pics aye!!!!

Good for you OP!! you deserve so much better!

I know I could save someone else the aggro as well!!!!!
Funny thing is,he's one of those guys who HAS to be the nice guy. If he does wrong,he hates the fact that people's opinions of him will be lower and i guess this is the reason why he won't own up to anything.
I think back through everything and realise the amount of bullshit he's said to me.
Oh and is it normal for a guy to sneak off to the bathroom for a wank when his girlfriend is over? That's how it used to be before we moved in. This would also interfere with our sex life as he can't go more than once a day. And then when he could have sex, it was a 30 second act!! (Sorry if too much info!)
I think the poor moron has a wittle bit of a wanking problem. Wittle. Ha.
I'm going to get through this despite how tough it is.

if I could brand him I could save someone else the aggro of going through this too

So glad you've decided enough is enough, OP. Yes, you will get through. Lots of support here - the 'no contact' thread is very helpful when going through the almost inevitable "have I done the right thing? " phase of a breakup, and you're tempted to get back in touch (ugh!) with the wanker (yes, definitely a wanking addiction, hence the sexual problems).

You deserve - and will get - a much better partner, when you're ready

It sounds as though he loves himself far more than he could ever love anyone else.

I’d never want to be with someone who turned their mistakes and bad behaviour into my issue and my fault.