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Once in a lifetime.

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ItsAGThing · 07/10/2017 05:39

Everything I know about myself, everything I am, my entire being to the very depths of my person, my soul, is telling me that I have found the One. The one woman who has been in the deepest part of my heart the last 20 years. We met when I was 25. She left me speachless. The first time I saw her I became a believer in love at first sight. She was a fledgling friendships sister. She was also dating a friends friend, and so I never pursued her, even though I craved her company.

16 years later, we have been reunited. Both business owners in towns 35 miles apart. The moment we met I was 25 again and about speachless. Brain fog. She completely captivates me. We've talked a lot. She is the most intelligent woman I have ever met. I even told her that her mind is what I am most attracted to. "You are such a smart woman, and I find that sexy as hell." I think those were my exact words to her. That's saying a lot as she is a drop dead gorgeous woman. She has my heart and she knows it. I find I can't help myself from opening up to her and sharing my deepest feelings. I've allowed her to peer into my self uncovered as never before. She has seen me, paged through me like an open book and knows exactly who I am. Everything inside and every part of me wants nothing more than to sweep her off her feet, in doing so be swept away myself for the rest of our lives. She leaves me speechless often. Sometimes with a look, a smile. Most men would label her: beautiful. But she is so much more. Her mind absolutely fascinates me. She is more than I could ever have dreamed possible. I could never grow tired of listening to her speak. Everything about her is right for me. "Take my breath away" becomes a reality whenever I see her. My emotions were stirred today like never in my life. Never have I experienced such an intimate moment as a long drawn out hug from her today. Never has my heart been moved in this way. Never have I felt this way. In her presence, life is more precious, every moment is experienced, remembered. I could effortlessly spend eternity with this woman and never tire. I could happily spend the remainder of my lifetime lost in her eyes. I would hold and cherish her till the day I die. I know it as certain as I am about anything and every truth that exists But no matter what happens, someday I will be old and grey and when I look back on the life I lived, I know that this woman was, is, and will forever be, the true love of my life and my breath till the day I die. There will never be another. We look perfect together, we compliment each other. (Her words, in a text and good thing as reading those words lit me up and I was probably grinning like a fool. I know my heart skipped many beats and pounding to catch up.). I sure hope she sees the good in me. Oh man!

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fairyofallthings · 07/10/2017 15:09

Pass the sick bucket....thank god I'm not looking for a relationship if that is what is on offer.

Ellisandra · 07/10/2017 15:09

Proper belly laughs now!

You know, yes - it really is as simple as asking someone out. It's not a teenage thing. Adults do it ALL THE TIME.

My personal opinion of why you've had a pretty negative response is this: (because I know you're still reading)

This is a Relationships board where people (mostly women, but men too) gather to - in the main - ask questions about relationships. Usually, they are bad relationships - otherwise, people don't need to post. It's a wonderfully supportive place - but it's straight talking.

Sometimes the questions aren't about problems - sometimes, it's a "I really like them - how do I tell them, do you think they like me?" kind of thing. I love the really heartwarming ones where people get a little encouragement to go for it - and it pays off!

Had you posted that you were crazy in love and wanted advice about the distance, or how to tell her - you'd have had a totally different response. Although I expect still with a side of "wtf?" to your Mills & Boon epic. You would probably have had some gentle advice about pedestals too.

But you didn't have a question. You just wanted to come into a board for the first time and bang on about how much in love you were.

I've read posts from people saying, you know what - I want to give some balance - this is what a good relationship is. To be helpful to those who lost sight of that. And sometimes it's someone who has been through shit on here, and wants to share a new happiness - fantastic! We love that! But they're existing contributors.

I don't see the point of you coming into a board mostly full of people suffering, and banging on about your wonderful romance - as a first contribution.

Got my back up, and I expect that of other over vaccinated creams.
Wink

So - if you actually have a question, cut the crap and ask it.

HostaFireAndIce · 07/10/2017 15:11

Yes OP, but what are over vaccinated creams, is it insulting?

I fear it is Sad

Allthelightsgoout · 07/10/2017 15:11

Oh no! Don't say you don't like me and you think I'm stupid, I wanted you to tell me I'm a 'smart woman and that's sexy as hell" like you said to Wonder Woman.

I can't imagine how wonderful it would be to get such validation from such an important man.

Ellisandra · 07/10/2017 15:13

Allthelights - did you have a winter flu jab yet this year? Could be the problem.

NotInMyBackYard1 · 07/10/2017 15:13

I quite like being an over vaccinated cream personally, I had my flu vaccination on Thursday - does that count?

MissWilmottsGhost · 07/10/2017 15:15

Oh dear. You have 17 employees and she has 6 and so she must be wonder woman? Yeah because a woman can't possibly manage a team like a man can unless she's a superhero?

I'm with MsGame. I had a love at first sight experience with a guy, but after a while he blamed me for everything in our relationship that wasn't perfect, because he loved me so much it couldn't possibly be his fault, right? Hmm

TheRat · 07/10/2017 15:18

Do you speak irl the same way you type? You're hilarious! returns to the darkness

Allthelightsgoout · 07/10/2017 15:19

I did have a vaccination against men who react with disproportionate rage and verbal abuse because women didn't fall over themselves to tell him how wonderful he sounds Smile

Framboise18 · 07/10/2017 15:21

I felt that when I met my partner it's like everything fell into place and found my bestfriend I can be me and have butterflies in my stomach at the same time.. Congratulations you have found someone like that wish you both the best of luck x

Somerville · 07/10/2017 15:22

It's odd that he's referencing Tom Cruise showboating about a relationship that has now ended, too.

flumpybear · 07/10/2017 15:23

Well I think it’s really sweet!

MN vipers - back in your wicker baskets - let the man have some joy with his new love - let’s face it, we’d all like and man or woman to feel that way about us!!

Wink
MikeUniformMike · 07/10/2017 15:26

OP, it sounds like a crush to me.

MrsEileithyia · 07/10/2017 15:26

I LOVE this entire thread. Mumsnet at its bestGrin

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 07/10/2017 15:28

Like 2-1/2 hours to get through 9 holes on the shortest little par 31 course I could find but our faces were sore from too much laughter.

I hope you let people play through.

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/10/2017 15:30

You do realise she’s a living, breathing human being. don’t you? I’m really left scratching my head here. You’re so intense. You sound like a love sick girl waiting for Prince Charming to whisk her off her feet.

peanut2017 · 07/10/2017 15:33

Is this for real??? Feel like I'm in a time warp

Allthelightsgoout · 07/10/2017 15:35

Don't forget he had to spend all those years with his wife who just wasn't quite clever or deep enough and he knew she just didn't understand all the brilliant things he was saying while she was nodding along.

And now the perfect smart sexy woman has come along. Except she won't everything he wants because no-one ever could live up to his fantasies. And then she'll see the barely under the surface rage and sheer narcissism that we've seen here.

lollipop7 · 07/10/2017 15:38

@ItsAGThing do you know your emails read like one of those weird African scam emails everyone gets in their spam box.

You're so up your own arse there's no point in telling you to get over yourself. It would be a physical as well as a certain metaphorical impossibility.

There's some proper weird shit going down with you

Casmama · 07/10/2017 15:40

I'm glad you're happy OP but it does seem a rather dramatic way to describe what appears to be some mild flirtation.
If you really had a hug that lasted for five minutes then I suspect she knows how you feel.
Life is too short to act like a love-struck teenager so do something about it.

PressPaws · 07/10/2017 15:42

Except she won't everything he wants because no-one ever could live up to his fantasies. And then she'll see the barely under the surface rage and sheer narcissism that we've seen here

Yes, perfectly said. This is exactly what bothers me. What happens when she first makes a mistake, or disappoints him, or criticises him? The fall from that immensely high pedestal is going to hurt.

lollipop7 · 07/10/2017 15:43

@Casmama don't tell him to do something about it. He sounds crazed. I hope this is all just some deluded shite and there is no real woman giving him a five minute hug, merely a blow up doll. That's his ideal woman. If it has occurred with a living, sentient being it will have involved lobotomy or ketamine.

Ellisandra · 07/10/2017 15:45

To be fair to OP's ex wife who presumably committed this heinous crime of just nodding when she didn't understand...
If that's how you normally waffle on, I'm surprised she even still had the energy to nod Grin

animalmineral · 07/10/2017 15:45

We idealise others to the extent we idealise ourselves, then when they eventually begin to reflect us unfavourably....

Allthelightsgoout · 07/10/2017 15:51

Ellisandra Grin maybe she wasn't nodding but having to squint due to all that light he exudes.