Battling on!

[lollipop7]

So I'm starting a new thread following on from 0I don't know what to do" as we're almost full.
Blimey! How did that happen!

Seems lots of you are rather ruddy marvellous and want to keep going on this journey with me so I'm opening a new chapter.
Will be back with a proper update later 💐

YAAAAAAAAAY!

Brilliant news, onwards and upwards

Hooray!!!! So pleased you're back at home!!!! X

Lovely news Lollipop! xx

So pleased Baby Lollipop is getting better x

Lovely news lollipop. Am glad to read he is doing well.

I hope you are ignoring wankerbastard and concentrating on recovery and your litrle family xx

My former solicitor wrote to me today informing me he's writing off his bill for fees 🤔🤔🤔
He also told me that the ex's solicitors are taking me back to court as I have breached the court order.
I'm quite calm as honestly after a week in hospital with a tiny baby he can go and fuck himself. I know I haven't breached a thing.
The police told me he's called ten times to arrange an appointment to sort this mess out that she's made. Unbelievable.
They are going to talk to him today about the fact he will be charged with theft unless he makes the house accessible to me to collect all my belongings. Suppose that beats faffing about through the courts!

Little lollipop is doing well. Feeding and smiling lots. Sleep is not remotely appealing though!

Hope everyone is well x

Wow he's a fuckwit that surpasses all know fuckwitishness isn't he!

Sorry you're going through this lollipop. Glad you're getting smiles and lots of love from baby lollipop- can we have his first initial, so we can call him baby T for example?
Sending lots of unmumsnetty hugs, and of course, an abundance of

His arrogance is astounding I can only surmise he is a narcissist as he believes he is above the law and his breaches don’t count...

He thinks it's all boys together. There are police out there who think that way, of course, but they are a diminishing minority.

Good news about the fees. Does that include the barristers fees? Because he was way out of order.

Your strength is his weakness OP.... he just doesn't realise it yet... well done getting through these past weeks ...

He's probably scratching his head OP wondering why you haven't cracked after having the baby and gone home like a good little girl, with your tail between your legs. He's going to get more and more pissed off now he's starting to twig that you may just actually mean this........ you've done so bloody well doing all this for your kids when you've been so vulnerable. Your kids might not understand now, but when they are older you are going to have set such an amazing example of courage to them .

He’s being interviewed by the Police tomorrow. They rang me tonight and told me.

They also told me he’s on paid Paternity Leave. I ought to be gobsmacked that technically he’s now committing fraud but I’m not. The audacity of him.

Feels surreal, like I am looking down on my life. The last few days, and especially when me and the baby were in hospital, I have felt crushed and heartbroken, and cried so much I wondered if I would ever stop. Seeing women there with their loving partners was really hard. I saw a man dashing in with a hospital bag as his wife was in labour and I tears just coursed down my face. The midwives were lovely, one of them just sat and hugged me whilst I sobbed. They’ve been so supportive. They also said it was clear how much I loved my baby and how much joy he had brought me even though I was sad. I am desperate to keep him away from us especially the baby, I just want something for myself that he can’t take away from me or smash up. There isn’t much left.

Everything is suspended, there is no reality and I feel like I’m living in some sort of peculiar parallel universe. Most disconcerting.

Oh @Ellendegeneres It’s “C” 😊

Oh! Baby c! Little lollipop still, but having his initial makes him more.. real?

What a turd, paternity leave! Hope he gets caught. Hope the police throw the book at him tomorrow too, fucking arsehole.

I found the midwives mostly amazing, when I had dc2, I had been given a diagnosis of bipolar 4weeks before, (massively outing, but whatever) and they were so attentive and supportive. But at the same time, seemed to recognise when I needed that bonding time with dc. My friend is a midwife, and I totally wish she'd been in the suite with me before and after my two, she has this calm reassurance about her presence. I'm glad they gave you that comfort.

How are your older two managing with baby c? How are they in themselves? It's been a huge ordeal for all of you, but you are doing so well. Sending lots of love

Baby C ?

C for...Cakepop ? Carrying on with the candy theme

Lollipop I'd think the solicitor waving their fees says it all really, they're worried you sue them.
Good to hear Cake is ok. I bet the other 2 are glad your both home.

He's on paid paternity leave? You couldn't make it up! He is delusional.

Glad you are home and baby doing well.

Solicitors waiving their fee says it all really. But at least they did.

To be eligible for paternity leave he has to "be taking time off to look after the child or their partner"

www.gov.uk/employers-paternity-pay-leave/eligibility

Hope the police charge him with fraud too. Arsehole.

Don’t worry I’m informing his employer tomorrow morning.

How dare he use my little boy like this. I am fucking livid

He’s a narcissistic prick, nothing should surprise you about his behaviour by now tbh. Wouldn’t be surprised if he’s been lying to his employer as losing face in front of others is the worst thing in the world to a narc. They can be complete and utter bastards but they I’ll still expect everyone to believe their lies. Well done lollipop you have done so well against all his horrendous behaviour. Hope baby C is doing well and your other dc’s are enjoying their new sibling.

I meant to say lying about you having left with your DC’s

Wow, just when you think he can't get any lower, he does. I'm actually impressed with his sheer determination to be the world's biggest asshole

I'm literally speechless at his audacity at taking Paternity leave...

I'd say he's clearly not told anyone at work that you've left.......... good for you for telling them. He's a real piece of work.

Just a thought OP,not sure you who you will contact at his work ,but think its better to contact HR rather than line manager..or payroll directly. Statutory paternity pay paid by employer and claimed back by employer(92% of it) from HMRC so it is definitely fraud and company would not want to associate themselves with that.
I'm glad you have more and more on him...think the time when he gets the message to leave you alone is approaching..