Making your DP/DH/DW packed lunch for work

[Sarahh2014]

Came across this article online and wondered how many people do this? I make my dh and don't see it as anything other than another job to do in the home but some people in the said article get offended..
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DP usually makes mine and DD's lunch every evening, because I'm usually busy with putting her to bed and then studying some nights.

I don't make dp's lunch. I think he'd like me to though because 'i'm better at sandwiches' than him apparently. I'm a SAHM and I do all other cooking and 95% of the housework but it's never seriously occured to me to make his lunch.

I'm a sahm and my dp works full time.

If he wanted a packed lunch I'd make him one I guess but it would have to be made the night before - I wouldn't get up earlier than I have to just for that! xD

I wouldn't automatically make him one if I worked too, and I don't just automatically assume a woman should make all the food in a relationship. I think jobs should be shared equally - I just do more atm because I'm a sahm.

I make it, even on my non working day.

It doesn’t bother me, I also do all of the cooking and washing (I don’t iron shirts though!)

DH does all of the accounts and DIY (there is a lot of it!) and bins and school runs so I feel that we are equal in all we do in the house, even if we are doing the more ‘traditional’ male/female roles.

I pack lunches - usually for both me and DH but nowadays I'm mostly working from home so I pack it for him. I enjoy being creative with it and started doing them when we first started saving for a house and realised how much we were wasting on buying lunches that we didn't even enjoy as much. Much healthier and economical.

I haven't until this week run a load of laundry in over a year though, so we split household tasks in a fairly equitable manner. And I cannot imagine him ever complaining about it being "boring".

I do DH’s lunch every day, I quite like looking after him and making nice things for him. Not sure what the issue is?

I do, by free choice.

My ‘love language’ is actions and making his sarnies (a five minute job) is a small way of showing how much I love him. He makes me a coffe in the morning and I drink it, get up and make his lunch and go back to bed for half an hour after he’s left for work.

Also, my five minute job is his twenty minutes as he is a natural faffer and I’m a natural lazy person who gets shit done quickly.

If he was the type to demand it and strop if I didn’t then like fuck would I bother. On the odd occasion I really don’t want to he’ll happily do it himself.

I started doing when ExH went to work and I stayed home with DD.
And when I went back to work I continued to do it.
I loved making sandwiches though.
I used to make my friends for school when much younger.

Not a friggin' chance in hell would I do it now though.
Grown men - quite capable for doing it for themselves.
I will never be 'mummy' to another man ever again.

DH makes mine when he makes the DC's packed lunches the night before. I work long shifts and I think it's a nice thing for him to do for me so that I can have an extra 10 minutes in bed.

I used to make ds's dads when he was on nights. I just thought it was a nice thing to do for him. He used to do nice things for me too. If I didn't have time he would make his own, it was never an issue.

I think if one half of the relationship doesn't work then they should make the other's lunch as part of the "deal". Otherwise, they make their own.

I don't make DH's lunch unless he's taking leftovers from a meal that I've made. No particular reason or principle, just that DH never asks, and just goes and buys what he needs for his sandwiches and then makes them up before he goes to bed. If he asked me to do it, I probably would, but he always did DS's lunch for school and his own at the same time.

DH usually makes mine as he works from home and has more time than me in the mornings. If he's going on an early morning trip and I'm staying home I'll make his. No big deal either way surely?

I make DH's lunch but it's to do with timings in the morning.

He gets up and goes straight in the shower. While he's showering I make both our breakfasts and his lunch (and mine if I'm out for the day but I work at home a lot).

Then he comes down and takes the dog out.

While he's out with the dog, I have my shower or, if I'm going to the gym I have fifteen minutes of MN

Then he comes back, we have breakfast together and we both head out unless I'm working from home and not going to the gym (very rare).

So, we're both pretty rushed off our feet in the mornings and I don't resent doing his (and my) lunch in the morning. He always says thank you which I think is very important.

He does at least 50% in the house and he's the cook for all other meals.

Fuck that. I'm not another adult's mum. I don't even make my ds's pack lunch. Even when I was a sahm I never did all the cooking, cleaning, washing etc for the ex. Soon put a stop to that shit. If they were living alone they would have to do it all, and work so makes no difference who is or isn't at home.

I do, doing things for each other is important to me. He does big and small things for me and vice versa. I do it because I love him and by doing something nice for him shows my appreciation of him. He also works longer hours than me and does plenty round the house. If he's making lunches he will always do my daughters too. We are a team and do things for each other

DH makes his own, but I might portion up some soup or whatever for him, if I have made some.

My oh is a teacher, so always works weekday evenings, after leaving for work at 7 am. So I'm happy to make his sandwiches while I do the kid's.

I make my dh lunch. We both work full time shifts. I also make probably 95% of his other food. I'm happy to do it. However I rarely iron - he does all that. He does most of the hoovering. We probably share other cleaning although I rarely clean the bathroom. That seems to have become his job.

We are a partnership. I like doing things for him. He likes doing things for me. It works for us.

I had a thread about this a few months ago as it happens. My dp asked me to make his lunches for work and I refused, he got a bit huffy. The general consensus was mixed.

I don’t mind making my dp lunch occasionally but I resent the notion that I should be expected to do it. Yes he works and I don’t, but he has plenty of time to make himself a sandwich for work, it takes a few minutes and he’s a grown man. I don’t feel I should be obligated to do it when he is more than capable.

He now makes his own sandwiches for work with no fuss.

DH gets free lunch provided at work luckily. I'm a sahm and DH works a 70 hour week, so I make dinner almost every night during the week. I'd probably be happy making lunches for him as part of the general meal prep.

I made my DH's when I was making the DS packed lunches.

Once they'd left school, he reverted to making his own, in fact he then started making me a cuppa to drink in bed before he left for the day.

DH makes his own. He also makes the DC's lunches while he's doing it.
I'm the only one not having a packed lunch - why should I make them?

Around about 1990 I had a boyfriend who stayed with me for a couple of weeks when my landlord and her family went away. On the Monday of the second week he asked me where his shirts were. I thought this was just a straight question and pointed to the heap in the corner. He was quite pissed off that he didn't have clean, ironed shirts for work. I shrugged. Nothing to do with me. He also nagged me into making his packed lunches. I wasn't impressed so I bought him kiddy yogurts that had faces on them and feet. When he took them out of his box at work the office laughed at him. He moaned to me and I told him if he was a grown up he should be making his own lunch.

I occasionally made my XH lunch but only as a surprise or special treat.

Never understood why one grown up is expected to make another's lunch for them!

I wonder how many men out there make a packed lunch for their dw? 😒 I just see it as ver infantilising. The only times I think it's ok is if the dh works long hours and the dw doesn't. Then I'd just about see it as pulling together as a team. If they work equal hours then wtf should the woman make the man's lunch as if she's his mummy?