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Once in a lifetime.

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ItsAGThing · 07/10/2017 05:39

Everything I know about myself, everything I am, my entire being to the very depths of my person, my soul, is telling me that I have found the One. The one woman who has been in the deepest part of my heart the last 20 years. We met when I was 25. She left me speachless. The first time I saw her I became a believer in love at first sight. She was a fledgling friendships sister. She was also dating a friends friend, and so I never pursued her, even though I craved her company.

16 years later, we have been reunited. Both business owners in towns 35 miles apart. The moment we met I was 25 again and about speachless. Brain fog. She completely captivates me. We've talked a lot. She is the most intelligent woman I have ever met. I even told her that her mind is what I am most attracted to. "You are such a smart woman, and I find that sexy as hell." I think those were my exact words to her. That's saying a lot as she is a drop dead gorgeous woman. She has my heart and she knows it. I find I can't help myself from opening up to her and sharing my deepest feelings. I've allowed her to peer into my self uncovered as never before. She has seen me, paged through me like an open book and knows exactly who I am. Everything inside and every part of me wants nothing more than to sweep her off her feet, in doing so be swept away myself for the rest of our lives. She leaves me speechless often. Sometimes with a look, a smile. Most men would label her: beautiful. But she is so much more. Her mind absolutely fascinates me. She is more than I could ever have dreamed possible. I could never grow tired of listening to her speak. Everything about her is right for me. "Take my breath away" becomes a reality whenever I see her. My emotions were stirred today like never in my life. Never have I experienced such an intimate moment as a long drawn out hug from her today. Never has my heart been moved in this way. Never have I felt this way. In her presence, life is more precious, every moment is experienced, remembered. I could effortlessly spend eternity with this woman and never tire. I could happily spend the remainder of my lifetime lost in her eyes. I would hold and cherish her till the day I die. I know it as certain as I am about anything and every truth that exists But no matter what happens, someday I will be old and grey and when I look back on the life I lived, I know that this woman was, is, and will forever be, the true love of my life and my breath till the day I die. There will never be another. We look perfect together, we compliment each other. (Her words, in a text and good thing as reading those words lit me up and I was probably grinning like a fool. I know my heart skipped many beats and pounding to catch up.). I sure hope she sees the good in me. Oh man!

OP posts:
annielouise · 07/10/2017 12:25

"she paged through me like an open book". Can you hear yourself, reflected in our responses to you? How you sound? And you're 45. Someone mentioned limerence upthread. I think you're probably married and bored with that and are seeking some thrills. A middle age crisis, in other words. I think she's bored too, enjoying the attention and the feeling of being desired, but does she really feel the same?

CaptainsCat · 07/10/2017 12:26

Touché, Corlan, touché!

annielouise · 07/10/2017 12:27

I think he was expecting "go for it", "you're so lucky to find 'the one'" etc. Asking for acceptance/permission in other words for possibly breaking up two marriages, possibly with kids involved too.

SonicBoomBoom · 07/10/2017 12:31

So what's the story then OP.

Lexieblue · 07/10/2017 12:38

Please don't show her that post. Just don't.

Finola1step · 07/10/2017 12:46

Can't comment until OP clarifiesthe current relationship status of both.

ItsAGThing · 07/10/2017 13:04

Maybe it would have been better to just say "I think she'll do" while scratching my crack. Seeing all the negatives. Hell no! I don't talk or talk to her like that. I told her she is sexy as hell. An open book for her to page through ain't no romance novel. It is profound finding myself comfortably open no matter the subject. I did not have that in my marriage. My ex wife was not a communicator. Sure we talked about fluff, but nothing deep. Suffered tragedy with the loss of our teenage son and I shutdown completely. He was what held us together and we both fell apart. A couple years before we completely stopped needing each other. I've never had such a connection as the one I have now. Outside I am relaxed & carefree. (Not a romance writer:). Inside I marvel. Finding someone to communicate with on any level is a comfort I've never felt. Love the fact that I know she will never be nodding her head in agreement with what I'm saying simply because she has no clue what I'm talking about. She is sharp. Keeps me on my toes. Matching wits with her... is an enjoyable challenge. The opening heart shout? That was spontaneous attempt to try to convey something a feeling I've found that is not quantifiable. I don't believe many people ever find. I was not even looking, furthest thing from my mind and how surprising when life throws you a gift.

She was married for 12 years with 10 year old daughter. Spent last couple years of marriage battling cancer. Sheit got real and she found herself making her own funeral arrangements at the same time she finds her husband is having multiple affairs. She is a fighter and gods grace she won and then they were done.

We've both suffered. Both strong independent. She's not sitting by the phone waiting for my call she's out living life, doing something she enjoys and is passionate about. And so am I. No I haven't said any of that stuff... but I know she can see it in my eyes.

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ItsAGThing · 07/10/2017 13:16

When parting ways yesterday, the hug she gave me.. it went on for 5 minutes. We couldn't let go, standing there swaying. It took effort for both of us to pull apart. Just a hug. But about as intimate a moment as I've ever had. I'm leaning towards her feelings headed in the right direction.

OP posts:
heateallthebuns · 07/10/2017 13:16

Happy for you, but still feels like seeing your parents snogging.

jeaux90 · 07/10/2017 13:35

Just spend time together and see where it goes. Try not to project into the future, just enjoy it.

I met my amazing OH 18 months ago I feel really lucky. I'm 46

Ellisandra · 07/10/2017 13:45

Right, OK... you're both single and you like each other right? So less posting shite about scratching your arse, and just ask her out?

ItsAGThing · 07/10/2017 13:48

Big shout out to Deadsouls & 0ccamsRazor. Thank you. There are a few believers out there. I wasn't one of them, but she's changed me.

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Ellisandra · 07/10/2017 13:49

Hmm it's not about being a "believer" it's about thinking you can just cut out a load of crap by just asking someone out.

CarpeVitam · 07/10/2017 13:49

Pass the sick bucket 😷

Allthelightsgoout · 07/10/2017 13:54

MDMA is a hell of a drug.

ItsAGThing · 07/10/2017 14:08

We do go out. Went to rock concert month ago. A few couple hour walks. Took her golfing for her first time ever when she asked if I would, to which I was actually not looking forward to. Like 2-1/2 hours to get through 9 holes on the shortest little par 31 course I could find but our faces were sore from too much laughter. Talk or text some daily. Find a way to run into each other every other week, though we made time 3 days this week. We both run our own businesses. I juggle 17 employees and her almost half as many. We live 405 minute drive apart. Life is hectic in both our worlds. We have not kissed yet. Very soon. I'm just not the type who sees it as a goal to head straight for. Been with 3 woman in my life, though I coulda been with as many as I wanted. I'm a very attractive guy. Woman flirt with me often. I'm just not wired to like most. Running around like a buck in rut.

OP posts:
Dahlietta · 07/10/2017 14:08

I thought Barbara Cartland was dead?

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annielouise · 07/10/2017 14:12

oh bloody hell, haha, the intensity of you. I'd run a mile. Why are you posting about it? What do you want?

NotInMyBackYard1 · 07/10/2017 14:16

i'm a very attractive guy
You forgot to mention modest too Hmm

Allthelightsgoout · 07/10/2017 14:17

Did you want all us women to swoon over your romance? Or did you just want to tell us you're a 'very attractive' guy?

HostaFireAndIce · 07/10/2017 14:18

I coulda been with as many as I wanted. I'm a very attractive guy. Woman flirt with me often.

Oh, OP, I was so enjoying your little daydream until I got to this bit. Now you've gone and ruined it. Angry

Ellisandra · 07/10/2017 14:18

You weren't looking forward to going to the golf course together?
Why ever not?
I thought she was perfect?

annielouise · 07/10/2017 14:18

Why do you need to mention I juggle "17" employees? As in "ooh, look at me, I have 17 employees, aren't I great". You sound so full of yourself. Such a turn-off. She's flattered more than anything by the sounds of it, unless she's acting and saying the same stuff as you, which I think you'd have mentioned. You sound insecure. Urghh. The bit about "'I think she'll do', while scratching my crack" makes you sound petulant and unpleasant.

Allthelightsgoout · 07/10/2017 14:20

I'd have thought one of you was about to collapse and the other holding them up if I'd seen you hugging and swaying for 5 minutes.

HostaFireAndIce · 07/10/2017 14:21

Why do you need to mention I juggle "17" employees?

Yes, that bit tickled me, especially "her almost half as many". You mean 8, don't you?