Battling on!

[lollipop7]

So I'm starting a new thread following on from 0I don't know what to do" as we're almost full.
Blimey! How did that happen!

Seems lots of you are rather ruddy marvellous and want to keep going on this journey with me so I'm opening a new chapter.
Will be back with a proper update later 💐

@Beka he runs one of those wheelie bin cleaning franchises. So not a keyhole surgeon. Plus the cut was at the top of his finger.
He rolled up in a top of the range BMW full of crocodile tears about feeling terrible but hospital forcing him to report the bite and he dog.
My mates reckon he's on a mission for compo. I do think he was deliberately shoving his hand through he had heard the dog barking and o reasonable person would have put his hand through.

But the law is the law.
If he reports
The dog and I am taken to court I've no money or savings to pay a compensation order so he won't get
More than a fiver a week out of me.

Everything keeps going wrong

Lollipop I did something pretty shitty tbh to avoid issue with my dog. My neighbour let his dog jump in and out of peoples gardens and I was at my front door with a friend and my bitch took offence to this big dog just bounding in over our garden fence and went for him. Unfortunately other owner was closer and really kicked my dog and left her with some injuries but I was still horrified that she had gone for the other dog but had nipped his ear and drawn blood. The guy was really scary and saying he was going to get her put down. Luckily I had a friend in another town that took her for a few weeks until it blew over and I just told the guy I’d got rid of her and he left it at that. I don’t think he’d have much of a leg to stand on as she came off worse due to him booting her and they were both trespassing but I didn’t want the drama.

Tell him his services are no longer required and that you will deal with the dog yourself. He wants to report the dog it’s nothing to do with the hospital twat.

I have a friend who's disinter said she'd take her in for a few weeks to keep her safe if necessary.
I don't want to get into any trouble though I've got so much on my plate

I've been given a free place on the Freedom programme after Christmas for twelve weeks.

Has anyone here done this course?

It's recommended on here all the time.
It's a life changer.
Very pleased you get to do it.

Thanks hellsbells that's good to know.
I'm actually looking forward to it from what I've read about it.
My talking therapy starts soon too so perhaps I will feel less afraid and have more tools to equip me to get through the bad days.

Hey lollipop sorry I've gone a bit quiet, just want you to know I'm here cheering you on with your little lollipops and baby c.
As always sending lots of love and support. The freedom programme is truly a life changer for people in circumstances like yours. I've recommended and referred people for it and the reviews have been raving and honestly I've seen people's outlooks and families change for the better. Good luck with the talking therapy, remember it is all for the benefit of your beautiful family.

So new solicitors have informed me I'm being dragged back to court for a new Contact Hearing.
He just won't stop will he. Something else awful to look forward to. Apparently it's on the basis of my having breached the previous one. What a fucking nerve

I hope he gets the sack and can't afford to do this anymore.
I hate him

Is your solicitor aware of New practice direction for dv. Interim contact should not take place until fact finding and risk assessment

Yes make sure these new solicitors are up to speed and know that the Twat breached the court order, not you.

Yes I've gone with a solicitors recommended by my women's refuge who are apparently very on the ball, with all matters related to do. So I am assuming that will be her angle with the updated pd12j as of October.
Quite frankly nobody could be as shit as the last ones so I'm at least a bit calmer and more (darent say it £ hopeful 🤞🏻!

I've got all my ducks in a row with the evidence of breach. My instructions this time are simple. Go for the throat.

@lollipop7 not do good about the court hearing.

But my friend recently did the freedom programme. It’s made a huge difference to her and I’m seeing a new confidence and bounce in her step.

Hello Lollipop. A lot of ladies I work with have done the Freedom Programme and it’s literally changed their life.

Pooch won’t be put to sleep, don’t worry.

Hope you’re holding up. This bastard doesn’t know when to stop, does he! Sending lots of love x

He’s clearly either very stupid or very mentally ill.
I hope your new solicitor can wipe the floor with him.

Oh Lollipop, its just relentless isn't it.
How is your bigger DS now? is he less sad,
How is your wonderful Mum ? Are you going to get housing near her? You need to give her the biggest hug, & say she literally saved your life, & you love her ! I'm sure you do, but you have so much on, with stunning new baby & Dc & fucking bastard X, & incompetent law people, & CAFCASS .
Please get a phone with the incoming number showing & both you & your Mum cansimply let it ring. Stop answering this incessant calls.
There is nothing you need to hear, he can email.
Set up an inbox just for him, & only read his bullying occasionally when you feel ready. or do you have a friend who could edit, & pinpoint anything important ?
Did you get baby registered in your name ? & X isn't on the birth cert ?

Oh lollipop sorry to hear he’s dragging you back to court, I was really hoping he would lose interest soon

Hope you’re ok lollipop. I really don’t think they can do anything to your little dog it was just an accident. Hasn’t that arsehole ran out of money yet

So back at court in two weeks.
I'll have a four week old baby who's breastfeeding every hour. Just awful.

I've got my GP letter still which states that I shouldn't be in Court before Christmas.
The hearing is apparently to decide the direction of the case moving forward.
Just more fucking bullying.

Can't you get an adjournment? This is absurd. It seems like an abuse of process.

Why is no one listening to each other even in the case of the court and solicitors. Do they genuinely think your doctor is dicking about? Does everybody forget to apply empathy and think “wait if I was in this person shoes” it does seem that no matter what you put to them it’s disregarded but for what?

Has the guy been back about your dog?

How ridiculous to expect you in court lollipop, hopefully your solicitor can sort something out.

Police came today in relation to my complaint, very nice but arse covering as you’d expect.

I have emailed my new solicitor to see what can be done. I’m still in quite a lot of pain from the birth and my bleeding is heavy still. Never mind the fact my baby is cluster feeding and screams if I put him down.

I just feel as though I’m not worth a light to be honest, I don’t have any rights worth considering,

No, that bloke hasn’t been back about the dog.
Don’t think no news is good news in that front though, I’m waiting for a bomb

Are you sure your ex hasn't sent the finger man round to upset you? It sounds very suspicious to me. Who on earth would stuff their hand through a letterbox when they could hear a dog barking behind it?

I hope your solicitors are really on the ball and do a great job for you.

Also, if they do make you go to court now you'll have to take your baby with you, which will help the court realise how vulnerable you are and how much you've put up with. So while it is horrible for you, and hard work, it might play in your favour.

Your ex really is a tosser of the highest order.