Innapropriate comment OH said to my 5 yr old

[Lovebeingamummy77]

I would be so grateful for others views. My other half was at mine last night and i had no matches to light fire. He knocked on a few doors and came back with matches.. he said got them a few doors up from a lady. My son randomly said "she was pretty"... hes 5!! Im sure my OH said this to my son to repeat to me as a "joke"/ to wind me up jokingly? / being silly etc... immature i know.

Am i petty being irritated by this. I know it doesnt matter what others think or feel..its how i feel. But im interested to know how others would react?

I understand you OP. He was trying to make you jealous?
He told your son that the lady was pretty, knowing that your son would repeat it to you?

I highly doubt he whispered to your son that she was pretty.

If he wanted to wind you up wouldn't it be better for him to say it?

Yes issue is partner whispering that to my son to repeat to me... to wind me up... not nice

Side issue... i dont have an issue with son saying x is pretty but no need to encourage it as a defining thing.. ie. "The lady at number 56 who is pretty" ...

I think I would just take it as a silly joke that went a bit wrong. I think you're overreacting massively.

Dear mr... no he'd not do that... been there done that and he knows i dont appreciate him relaying to me who he finds attractive.. he can keep that info to himself unless o ask!.. this was just to wind me up

Thanks everyone... im over reacting. Will chill and ignore it...

I don't think you're over reacting.
What sort of man gets a 5 year old to play mind games with his mum like that?

Yeh annabelle... i didnt appreciate it really....

There is nothing wrong with encouraging children to call someone pretty. It's nice.

If he did tell your ds to say it to wind you up, it's pretty weird.
I'd probably just end the relationship, you sound like you'll drive each other insane.

Imagine what you'll be like a few years down the line if your like this already.

Call it a day.

Yes, it's the including the 5yr old that's not on, isn't it?

Sounds like your insecure about your own attractiveness.

It obviously worked to wind you up, didn't it!

If it was your son's comment, no problem (and obviously in a few years he is going to find lots of people very 'pretty' as he hits puberty, whereas you will always just be his Mum, and that is all as it should be)

If it was your husband's comment, he is being a bit of an arse, but the comment in itself is very tame, and your young son probably won't understand that it is intended to inspire jealousy or insecurity in you and is just playing a game.
Commenting on other women is still exactly the same "offence" for your DH no matter the format though - if he uses his own voice, your son's voice, the voice software on his computer, sends you a text, ices it onto a cake etc etc - he doesn't get to rules lawyer that to claim innocence if you have previously jointly agreed that he wont do it as it makes you unhappy.

I think you are over-reacting but I also think he is not being a respectful partner if he knows you dont like something and does it anyway, whilst trying to pretend he didn't/it was "just a joke".

Mountain and molehill spring to mind.

I also think the door they knocked on was an elderly lady!

A bit of ageism stereotypes thrown in for good measure.

what a weird thread!

Jeez...

Me and my DH comment on people we find pretty/ handsome etc. People are pretty or more handsome you know...

This sounds like you got wound up because of your own issues... all just sounds very petty.

Omg I think it was lighthearted fun and someone else has actually done a LTB. Dear God.

Yes he knows id be seeiously irritated by direct comments from him.
Yes is a background..just silly comments b4. Im not insecure and his own mum once said to him in front of me "pls dont make those jokey comments.. putting ur arm round ur bros wife as a joke as your bro doesnt find it funny... cringe!

The only thing I find weird here is that your partner appears to know you are really jealous and appears to be using that to try to wind you up... something unhealthy there on both sides, perhaps?

It's the part where he involved the child to wind the OP up that I have a problem with.

How long have you been together?

Well, I don't think you are over reacting. Your OH wasn't man enough to say it in front of you himself so had the 5 year old say it. Well probably repeat it cos I've yet to meet a 5 year old who can see the attractiveness in an adult and openly say it without hearing it from somebody first. They might call children their own age pretty, but grown ups?
It was a shitty thing for him to do.

Well, your OH's joke worked very well if he intented to wind you up.
I wouldn't make a fuss and just make a joke back e.g. they only let pretty people live here, why do you think I live here?

He sounds like a monumental twat. Why are you with him & more importantly, why are you with such a twat when you're bringing up a small boy - do you really want this twat as his role model as a partner &'father figure?

all just sounds very petty.

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