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SHIT- I think I need to cancel my wedding

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pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:30

DP has told me that he would like to wear this on our wedding day.

At first I thought he was joking, but now I think he is serious. I just don't know how to go about cancelling. Telling DP will be hard enough - but what about all the family and friends. I am so embaressed and feel like such a fool.

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NutterlyUts · 08/04/2007 20:31

PregnantGrrrl · 08/04/2007 20:31

is it the same one you wanted? how selfish!

tortoise · 08/04/2007 20:31

misdee · 08/04/2007 20:31

will he look better than you?

SugaryBits · 08/04/2007 20:31

It's a beautiful dress.

jalopy · 08/04/2007 20:31

bristols · 08/04/2007 20:32

What's he trying to tell you? He cross dresses? He's transsexual? He's gay?

Carmenere · 08/04/2007 20:32

Best thing to do as you are obviously very narrow-minded.

princesscc · 08/04/2007 20:32

Are you sure he's not winding you up? Surely you've been together long enough to know if this was on the cards. Think you need to talk first!

PinkTulips · 08/04/2007 20:32

trip trap

bristols · 08/04/2007 20:32

Have you posted the wrong link??

PregnantGrrrl · 08/04/2007 20:33

at least he wants to look nice- i had to beg DP to agree to a suit and proper shoes!

jamieboo · 08/04/2007 20:33

im confused!

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pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:34

It is a beutiful dress - not one I would chose personally - but it is designed for a woman.

I am not sure what he is trying to tell me - which is what worrys me. I just can't face anyone in RL at teh moment. I just can't bare to tell people that I have fallen love with someone that likes cross dressing - at best. What if it goes deeper than that?

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NutterlyUts · 08/04/2007 20:35

Surely if you love someone, what they chose to wear, be it in public or private is irrelevent?

ScoobyDooooo · 08/04/2007 20:37

monkeytrousers · 08/04/2007 20:37

How long have you known him? Have you ever had sex with him?

PinkTulips · 08/04/2007 20:37

you expect us to believe that not only are you marrying someone you know nothing about but that someone is choosing to come out as a cross dresser at his own wedding?

monkeytrousers · 08/04/2007 20:39

I think a man wearing a wedding dress, and using their wedding day to announce his proclivites is very selfish actually! I'd cancel because of that never mind the cross dressing.

If you are genuine, I'm sorry, but this is hilarious!

fuzzywuzzy · 08/04/2007 20:40

Does he not have the figure for the outfit, I mean if his upper arms are nice and toned and mebbe get him to wax his arms I'm sure he'll look fabulous, or is that the problem, you don't want him to look more fabulous than you???

Sooo up till this point you didn't know he was into ladies clothes, and now he is outing himself in a very spectacular public fashion

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pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:42

God - I couldn't even have him cross dressing in our own home - let alone in public.

Yes we have had sex - we have DC

I am not worried about the cost implications of cancelling hte wedding - more the embaressment of having to explain we have cancelled.

I could at a push go half way and let him wear a kilt (despite not being Scottish). But that still won't change his inner desires will it?

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mousiemousie · 08/04/2007 20:42

Would it be better in ivory rather than white?

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pasteur · 08/04/2007 20:43

Never had an idea he was into cross dressing. He did wear my underwear (clean) on his head once - but that is all I am aware of.

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monkeytrousers · 08/04/2007 20:44

But could you have a cross dresser as a husband? I couldn't. A friend, but not a husband.

NutterlyUts · 08/04/2007 20:45

I have to say I am not seeing the problem here. Sure, if he insists on wearing a dress to the wedding them hmm, but having a cross dressing hubby isn't the end of the world surely? You have kids together, but you're saying you'll throw that all away because of what he does or doesn't dress like?

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