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As you wish...

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Inexperiencedchick · 07/10/2017 20:19

Met someone online. Spoke on the phone, sounded nice and normal.
But questions he asked while talking on the phone:

  • you are almost 40, are you sure you can get pregnant now?
My answer: I never thought about that, probably I should have a consultation with GP. Him: I can come with you 😳🤢

Agreed to meet up next day.
Next day, daytime messages:

  • Did you speak to your GP?
  • When is your next ovulation period😲
My reply was: "will see you at 6:30pm as agreed"

After those messages I had no desire to dress up and look forward for this date. Went in jeans, old cardigan, no make up...
His expression after seeing me: "I thought it would be "Wow!""
Conversation over a coffee:

  • You don't look 39, you have no wrinkles under your eyes 🙈
  • If you to visit your family I will come with you.
  • How many kids do you want?

After a normal chat I went home. Normal texts next day, then offer to meet up on Sunday. So called him Friday evening for a short chat and said few things about myself (did say I would like to be honest with him)...He then says "Can you move to mine over this weekend?"
I was like: "What?" ; "Can we talk later?"
Him: "Will you move to mine this weekend?"
Me: "Don't think so..."
Him: "As you wish" and finished the call.

I have no idea what to say to myself... 😳 Lost completely.
For me it's not normal to move in with someone I know 5 minutes.
He said few times "I like you!"

OP posts:
NoSquirrels · 07/10/2017 22:08

Blimey. After the first indication of his baby making obsession the d have been making my excuses - actually, I wouldn't, I'd have been telling him how creepily inappropriate he'd been and exactly why I wouldn't be seeing him.

Raise your standard bar MUCH MUCH higher, OP. Don't go around meeting up with clear weirdos. It's bad enough when they appear normal to begin with - why waste your time?

SonicBoomBoom · 07/10/2017 22:15

Your self esteem must be in the gutter to have continued to talk to him, let alone meet up with him. Sad

MiniTheMinx · 07/10/2017 22:22

Is he Finnish?

Santawontbelong · 07/10/2017 22:24

Mini - hope he is Finished. . .

fitbitbore · 07/10/2017 22:30

Sounds like he could be on the asd and have poor social skills.

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Inexperiencedchick · 07/10/2017 22:42

He came across as a very normal man. With very high career achievements. I doubt he is dangerous, I might of course be wrong...

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madcatwoman61 · 07/10/2017 22:52

In what way is any of that conversation normal?

FastWindow · 07/10/2017 22:59

I'm very concerned that you seem to have no weirdo radar since you are using online dating sites. The very first thing he asked you about getting pregnant was a deal breaker.

jacintaR · 07/10/2017 23:03

It sounds like he has a prego fetish

HeddaGarbled · 07/10/2017 23:09

You've got a very warped view of "normal" if he raised the topic of you ovulating in your very first conversation, and yet you still agreed to meet him. That is so not normal. I don't think you should do internet dating. I'm worried that you aren't being safe.

Howlongtilldinner · 08/10/2017 00:02

Completely bonkers! I’ve also no idea why you would meet a man like this.

You really do need to ramp up the weirdo radarHmm

userxx · 08/10/2017 00:43

He might not be dangerous but he's 100% weird and that is a good enough reason to never speak to him again. Beyond bizarre.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 08/10/2017 00:47

What a weirdo!

Shoxfordian · 08/10/2017 01:12

On the phone before you met he offered to come to a GP with you to see if you could conceive?! And you still met him? Wtf

Pumpkintopf · 08/10/2017 01:15

This does sound utterly bizarre, and creepy op!

Shouldileavethedogs · 08/10/2017 01:19

You both sound nuts. Him for obvious reasons and you for thinking he's normal apart from his not so normal questions.

Cleavergreene · 08/10/2017 01:34

Run....far......away......

oldlaundbooth · 08/10/2017 01:42

Normal?

Are you kidding?

Moreginpleasex · 08/10/2017 01:43

Hahahahahha this made me giggle
I'm guessing you will be taking him up on his offer Grin

SilverySurfer · 08/10/2017 03:36

Which bit was normal? Even though you didn't get dressed to the nines, I wouldn't have met him at all. He's obviously mad as a box of frogs Grin

ladystarkers · 08/10/2017 03:43

😮 who said romance is dead?

Schmoopy · 08/10/2017 07:41

Why would having high career achievements mean he isn't dangerous?

You're very foolish if you think you can judge someone in this way!

I don't see how you could think he were nornal. I wouldn't have met someone who asked questions like that and I wouldn't be surprised that he continued to make bizarre comments.

In fact, I think the weirdest thing about the whole interaction is that you chose to reflect your lack of interest in him, based on these questions, through a lack of effort in your appearance rather than just not going at all.

If you were so disinterested in him that you turned up in jeans with no make up, as a means of showing him you weren't interested, why bother turning up at all?

Lagerthaisfabulous · 08/10/2017 08:23

He seemed normal?

Nothing about this is normal.

I dont want this to sound mean. But is there a back story as to why you even considered meeting up with him? And ehy you think his achievments would mean he probably isnt dangerous.

You seem to have some boundry issues.

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Inexperiencedchick · 08/10/2017 08:36

I know I have boundaries issue...
Im using OLD and try to be as cautious as possible.
And I created this thread to see if it's only me who finds his questions very strange.
No need to have a go at me. I'm here for an advice and support.

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Lagerthaisfabulous · 08/10/2017 08:38

My advice would be that yoi arent being careful enough and to work on your boundries before OLD.