Making your DP/DH/DW packed lunch for work

[Sarahh2014]

Came across this article online and wondered how many people do this? I make my dh and don't see it as anything other than another job to do in the home but some people in the said article get offended..
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Aw cmon people what happened to,having a little kindness?! Why does everything have to be a battle? Yes if someone's H i s demanding their lunch is made for them they should be told to fuck right off, but if someone wants to do it out of love what's the problem? I get up early to do it because I like to know my husband has a healthy nice lunch. If I didn't he wouldn't complain, nor starve but I like to do it. In the same vein I am perfectly capable of making my own cup of tea on a night but H does it- even if he doesn't have one- because he's kind that way. Nice little ways to show we care about each other. God knows I've lost enough people recently to bitterly regret the times I haven't shown a kindness or two

I just see it as it something nice you do for your partner just like if I was going somewhere he would make me something
Everything is made into a why would you do that it's so sexist kind of crap lately . It's called being a partner that cares bout their spouse

I do it because food shopping is my responsibility and so I am able to replace things when necessary.

And I do it as an act of love. Just like he cleans my car. So long as it all balances out, that's fine with me.

We do a mix but mainly make our own. However we both work full time so share the house stuff and food prep.

If either of us didn't work for some unknown reason, then I'd expect the house and all food prep to be looked after by them whilst the other worked to provide financially for both.

I'd not cover someone financially if they wouldn't make lunch or wash clothes etc. Works both ways,

My DP makes me a packed lunch each day (well normally salad, fruit salad and yogurt) each day, but I'm normally cooking tea or washing up (I detest making packed lunches)

I honestly don’t see the problem!
If my husband asked me to make him a packed lunch, breakfast, iron a shirt I would do it willingly, he’s my husband, I like to make his life easier, that’s not to say I’m a doormat but a marriage shouldn’t be a battle of who does what, as long as everything gets done , what’s the problem

I work from home so don't have to think about my own lunch. I finish earlier than DH. When I start cooking the evening meal I text him at work so see if he needs food the next day and make extra if he replies yes in time. ( He sometimes goes to a different sites with a canteen or gets taken out by suppliers).
If the food doesn't reheat well (microwaves steak and chips anyone?) or he doesn't reply to my text, he sorts himself out. If it'so pasta bake or jacket spuds, it seems sensible and thoughtful to shove a bit extra in.

@Mrsbird311 "as long as everything gets done , what’s the problem" well, as long as tasks are allocated fairly according to who has the time etc and no one is being compelled or expected to do things that are unfair then it's fine, of course.

We both work, food tends to be one of my jobs. DH does other things exclusively such as ironing. I refuse to make sandwiches though because I hate it. Happy to make do a salad or portion out soup.

I make OHs packed lunch as I'm normally up earlier than him. He cooks more than me tho so I've not got the evening meal to think about. What's it got to do with anyone else if a woman doesn't mind preparing lunch for her man, anyway? This is one where people need to retract their nose and mind their own relationship business in that respect. Pick battles worth fighting, stop looking to create war relationships ffs. This is a non-issue.

I do dp meals for the day for him. He owns his own gym and in there from 6.30am and not home til 10pm.
So he would never have the time. He does other jobs round the house and does my car for me so fairs fair.

Like OldEnglishSheepdg I am the one who cooks and does the food shopping so I also prepare DH's packed lunch. It is partly because I care what he eats so ensure he has healthy salads rather than ham sandwiches every day which is what he'd do for himself.

However, I remember when I was a kid 50 years ago my dad made both his and my Mum's packed lunches because she did all the rest of the food preparation.

MistressDeeCee so agree. Maybe people do it for their other halves because, i dunno, they love them and want them to have a nice meal?

I usually make extra at dinner time and DH takes the leftovers to work or I'll make a point of buying an M&S micro meal he likes. He'll sometimes have a sandwich & juice in the car ready for me going to work. Or he'll maybe iron my uniform when he gets home to let me sleep on an extra 10 minutes. Neither of us expects it from the other & we're big enough to sort something out if we don't take a packed lunch to work.

DP makes my sandwiches after he's ironed his shirt (we each do our own ironing, always have done) pours my OJ & if we've any crumpets or muffins, toasts them to take into work. I'm not a morning person & DC have gone. I do the meal planning & a lot of the evening cooking (or tell him what he's to cook once a week). I hang the washing, he takes it downstairs to the machine. He does the bins & cat litter tray. Even division of labour.

I iron my DSD’s school stuff and my DP’s work uniform every week, and make packed lunches for my DSD (pretty much every day) and my DP (about a third of the time).

I do it because I think it’s sometimes the small things that can make the biggest differences in relationships. I also know she’d happily do it for me if she was the one WFH and therefore had more time.

And before anyone piles in, yes - I do also cook the evening meals (at least as frequently as DP does), I hoover, do washing loads, clean the loo, etc.

There was a huuugee thread about this on here a year or two ago, everyone said exactly the same thing - one school of thought about "why shouldn't I help my hubby he works so hard" and the other "why can't he make his own is he ill?"

Guess which camp I'm in

I wouldn't see making DPs lunch as a 'job' I'd do it every so often if I felt like I had something nice to make him for that day/ next day, I'd do it when I felt like it and any other day he'd sort himself out... not a big deal

It really depends whether it's a blue / pink jobs thing or not and what the other calls are on time.

My DF is a lark and DM and I are both owls. He made himself sandwiches every morning when he was working early and saw no issue in making ours as well. DM is way more tidy and so the difference made up even though he makes more meals.

Likewise, DP brings me tea or coffee / juice / breakfast in the morning (often in bed). I pack lunches and have offered to make his but he prefers to eat with colleagues and we can afford it so fair enough. I do more washing & tidy up more - it's not 'all good' because we have an old house the upkeep is a bit much, but one person making a particular meal is not awful unless it's otherwise unbalanced.

I don't, as a childminder I serve up 40 odd meals a week. I cook in the evenings for kids and DP. Every night.

If he was home, I'd arrive at lunchtime with 3 toddlers and never ever was a sandwich made for me, but DP would come down from his office and say 'what are you doing for lunch?'

If he was out for the morning, coming home, 'I didn't eat any breakfast and whining at me what can he eat'.

Constant update all day what he has / hasn't eaten.

I don't actually give a fuck, as I'm not his Mother.

Not really sure what the issue is. My DH makes packed lunches for the four of us while I eat breakfast with force feed the kids. He's had breakfast while I help them get dressed. Would people get their own tea but not cook any for partner? I guess is different if you don't need lunch yourself though.

We take turns cooking and if it's something that reheats well we'll bung two portions into boxes. I eat less than him and if I have leftovers from a meal and he doesn't (especially a treat like Indian or pizza) I'll give him mine to take to work the next day. Every time he acts like it's some kind of lottery jackpot, so it's well worth it.

I make DH's lunch up while I'm doing the kids' lunches. He cooks/plans all the evening meals as he's a better cook so I don't see a drama.

I think someone making their OH's lunch is only an issue if it's an expectation that they do it because they have a vagina/are the SAHP. If it's done in the general scheme of "I do this, they do that" it's a total non-issue.

I’ve never made DH’s lunch to take to work. It seems a really alien concept to me to be honest! I just don’t get why I would do it (and I’m a SAHM).
He does maybe 75% of the cooking anyway.

I don't make DH's lunch, or iron his shirts.

Well I do occasionally, if I'm not doing something else and/or I'm doing my own. If he expected me to do it I would think he was an arse and refuse on principle.