Neighbours and sex embarrassment

[Saz432]

DH are going through a particularly active sex period at the moment (making up for lost time after babies I guess). It tends to go on quite a while (not just sex obviously, hours of that would get a bit boring).

We moved into our terraced house a few months ago and have a nice couple about our age living on one side of us. He even cut our hedge for us when we first moved in while he was doing his own, really nice people.

Anyway, so I'm not a screamer or anything but I'm not silent either. Our bed is against the shared wall with them. I didn't think it would be too bad as we haven't really heard them much so figured the sound proofing was pretty good. Two nights ago we were at it from about 9pm to 1am on and off (I know, really should get more sleep!).

Then last night we went to bed and they were clearly having a dinner party or something (so obviously downstairs) and we could hear them SO clearly. Then they went to bed and we heard them having very quiet brief sex (you could tell it was quiet but we heard it anyway).

I am mortified. They must have heard so much stuff in the last few weeks, which I'm now obviously replaying in my mind and cringeing. Oh god.

How am I ever going to look these people in the eye again? How am I ever going to have sex again? I somehow need to find a way to move the bed away from that wall.

So much shame. Any tips? Do I send them a bottle of wine and an apology?! Pretend it didn't happen? There's literally no way they haven't heard us on many occasions.

Ooops. Oh well, at least you know now. Unless you did/said something particularly unusual I'm sure it'll all be forgotten in no time not, but I'm trying to help

I'm glad we're at the end of the terrace and two spare bedrooms away from our neighbours now 😊

I think I'd look at putting another layer of plasterboard on the wall and getting that plastered over at the very least.

Don’t know why people are embarrassed, sex is a normal part of life, yes it can’t be uncomfortable others hearing but if you’re not a practising porn star then don’t worry about it.

Haha Pink, I'll bet that made for an interesting atmosphere.

When I was a young teenager I used to babysit for a local single mum who worked in a pub nearby. One night she asked me to stay over in her daughters room, with her 10 year old daughter in her bed, as she was going to be out late. Woke up at some ungodly hour to hear a man screaming "I'm going to fuck your brains out" repeatedly and lots of particularly fake pornstar noises from her. She'd dumped her poor daughter on the sofa, who was no doubt awake through it all. Absolutely grim, and a bit of a shock for me as I wasn't exactly worldly at that point.

I had a flatmate at university who was incredibly straight laced and shy - until she got a boyfriend and then I would regularly hear her demanding bum sex, in more colourful terms obviously! It's always the quiet ones.

Annie oh god, I hadn't thought of that. I will find a way to muffle it!

Yawn