Is it normal to fantasise about someone else whilst dtd with dw/Dh or ltp?

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I read an article recently, cosmo or something but it was an interview about how much men think about sex on a daily basis, etc. Part of it though was a married man saying it’s normal to picture other women, real or fictional whilst having sex with his wife as they had been together so long. He said he often pictures his wife’s or sisters friends he finds attractive. I was telling Dh about it and asking him does he think it’s something that people do, (I don’t), he picked me up wrong, was half listening and thought I said the guy fantasises about his sister, he burst out laughing and said no way! I corrected him and said I said sisters friend and he said ‘oh right well yeah’ but stopped himself and said no, he didn’t think people did that. He would know I’d be very upset if I thought he did while we were being intimate so would never admit to it. Anyway I suppose I’m just asking is it a thing for people?, particularly those in long relationships to spice things up I suppose?

Why? Why would they need to think about someone else?

if you are attracted by someone, surely you should be also physically attracted to them and not need any props?
Because that's how it feels to me.
It's not an issue of policing. For me, it's a clear non understanding. It would be similar to me than adtevtaking me out for the evening and then spending his time thinking about the girl next to us. Aka not been really there with me.
I dint know a lot of people who would accept that, so why is it acceptable when it comes to sex?

Like someone else said, it might be more about the situation - e.g. "chance encounter", "sex in the supermarket" or whatever turns you on :D - rather than deliberately thinking about a different person.

It's not about what you NEED to do, but about what you WANT to do. Sex is not just about genitals; people use various parts of their body to enjoy themselves, including their heads.

if you are attracted by someone, surely you should be also physically attracted to them and not need any props?
Guess you must be young and horny....!

The point is you cannot police someone's thoughts. Maybe you might be able to in 50 years with new technology. But up until that happens our thoughts are private and also sometimes subconscious.
People have dark thoughts, fucked up thoughts, strange thoughts.
Asking someone in a roundabout way a question with no answer is just immature as is reading cosmo
And getting all tetchy with strangers on the internet is also immature
Impo

Some people on here just leave no breathing space for their poor partner. Thank goodness, they can’t get inside their OH’s head or they would be policing their thoughts, too. A relationship or marriage like that sounds like a blooming jail sentence to me. Give your poor blokes some slack!!!