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Once in a lifetime.

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ItsAGThing · 07/10/2017 05:39

Everything I know about myself, everything I am, my entire being to the very depths of my person, my soul, is telling me that I have found the One. The one woman who has been in the deepest part of my heart the last 20 years. We met when I was 25. She left me speachless. The first time I saw her I became a believer in love at first sight. She was a fledgling friendships sister. She was also dating a friends friend, and so I never pursued her, even though I craved her company.

16 years later, we have been reunited. Both business owners in towns 35 miles apart. The moment we met I was 25 again and about speachless. Brain fog. She completely captivates me. We've talked a lot. She is the most intelligent woman I have ever met. I even told her that her mind is what I am most attracted to. "You are such a smart woman, and I find that sexy as hell." I think those were my exact words to her. That's saying a lot as she is a drop dead gorgeous woman. She has my heart and she knows it. I find I can't help myself from opening up to her and sharing my deepest feelings. I've allowed her to peer into my self uncovered as never before. She has seen me, paged through me like an open book and knows exactly who I am. Everything inside and every part of me wants nothing more than to sweep her off her feet, in doing so be swept away myself for the rest of our lives. She leaves me speechless often. Sometimes with a look, a smile. Most men would label her: beautiful. But she is so much more. Her mind absolutely fascinates me. She is more than I could ever have dreamed possible. I could never grow tired of listening to her speak. Everything about her is right for me. "Take my breath away" becomes a reality whenever I see her. My emotions were stirred today like never in my life. Never have I experienced such an intimate moment as a long drawn out hug from her today. Never has my heart been moved in this way. Never have I felt this way. In her presence, life is more precious, every moment is experienced, remembered. I could effortlessly spend eternity with this woman and never tire. I could happily spend the remainder of my lifetime lost in her eyes. I would hold and cherish her till the day I die. I know it as certain as I am about anything and every truth that exists But no matter what happens, someday I will be old and grey and when I look back on the life I lived, I know that this woman was, is, and will forever be, the true love of my life and my breath till the day I die. There will never be another. We look perfect together, we compliment each other. (Her words, in a text and good thing as reading those words lit me up and I was probably grinning like a fool. I know my heart skipped many beats and pounding to catch up.). I sure hope she sees the good in me. Oh man!

OP posts:
cresit · 07/10/2017 14:21

"I'm a very attractive guy", but not bright enough to know that self praise is no praise.

annielouise · 07/10/2017 14:21

I think you tick a few of these:

DSM-5 criteria for narcissistic personality disorder include these features:

Having an exaggerated sense of self-importance
Expecting to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it
Exaggerating your achievements and talents
Being preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
Believing that you are superior and can only be understood by or associate with equally special people
Requiring constant admiration
Having a sense of entitlement
Expecting special favors and unquestioning compliance with your expectations
Taking advantage of others to get what you want
Having an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others
Being envious of others and believing others envy you
Behaving in an arrogant or haughty manner

annielouise · 07/10/2017 14:25

Hosta - maybe that's what is holding him back, she's only got 8 employees and he's got 17 so she's not quite his equal Grin

HostaFireAndIce · 07/10/2017 14:28

annielouise, I don't know. I think that might be just how he likes it... Wink

MissAlabamaWhitman · 07/10/2017 14:28

Fucking hell mate, don't ever try to be happy and own a penis on this board........

The DSM-IV will be used against you, you will be diagnosed with a mental illness. It's just how it is.

No arse scratching, happy pricks allowed.

TTFN 👍

RebornSlippy · 07/10/2017 14:31

Ah here, give the guy a break. He's in love. He's excited about the possibilities and wants to shout it from the cyber rooftops. Let him at it! I love a bit of romance.

But OP, all a bit much when you haven't even kissed yet. What's the story with that?

PressPaws · 07/10/2017 14:41

I coulda been with as many as I wanted. I'm a very attractive guy. Woman flirt with me often.

Ok, but do you have many leather-bound books? Does your apartment smell of rich mahogany?

Hellohello04 · 07/10/2017 14:41

So happy for you OP, it is rare in life to find a love like you have, it seems you were destined to be together finding each other after many years. Enjoy it please.

ItsAGThing · 07/10/2017 14:47

It's a shame to see so many here that would get off and be happy to see someone suffer or relish in anothers defeat.

Yet someone joins the board and shares that he has fallen unmistakably in love. Then explains himself, then still have some fool piping in "ask her out!" Sure - in your teeny world it might go that way. "Umm will you please be my girlfriend and go out with me? Hehehe...". Like I should just dash in for a shag. Self praise is no praise? Just saying I'm not a man whore. And cut your arse off at the pass before some dip sheite pipes in I must be ugly, or this or that. In my world 6 months have passed in a flash. And I know she's right. It may take another six months before I tell her.

You've fed off enough of my light. Back to your darkness. Back to feeding off each other's negativity. World is full of this kind of sickness and diminished mental capacity. Over vaccinated bunch of creams.. .I'm out of here.

OP posts:
Allthelightsgoout · 07/10/2017 14:49

Oh there's the real you.

ItsAGThing · 07/10/2017 14:50

Not you hellohello. Thanks for not being a hater. Hate is alive and thriving here. First time in a forum. Enough to see the sickness that lurks behind every midnight keyboard. I don't belong here. Last post. Bye

OP posts:
corlan · 07/10/2017 14:52

No, don't go! Let us bask in your light a little longer!

cresit · 07/10/2017 14:52

Grin vipers r us.

N0RA · 07/10/2017 14:54

My question is about commuting. I see that your businesses are in towns 35 miles apart yet you live 405 miles apart . So I was wondering how you manage that 300 plus mile journey each day, what with you managing sorry juggling these 17 employees and her only having 8. Or was it 7? I can't remember .

BTW if you are thinking of writing a novel, you need to get these details correct.

HTH

N0RA · 07/10/2017 14:56

Oh dear, it tool me so long to type that I see the op has flounced. What a shame.

< off to look for the sickness that lurks behind my midday keyboard>

dnwig · 07/10/2017 14:57

And after idealisation comes...

Allthelightsgoout · 07/10/2017 14:58

Now OP has gone my username has taken on a greater significance. I really feel it now.

Somerville · 07/10/2017 14:58

This thread has given me a headache...

He can share his deepest feelings with her, but might tell her in 6 months what he's telling us now?

They have businesses in towns 35 miles apart but live 405 miles apart?

And, most confusingly of all, what the hell does "over vaccinated bunch of creams" mean?

PressPaws · 07/10/2017 15:00

Over vaccinated bunch of creams

I'm so confused.

ItsAGThing · 07/10/2017 15:00

Oh my. One more. 17 employees and she has almost half so she's not my equal and I can't count? Omg your killing me. Juggling a small business means I'm frickn busy and almost half means I don't know how many maybe 6? Maybe 7? Maybe even 8? Not sure. But enough that she has to be Wonder Woman to handle it herself. Time is most valuable commodity we possess. She has her daughter who deserves every minute she can get with Mom. We see each other when we can. And my true self is shown just because I explain something and not just you "allthelightsout" but the entire board is a hungry pack of wolves looking for anything to attack. Doesn't matter what I say. Almost all the lights are out here. Perfect handle you chose. You've already infected me with your negativity. And I apologize for pointing out that unfortunately you just don't have the mental capacity to carry on this conversation or you would have alreDy identified some pretty nasty character flaws and taken action to correct yourself and grow as a person.

OP posts:
ItsAGThing · 07/10/2017 15:02

Typo. 30 miles. 45 minute drive. 20ish if meet somewhere in middle. But why am I still here?

OP posts:
cresit · 07/10/2017 15:03

Yes OP, but what are over vaccinated creams, is it insulting?

Wanderlust1984 · 07/10/2017 15:03

😂😂😂 @presspaws Brill!!

Seriously though, wtf did I just read? I'm not feeding off your light or anybody's negativity, mate - I'm getting me some pizza 😁

PickleTafferson · 07/10/2017 15:03

Who is this tool?

SonicBoomBoom · 07/10/2017 15:09

almost half means I don't know how many maybe 6? Maybe 7? Maybe even 8? Not sure. But enough that she has to be Wonder Woman to handle it herself.

Wonder Woman, eh. And yet you manage to handle twice as many.

You Super Man.