Making your DP/DH/DW packed lunch for work

[Sarahh2014]

Came across this article online and wondered how many people do this? I make my dh and don't see it as anything other than another job to do in the home but some people in the said article get offended..
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My wife makes mine. It's just part of how we divvy up family tasks.

I sometimes do make DH a sandwich if I have time. I do it just like I make him a coffee every morning. Why? Because I love him, because he struggles to sleep and I'm up. Just like he makes sure the house is locked up, phones plugged in to charge etc each evening.

I'm not the martyr my mum was though - she worked FT, sorted 2 kids and she would make my dad his breakfast and packed lunch (she still does this but he does a lot more domestically since I left home)

I used to offer, but if I make sandwiches I make them the night before and put them in the fridge. (Or even make a whole loaf’s worth up and put them in the freezer).

He doesn’t like this approach and prefers his made fresh in the morning.

I therefore don’t make his lunch unless we are going out as a family and I’m making a picnic for everyone.

Occasionally he will take a buttered scone out of the freezer for his lunch, don’t think he’s ever tried a frozen sandwich.

I don't and I'm at home. DH always makes his own sarnies for work and irons his own clothes. In the 30 years we've been together, it's always been that way. Don't get me wrong, it's not laziness, I do everything else as I am at home and he's at work. I'd love to go back to work, I miss it.

I really don't get why a sahp should do all the little personal tasks (lunch to eat out/laundry/ironing etc) their partner would have to do themselves if they lived alone. Sahp looks after themselves and dc, plus most other stuff.
I used to do it, but gradually came to the realization (while working pt with DC) that dh saw everything else (house/laundry/garden/cleaning/school/ food/friends/bills/holiday plans etc) as my job and the equivalent of him working 9-5 5 days a week. Even if it didn't fit into my 'free' (but with DC around) days. With that attitude he can sort himself out, I'm afraid.
Obviously it's different if he automatically takes on other bits of work which evens it out.
I miss work too. No-one appreciates everything a sahp does, until they don't do it

I make the children's sandwiches so I can't see why I would not make my dh. Sometimes the kids make the sandwiches. I really can't see why I would make the kids and not my dh.

Depends if you're making the same thing, I guess. If you're told to make dh's more interesting, why shouldn't he fend for himself?

I do it but then I normally have heaps of time; if we both worked 40 hours I wouldn’t.

I used to before I left h. Because if I didn’t he’d be spending £10 a day in the work canteen....

It was annoying that he wouldn’t make his own lunch though.

You note I have left him.

I do all the cooking and that would include lunches it’s a roll in the house I’ve taken on my husband does other rolls. It works for us .

DH makes me lunch. I'm out of the house from 6am to 7pm whereas he leaves at 9.30am and is back by 6.30pm. I cook dinner because I enjoy it, he then makes lunches for the next day.

I make DH a lunch every single day, I cook most nights, do the washing, ironing and cleaning. We both work full time but he is constantly working overtime to support us so it works both ways

I make my fiancé's lunch for him each night. He is a creature of habit and has the same thing every day (chicken and pasta in sauce) so it is easy to cook this while I am in the kitchen making dinner (I make the dinner and he washes up the kitchen/dishes afterwards- an arrangement I am very happy with since we don't have a dishwasher and I hate washing dishes ).

However it is not expected of me, I enjoy making his lunch for him and if there's any reason I cannot cook it, he will either make himself something or buy something at work for lunch that day.. No biggie :)

dh makes mine when he makes our children's ones.

i make dinner for everyone in the evening.

we are a team

We make our own if we want to take a lunch to work. Some days I eat out at lunchtime and don’t always plan this until I’m in work and the same for DH.

My DH makes my lunch every day before he leaves for work in the morning because I'd rather have an extra ten minutes in bed than make my own and I wouldn't bother. He also texts me every day to ask what I fancy for dinner that evening, to make sure he's got all of the ingredients and dinner is always ready when I get home. I don't enjoy cooking and it's lovely to be able to sit down with a drink rather than having to cook. I cook a maximum of once a month.

Having said that, he has no idea where we keep the Hoover and he doesn't really see dirt/dust, so that's my department. It works for us and we both appreciate what the other does, so neither of us feel taken advantage of.

I'm up at 5am for work, DH gets up with me even though he doesn't need to until 7.30. Makes tea and if I want any, makes breakfast. He prepares the lunch which to be fair is usually left overs from night before, puts it in my bag and waves me off. I'm very fortunate 😘