Battling on!

[lollipop7]

So I'm starting a new thread following on from 0I don't know what to do" as we're almost full.
Blimey! How did that happen!

Seems lots of you are rather ruddy marvellous and want to keep going on this journey with me so I'm opening a new chapter.
Will be back with a proper update later 💐

Lolli you're hitting the day 3 crash. Let the police deal with ex if he shows up. Lock the doors, den up with your babies, and ignore the world for a few days.

Lolli I'd second that baby won't care what he's dressed in. As long as he's warm and dry with mummy cuddles.

Lollipop, firstly congratulations on the birth of baby Lollipop, I've been reading your threat and wanted to echo everyone else's comments about how brave you are and continue to be.
Secondly, I have a some (approx 10 of each) baby boy vests and babygros aged 3-6 months (I've given away my newborn and 0-3 bits already). My DS has just grown out of 3-6 months so they are yours if you want them. I was only going to give them away to the next person I know who had a boy. Which turns out to be you
If you PM me with an address I'll post them to you next week. They're not fancy brands just Asda/Boots xx

Thank you everyone 💐

He called the house this morning and I answered without thinking. I felt like I was going to have a heart attack. The way he speaks to me is so disturbing, like I’m a simple child.

I put the phone down and called the Police. They are going to speak to him today. I’ve shared the Court Order with them so they are aware of the breach as well as the ongoing harassment.

Just added them up and there are fourteen emails, text messages, phone messages, Skype messages since the Order was effective.

I’m starting to wonder just what he has to do to be arrested 😓

Lollipop have some squishy hugs with your beautiful family, get your mum to make you a brew and take yourself for a soak in the bath if you have some lavender oil it’s really good post birth to help heal your stitches. He is an actual animal, I have no idea what these people get out of harassing another person and pushing them to the brink it makes me feel sick at the thought. I hope the police give him a harsh talking to today so that he really understands his behaviour will not be tolerated.

Well done for putting the phone down and contacting police.Just do this every time he contacts you, do not engage in conversation with him at all. Try to put mental block between him and yourself, the more you practice mental block the easier it gets.

Have the police been back in touch to say that they have been to see him, ??

Lollipop your baby is beautiful and he looks very smart in the photographs. Who cares if his clothes have been given to you - he certainly won't!

I hope the police throw the book at the arsehole . Bastard .How dare he treat you like that?

Been following your story, Lollipop, and one day you will look back and be sad for yourself that you've had to go through this shit, but oh so proud of your strength. It's not brave to carry on when you don't feel stressed and scared, but it sure is when you are terrified and exhausted.

As others have said baby Lollipop only cares that his Mum loves him. You are some woman.

Congratulations on the birth of baby lollipop! He’s gorgeous! Sending you so much love and strength you’re absolutely amazing!

Congratulations baby lollipop is beautiful! Been following your threads, I'm not experienced in any of this to advise but I'm really rooting for you.

Well he found out yesterday as per the phone call to the house.

Today the baby received a card from him. The baby has his surname. Naturally. I find the whole thing utterly creepy and menacing since the actual message was he might not have been there for his birth but he was writing to assure him that he would be a constant presence in his life for years to come.

So more harassment: singularly more disturbing than the bouquet of flowers one might expect as a cliché, though given that he never bothered with those with the last two perhaps that was a silly thought.

Lollipop, have you been able to register his birth yet? Might be something to prioritise so It's safely done.

Yes I’m making an appointment on Monday, @MrsBertBibby

That of course will be the next thing, as he will almost certainly take me to court over it. The issue that will be the biggest thorn in his side will not actually be the issue of PR but the fact he can’t do a thing about making the baby’s surname his. And it will be mine.

Says it all really #controlfreak

If you give your son the same surname as you (and not his) then it will make it easier to change the other dc’s surnames in the future, should you wish to do that.

What a nasty, bullying thing for him to write! (Was he respectful of your chosen first names?!) Make sure it all gets added to the harrassment record, won’t you.

Didn't even hang around long enough to discuss names. I tried to tell him we'd been back in hospital and both poorly but he wasn't remotely interested. Just started lecturing / hectoring me.
The police came earlier to see us and said he'll be told to leave immediately or face arrest if he comes on Sunday. We'll see.
We're also back in hospital as baby lollipop's jaundice is borderline I think 😞

glad the police are on the ball, and sorry to hear you’re both back in hospital, (although you might get your stitches sorted quicker as an inpatient!) get well soon both of you!

Lolli keep on keeping on, you're doing all the right things. Good luck with baby lolli's jaundice.

Good luck both, get your stitches sorted while in there?
Can the prick register the birth independent of you? I know my DH could, but we were/are married?

Lollipop, when you say "didn't even hang around long enough to discuss names," does that mean he came to the house yesterday or to deliver the card??? I thought he'd "only" made a phone call??

We weren't married so he can't do anything like registering the baby
He just called.

Still waiting for anything to happen been here two hours now with a four day old baby

Oh poor little one, and you .

jesus the guy is relentlessly exhausting

Oh no poor baby lolli and you of course. It’s crazy that they are making you wait. I have tbh our local A&E and hospitals have been brilliant with my wee one whenever they have been needed and quick to see us, it’s crazy how different they can be.