The images he left on my phone after borrowing it for a month....

[Stacey761]

Hi ladies!
Advice would be greatly appreciated here! I'm sure we've all come across this issue before.
So, me and my partner have been together for 2 years. He went travelling for 3 months a year ago (I went with him for a month)
Anyway, we have recently moved in together. (Renting)
His phone had broken so I lent him my old one. He gave it back and I went to factory restore it so I could sell it. I didn't snoop at anything but I noticed his photos were on one drive (as I was removing accounts). I saw our travel photos and went through them as they were of us. But when I got to the part after I had returned to the UK... I saw about 4 videos of him ejaculating and more dick pictures. These were not sent to me. There were also photos of an ex college student he used to teach that he had saved from her Facebook profile.
I stumbled across them completely innocently and I did not check his messages to look for answers. About an hour after it had digested... I decided to confront him. And I had predicted what his answer would be... "i was going to send them to you" and surely enough, that was his excuse along with "I wanted to see how it looked, I've done this a few times"
So... my instinct in this day and age is that they were for someone, even though he has sworn that they were not sent to anyone)

What are people's thoughts? It's very unlikely that they were for his own benefit but he won't admit to anything. It's very bizarre. Anyone been here before? What did you do? I don't know if I should just forget the whole situation or not!
What is it with men and their obsession with dick pics aye!!!!

He’s a liar. Get rid.

All the ! make me assume you're quite young and will enjoy the drama of him choosing you.

Dick pics are horrible. Fucks sake, it looks less than lovely in real life why would you want to look at a photo of one ? .

I'm sure we've all come across this issue before
Nope, we've not all come across this before.** It's not usual behaviour and you shouldn't have to put up with it.

Honestly, I'd dump him just for saying they were for me! Gross

Gross. Who would want to see video of that.
He’s lying. What did he say about the Facebook pics? Id want answers and would get his phone to investigate. But then I am a psycho. Others are right you should probably just quit while you’re ahead. But for me - in order to stay away and not be reeled back in by the lies and covers that he will no doubt come out with if you say you’re done - id want to have as much info as I can

Maybe he was hoping there was going to ban an adult version of You've Been Framed and he was going to send it in!!??
Maybe you would have got a share of the £250?!
Seriously he is a wanker in every sense of the word.

You did trust him but I struggle to see why you would trust somebody who has proved themselves untrustworthy

Men are weird.

Who wants to film themself ejaculating? And who on earth thinks anyone else wants to see that? It's not even "amateur porn".

Gasp, I had already cleared the phone. I was tempted to check but I thought best not to.

The explanation for he ex student was "I have no explanation for those" so I suspect it was just pictures to "help him"

It's just so confusing. And then I feel a bit of resentment... who goes backpacking Australia and has time to record so many videos and take so many pictures!?

I'm 30, so I feel too old to be dealing with this. My body clock isn't going to last forever! Gasp!

He’s clearly lying. Even if he is telling the truth (he’s not), you don’t believe him so the relationship is dead anyway.

Life is too short to be dealing with this crap. Get rid and move on.

Tell him he is right; you don't trust him after what has happened. Then get to work on unraveling things. He is unf^&%ingbelievable.

Oh God, don't stay with this turd to have kids. Your clock is not finishing by Friday. You could meet your future husband and father of yours kids next week.

Time to leave this wanker.

You're 30 and you really don't have time to waste on someone like this.

Not only is he lying, but he is also callous and stupid. Who in the hell gives back a "dirty" phone they used? Even with work phones, that I wouldn't use for anything personal, I would remove all my messages and images and even my old accounts and Bluetooth connections. It's just the considerate thing to do.

Furthermore, whatever that student profile photo was for, it can only be for creepy reasons. I can't image the student in question would be happy he did that.

You deserve better OP.

Photo of college student were to probably assist his wanking. If he wanted to see himself doing that, could he not have watched in a mirror??! He clearly wanted to film himself to send to someone. Grim.

"I am sure we have all come across this issue before"

Nope. Only in sleazy cheating fuck land.

He girl he admitted to sexting ages ago was in fact this student. But this apparently stopped in June last year. The new pictures that he had saved from Facebook (with the FB mark in the name) were from the very end of last year at the same time the "videos" were made. I did get over the sexting but I won't let myself stick around "to get over" something else.
But there's a part of me that really needs to know the truth.

And if you're wondering, apart from that... it has been a healthy relationship. Well... until now of course.

I'm trying to form a plan for if I leave. It's going to be easier if I leave him with the house.

OP, is the house in your name or his? Don't make it easy for him. He doesn't deserve that. If need be, kick him out and keep the house for yourself.

Seriously, he's a tutor and he sexts his students and keeps pics of them in his wank bank.

This alone says a lot about his scruples. He's untrustworthy and his moral compass is all messed up.

The vids are just more evidence that he's sleazy. And why does he need to take vids of himself ejaculating so that 'he can see what it looks like' when he can just look down to see when he's doing the biz?

I'm sorry this has happened. But seriously, consider what life would be like with this man with a few children in the mix. He's a risk.

Why do guys think anyone would want to see a photo of their dick, let alone a video of them ejaculating??

I blame porn. It gives men an over inflated idea of themselves and how women are supposed to ‘worship’ them.

Op he sounds like a complete creep. Honestly you deserve better.

Forgot to say you don’t need to justify snooping on your own phone. And I’m surprised you haven’t ran a mile already, he’s a teacher who sext’s his students? How predatory.

Why would he need a video of himself ejaculating to ‘see what it looked like’? Surely he could just, you know, look down?

The main point being...

You can't grasp it, nan ?